Sez Kristiansen

'Unpack your bags and plant your trees' in every moment you find yourself seeking belonging from the outside world. You belong - but not to your family name, your country or your home - to yourself. Listen to this healing poem to help you settle your nomadic heart in the morning or whenever you feel ungrounded in this life. I hope it serves you in becoming just a little more present and centered. Thank you sincerely for sharing, commenting or simply just being here today. Sez
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We have all been touched by the words, acts. and art of those who have long passed. But something we might not have thought about is what we can do *right now* to benefit the life of someone we will never meet. Social media is immortalizing our lives, our words, and who we were - what do our feeds speak to? How do we extend our own hearts beyond the fragility of our form and how would we live differently if everything we did was a seed for a future lost soul? Thank you for listening, sharing, or simply being present with these words! Sez
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Our greatest regret in life is most likely going to be that we never made our lives our own: that we lived according to what others expected of us and never walked off into the wild unknown to find what authenticity tasted like.

We have wounds created by contorting our bodies, our lives, and our work into shapes that are not truly our own. 

And so we walk, often until our last breath, in lives not big enough, not nourishing enough, not free enough… 

And so we come to believe that it is US that is not enough, not the lives we’ve tried to shoehorn ourselves into.

 
Acts of the untamed 

to reclaim our autonomy 

are brave and bold

and should only be attempted

by those who are willing

to swim against the current

and face possibly even more resistance

before they break open into the free.

But the more you reclaim those parts of you that were exchanged under domestication, the more this wound will become a salvation, a guidance, a way of living… 

Wounds are puzzle pieces longing for your wild to fit into them - and make whole what feels most ruptured.

Because the wound needs what it needs.

The heart needs what it needs.

You need what you need.

Never shed your fur for anyone. 

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QUESTIONS YOU MAY WISH TO ASK YOURSELF:

Where have you told yourself, it's ok -

I don’t need what I need - I’ll be ok with a substitute?

Where have you had to give up a fundamental piece of yourself and called it love? 

Where have you tried to be good - the good parent, the good partner, the good worker, the good seeker… 

Where has ‘being good’ become detrimental to your soul?

what is the shape of your wound? And what does it require of you?

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All your limiting beliefs protect vulnerable pieces of you that have been hurt in the past. 

 Healing trauma and the stories we create to protect ourselves - is about feeling safe enough so we can be present with the wound. Presence unfurls the child, the truth and the origin of all protective beliefs. Disarming each tender ache begins by creating a safe space where we can see who are the guests of this body and who is left when all of them have gone. 

You are ultimately beyond your story, beyond your fears, and capable of using the wisdom of your wounds to set you free. 

 You don’t need to live in perpetual protection, gathering more experiences, more stories to strengthen the validation you have against your wholeness because you were never broken to begin with…just vulnerable. And that vulnerability needs to be embodied again to fully dismantle the density of what protects you. It’s a hero’s journey to free yourself, to re-story your pain and return home again to your body, wiser for the journey. But we are all in it together, we are all learning to walk this path without the overbearing bodyguards that are our black bears.

Thank you for being here with me. Your time is so valuable so thank you for spending some of it in this space today.

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What if we saw all our unwanted situations, emotions, and circumstances this way? What if we could climb through the secret window of our own lives and deal with difficulties from a more calm, grounded, and peaceful room in our minds? Would we not then be able to invite each demanding emotion, each pending responsibility, each expectant relationship in our life to sit with us for a moment?

Rather than feel overwhelmed by the noise coming from outside of us, we could prepare ourselves a little every day to meet with those demands - and one by one, listen and tend to them as an individual. I believe all pain, challenges, and losses wish to be met by the fireside of Love - it is your warmth they are after. And that doesn't mean you set up a spare room for them to stay as long as they like - remember it's your home, your body, your heart, your mind - but if they are welcomed, they will not break your doors down ;)

You don’t have to walk back into your life

through the front door.

You can slip through the hedge

and climb up the ivy

that has overgrown the small

window around the back.

It’s always ajar -

cracked open to let the light in

and to allow the damp darkness

to find its way out.

You can crawl between the paint-flecked panes

and let yourself into your own home

while the guests and visitors clamber against your door;

their needs and pains

splintering timber with their weight.

And when you have found yourself

a place upon the floorboards

that is quiet and still -

you can take off your shoes

and have your tea,

and rest for a while.

And only when you are ready -

can you invite each guest,

each responsibility,

each seeker of your attention,

to sit beside you.

And one by one,

they can drink their tea

and spill their words in your company.

And one by one,

you can offer them time

to be seen and heard and felt.

And one by one,

they can leave again

knowing that they are not

the owner of this home

but merely a seeker of its warmth.

You do not need to let them all in,

nor fight your way through -

you can take your time,

you can bare your feet,

you can drink your tea

and only when you feel ready -

is each allowed a moment of your time.

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That's this week's goal anyway :) 

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We have come to misunderstand 

the narrative of our emotions. 

We believe they say something 

about our lack, whereas they 

speak honestly and with candor 

of our completeness.
 
 We have confused emotional pain 

with unworthiness and it 

splinters us off from the value 

of our own guidance system.

 
 Feeling loneliness doesn’t mean 

you don’t belong - loneliness asks you 

to deepen your relationship with 

everything you come into contact with.
 
 Feeling anxiety doesn’t mean 

you are not in control - anxiety asks you 

to return to your body and 

deeply ground yourself in it.

 
 Feeling envy doesn’t mean 

you are unworthy of what 

someone else has - envy tells you that 

you are resonating with the manifestation 

of what your heart is guiding you towards.
 
 You are whole. Not in spite of your painful emotions – 

but very much BECAUSE of them.

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• You can also find supportive courses on my website or grab a book for your journey onwards on Amazon.  ✨

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The difficulty you're facing right now can either be accepted or it can be allowed. One will leave you overwhelmed and unable to move from the foothills - while the other will help you climb this mountain with grace.

When you accept difficulties in your life, you tell yourself that there’s an unwanted external presence forcing itself upon you without your consent. This belief then contorts the body into defensive postures, using all of its energy to protect you against perceived threats. 

What is ‘unwanted' or 'undesirable' causes us emotional and psychological stress – which translates into toughened, inflexible, and protective bodies. 

This means that our biography really does become our biology.

But what if we choose to allow instead?

We can allow this difficult moment or emotion to be as it is. It has a right to be here, to teach us what we need to know in order to grow fuller. It might still hurt – but we can allow it our breath and presence. We can allow it to show us its roots so that we can better understand its reason for being here. We can allow ourselves to feel this hurt without needing to fix it. We can allow ourselves to grow softer in its company.  

Unwanted guests really are the best teachers.

If we accepted an unwanted guest in our house, we would have little power to make them leave. We would just accept their presence and try to avoid them as best as possible. We might as well accept what we can't change, right?

But if we allowed them to be here...if we invited them to cross the threshold with permission - we could then ask them for a lesson in return. We could create boundaries for them.  And because of this empowered mindset, we would then be able to ask them to leave when it was time. 

We can accept the lack of control we currently have – or we can allow this lack of control to show us how to surrender to the greater vision Love has for our life.

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You need what you need. 

It’s not a matter of worthiness but of giving your body, heart & soul what it needs to stay alive, to stay open, to stay whole.

In fact, the less you excuse your needs, the more you will find yourself.

And once you have created the right environment for who you are - wherever you are right now - you will begin to bloom in ways unfamiliar. 

A flower will sprout here, a wound will heal there, a friend will take root over there…all because your energy is not spent fighting or defending your body from your environment.

Never feel shame for the dreams you have, no matter how bold nor how humble they may be. All your desires and needs make you who you are and how your spirit wanted to experience this life. 

What environment do you crave today that will help disarm your mind, nourish your soul and mend your heart? 

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You might not be able to see the purpose of everything right now. 

And it makes being in this space very dark and unsettling. But if you can create a relationship with one small part of your life - one little object, one simple practice, one small piece of your garden - then, when you step back from your life you will be able to see everything is connected and deeply purposeful.

Just as if you spent time studying the details of a small leaf with only your fingertips, so too would you be able to step back and look at the entire forest to see thousands of leaves with the same intimate qualities.

An intimate and tender relationship with the small will allow you to see the great in everything.

Sometimes just looking at your life with only your eyes can leave you feeling empty and separate from it. Whereas kneeling down and getting into the soil and studying the details of just one beautiful thing in it - can suddenly connect you to something far greater than you ever expected. 

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• You can also find supportive courses on my website or grab a book for your journey onwards on Amazon.  ✨