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Happy New Year Sister-Friend 👋🏽

I hope you had a blessed Christmas week and managed to strike the balance between rest and fun. I had a lovely holiday; I spent time with my favourite people and doing my favourite activities, which included cozying up in front of the fireplace and watching reruns of my favourite Christmas movies. I did have a good balance between socializing and sleeping, and I am blessed to be here with you, starting the new year off together.

The new year is a time when people tend to make resolutions for what they want to do, and as you think about what’s next, you might have some disappointment around things you did not accomplish in 2023.

Having unmet goals does not feel good; depending on the trauma history, it can cause you to feel like a failure or affect your self-esteem and your outlook on life. When the self-esteem begins to wane, it impacts how you show up in different areas of life. Then the internal conversation starts, those little mental gremlins that quickly suggest you are not good enough, or not trying hard enough, or you will never get to where you want to go.

In this episode, we’ll explore three steps to deal with that disappointment and in the next episode we will look at strategies to ensure 2024 is better for you.

I hope this episode supports you.

Blessings and Love 😊

Jenniel

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Happy Holidays, Seasons Greetings, Merry Christmas, sister friend 👋🏽

Different people have different responses and experiences regarding the holidays, and whatever is going on for you, I hope you are finding space to enjoy the essence of the season.

Today I’ll be talking about what the essence of Christmas means from the perspective of Trauma. 

We’ll explore how Jesus himself experienced various forms of trauma and how he overcame them, providing hope and understanding for those of us who have faced childhood trauma.

If you’ve experienced physical, verbal, social, emotional, sexual abuse or trauma, we’ll look at the fact that Jesus knows exactly what you are going through and why his birth, life, death and resurrection offer everything you need to move from trauma to triumph.

I hope this episode encourages you.

Blessings and Love 😊

Jenniel

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Seasons Greetings, Sister-friend 👋🏽

Christmas is one week away, and some of you may be excited for the holidays, as you look forward to reconnecting and spending time with loved ones.

Some of you may be just a little bit anxious about the thought of being in the same space as certain relatives. Sure, you love your people, but let’s face it, families can be complicated.

There may have been past hurt, unresolved dramas and traumas that are causing you to worry about getting through the upcoming family events while staying emotionally stable.

Today, I want to share some tips you can use if you are concerned about being triggered this holiday season at family events.

You will walk away with a plan you can implement and execute this season and beyond to deal with any social setting.

I hope you find this episode supportive.

Blessings and Love 😊

Jenniel

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Hey, Sister-friend 👋🏽 

The Christmas season is here, and it's traditionally a time of giving. People go all out to gift items to friends and loved ones and sometimes themselves.

Picture this, It's Christmas morning, and you've got a beautifully wrapped gift sitting under the tree. Your name is on it, and even though you gifted it to yourself, you are still so excited about it. You carefully unwrap it, and what do you find? A gift tag that reads "Forgiveness."

That's right, forgiveness is one of the most precious gifts you can give to yourself.

Today we will explore the benefits of forgiveness, what it actually means to forgive and how you can take steps to gift it to yourself. Forgiveness is not about erasing the past but about releasing the power it holds over you, and it's a gift that keeps on giving throughout your life.

When you choose to forgive, you're choosing to breathe fresh air, and you begin to experience a profound sense of inner peace and joy. It's like a weight being lifted from your heart, making room for love, grace, and joy to flood in.

As you forgive, you'll notice a shift in your relationships with others. The walls you've built to protect yourself start to crumble, and you discover that you're more open, more empathetic, and more capable of loving and being loved.

Remember, you're not alone on this journey. We're in this together, sister-friends!

I hope this episode blesses you.

Blessings and Love 😊

Jenniel

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Hey, Sister-friend 👋🏽

Today we’re diving into a topic that's important and highly relevant for many trauma survivors. We will shine a light on trauma dumping, what is it, why it happens, how to know if you are doing it, how to respond if it is happening to you, and how to be more mindful about our interactions in personal relationships.

Let's dive into this topic with grace, love, and an open heart.

I hope this episode blesses you.

Blessings and Love😊

Jenniel

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Welcome back Sister-friend 👋🏽

Loneliness is on the rise, and in some countries like the UK, it is considered an epidemic, so much so that the UK Government appointed a Secretary of Loneliness to address this concern.

In addition, during the pandemic, we saw a rise in loneliness as people were isolated and socially disconnected from friends, family and community. There used to be a stigma attached to loneliness, but now people are more comfortable talking about it.

As the holidays approach, there is likely to be an increase in feelings of loneliness, and today, we’ll look at 5 ways you can prepare for the holidays so that you can manage these feelings and navigate the season healthily.

Blessings and Love😊

Jenniel

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Wat is the difference between hypervigilance and discernment?

Most trauma survivors developed hypervigilance as a way of keeping safe. The traumatized brain is always on the lookout for people or things that may pose a threat to well-being. Hypervigilance is fear-based, and stems from the idea that people may not be who they seem or they may hurt you in some way.

Christian women who faced childhood trauma still long to feel safe, and part of the healing journey entails turning fear-based hypervigilance into careful and steady discernment. 

Hypervigilance may have helped you stay safe at one point in your life, but constantly living in fear of people and how they can hurt you, in fear because of past perceived threats, takes its toll on the body, mind and nervous system over time.

Today, we will look at how you can shift from hypervigilance and develop discernment to get the direction you need while staying in a state of calm assurance.

Blessings and love 😀

Jenniel

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Hey Sister-Friend 👋🏽

Welcome to another episode.

For many trauma survivors, the inability to trust is a genuine concern, as their trauma has left them with unwanted trust issues. These trust issues impact how they interact with others; it often keeps them from reaching out for help and support because they are afraid to trust others and risk getting hurt again, or being judged, or rejected.

When someone experiences situations that cause them fear, distress, or hopelessness, primarily as children in their close relationships, it affects their ability to identify and experience what is safe. This leaves the person unable to trust others and sometimes even themselves. A big part of trauma healing requires safety and trust in relationships, and today, I want to address what you can do to develop trust in God first as the ultimate source of safety, comfort and holistic healing.

This episode will cover 3 steps you can take to develop trust in God. Once you do, you can begin to experience relational safety, discernment and courage to reach out on a human level for the trauma-healing support you need.

Blessings and love 

Jenniel 😀

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Welcome back Sister-Friend,

Today, we continue to look at how to address negative thinking. If you haven’t listened to episode 16 – Struggling with Negative Thoughts,” pause here and go back to that one because you’ll need that foundation in order to get the most out of today’s episode.

We’ll look at a standard and a low-energy strategy for addressing the negative thoughts.

It takes time and energy to address and replace the pattern of negative thinking, but the more you practice and apply the strategies, the more automatic and easier it becomes because not only would it be a habit, but there would be a new neural pathway created to deal with the thoughts in a more supportive way.

Think of what you will do and how you can think when you are not constantly replaying or fighting negative thoughts. Would you get more creative, laugh more, have more compassion and more peace, start new hobbies, develop deeper friendships, and hear God more clearly?

The benefits of addressing negative thoughts are endless.

Blessings and Love

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Hey Sister-Friend,

Dealing with negative thoughts is draining. It feels like it is a never-ending process that steals your peace. All you want to do is go about your day, see the beauty in life and enjoy day-to-day moments, but negative thoughts keep interrupting your flow, and before you know it, your mood changes, and you’re in a funk. What do you do when this happens?

Over the next two episodes, we’ll talk about the first thing you need to do when you want to catch and replace those negative thoughts so you can take back your mind and begin enjoying life a bit more.

Blessings and Love

Jenniel :-)

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