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Joel Wong is a tenured Professor in the Counseling and Counseling Psychology Programs at Indiana University. His research interests are in positive psychology, Asian/Asian American mental health (especially suicide-related outcomes), and the psychology of men and masculinities.

To start the conversation Josh asks about Professor Wong's background and areas of study before Casey brings up his first area which is Gratitude. There, Casey and Professor Wong discuss his theory the Catalyst Model of Change which explains how you can improve your gratitude practices and the effect that could have on your well-being. Next, the guys discuss overall best practices for gratitude before Josh asks if gratitude was practiced more in the past.

Moving on Casey asks how practicing gratitude could improve your relationships with others before Josh asks how to gain perspective in order to increase your gratitude. Switching gears Casey brings up the Professor's second area of study which is Asian-American suicide where they discuss the potential causes of the issue.

Next, Josh asks about how big the stigma is of discussing mental health among men in the Asian-American community before asking about any advice the Professor has for Asian-American young men to improve their mental health, and the differences between Asian countries. Moving on to the final topic of masculinity Casey asks about the pressure men face to be masculine today before Josh asks how masculinity developed through evolution.

To wrap up the guys discuss the changes in masculinity through the past and what it may look like in the future before asking Professor Wong about what areas need more research in the world of masculinity.

Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
0:48 - Professor Wong's background
1:34 - The Catalyst Model of Change for Gratitude
3:35 - How to improve your gratitude practice
6:40 - Is gratitude a lost art?
9:28 - Can gratitude help your social life?
13:10 - How perspective affects gratitude
18:38 - Causes of Suicide in Asian-American young men
22:29 - Mental health stigma in Asian-American men
24:04 - Advice to Asian-American young men
27:00 - Differences between Asian countries
29:30 - The pressure to be masculine today
31:30 - How did masculinity develop?
35:30 - Do the Professor's students ask him for advice?
37:33 - How masculinity has changed in the last 50 years
40:38 - The future of masculinity
43:40 - What research do we need on masculinity

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Every man experiences rejection, but we often feel unequipped to handle it. So today, Josh and Casey break down why young men experience rejection as well as how to overcome the negative thoughts and feelings associated with it. To start off, the guys discuss their initial thoughts on rejection as well as the most common situations where young men experience it today. Next, they both tell some personal stories involving rejection before breaking down how common rejection is in dating and the job market. Getting into the meat of the conversation, Casey goes into the psychology of why we hate feeling rejected. This includes some evolutionary principles, which causes Josh to mention how guys handle rejection differently. To wrap up, the guys get into some solutions for overcoming rejection properly.

Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
1:10 - First thoughts on rejection
2:50 - Types of rejection young guys experience
8:29 - Casey shares his rejection experiences
15:00 - Josh shares his rejection experiences
23:58 - Statistics on dating rejections
25:18 - Dating tendencies among women
27:00 - Statistics on job rejections
30:02 - Psychology behind hating rejection
34:50 - How to handle rejection

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Dr. Debby Herbenick is an internationally recognized sexual and reproductive health professor, researcher, and educator. She is a tenured professor at the Indiana University School of Public Health and director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion. Debby has 190+ scientific publications, and for more than 20 years, she has dedicated her efforts to understanding how people experience their bodies and sexual lives.

To start things off, Josh recalls a time in Dr. Herbenick's class before asking about her background. Next, the guys delve into some of her research on the increase in aggressive sex such as choking and the societal causes behind it. Moving on, Casey asks about a study, Dr. Herbenick was part of, on the severe increase in sexlessness amongst young men. Josh asks if movies and culture have changed the expectations placed on men.

Continuing forward, the guys get Dr. Herbenick's input on dating apps as well as helping women have good experiences in the bedroom. To wrap up, Josh asks about Polyamory, and Casey mentions Dr. Herbenick's new book coming out. It is intended for helping parents communicate with their teens about sex. See the links below to order it.

Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
1:10 - Josh's experience in Dr. Herbenick's class
3:10 - Dr. Herbenick's background
6:15 - Recent increase in aggressive sex
8:41 - Societal causes of sexual aggression
14:27 - What has porn's impact been?
20:10 - Decline in sexual frequency
29:30 - Film/movies increasing expectations of men
33:15 - Dr.Herbenick's research on dating apps
38:09 - How guys can help women have good sex
41:52 - Polyamory
44:24 - Dr. Herbenick's new book
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Former pornstar and family therapist, Nikki Dial, joins the show to discuss the problem with porn and the impact it is having on young men's mental health. She was one of the most popular adult cinema icons of the 1990's and appeared in over 70 explicit films. She also served as a family therapist with a speciality in drug and alcohol addiction. Her unique qualifications make her a perfect candidate to enlighten us all on today's topic.

To start, Nikki explains how she got in/out of the industry as well as her background in therapy before the guys jump in and ask about porn's effect on young men overall. Moving on, Casey asks if there's a way men can consume porn in a healthy manner before getting into some statistics. Josh asks about religious men watching porn and much more.

Next, the guys inquire about Nikki's current career before discussing expectations caused by porn including the age-old questions on size, duration, and if men can be friends with attractive women. To wrap up, Josh asks about porn's effect on women before Casey brings up the future of the adult entertainment industry including Nikki's thoughts on OnlyFans.

Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
0:45 - Nikki's background
2:17 - Her family therapy experience
4:55 - The transition of porn from 90's to today
9:07 - How Nikki got out of porn
10:40 - Porn's effect on young men
16:00 - Why there are more single men
17:40 - Porn's effect on relationships
19:44 - Where should young men learn sex
22:30 - Can men consume porn healthily?
23:30 - Age restrictions
24:46 - Handling kids watching porn
26:03 - Religious men addicted to porn
27:15 - Size of porn industry
28:19 - Nikki's current career
29:35 - Expectations caused by porn
30:13 - Does size matter?
33:55 - Can guys be friends with hot women?
34:50 - Does sex need to be long?
36:55 - Mitigating porn addiction
38:25 - Porn's effect on Women
39:36 - Future of adult entertainment
41:38 - Nikki's thoughts on OnlyFans
42:30 - Nikki's voiceover work

Nikki's Links:
Twitter: @TheNikkiDial

IG: @nikkidialofficial

Onlyfans: @theofficialnikkidial

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Josh and Casey are joined by licensed clinical professional counselor, David Gray. Starting off, the guys ask David about his practice before discussing the reality of the current stresses and pressure young men are facing, especially in comparison to the old generations. They discuss things such as employment and social media. Next, Josh asks about neurodivergence issues like Asperger's and how it can greatly hinder young men's social lives. A question is posed of whether or not there is an over diagnosis issue happening which, causes Casey to bring up the use of Xanax and Adderall in young men. Moving on, Josh brings up the new studies debunking serotonin's link to depression including SSRI's before Casey asks David's opinion on psychedelic therapy. To wrap up, the guys discuss hypnotherapy, how David responds to critics of therapy and his own personal use of an outside therapist. 

Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
0:47 - Reasons why young men see David
2:35 - Average patient load
4:17 - Pressures on becoming an adult
6:30 - Is current stress more internally or externally caused
9:42 - The struggles of new vs. old generations
14:18 - Employment causing stress
17:00 - The effect of social media/influencers
20:15 - Neurodivergence
28:20 - Overprescription of Xanax/Adderall
31:19 - Is depression related to serotonin?
34:24 - Variability of depression solutions
37:35 - Psychedelic therapy
42:06 - Stigma of psychedelics in therapy
44:20 - David's response to doubts in therapy
51:30 - Hypnotherapy
55:05 - David's use of a therapist

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The Illinois Cure Act - CLICK HERE
Gray Matter Therapy - CLICK HERE

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Young men's confidence levels are at an all time low. Can it be fixed? Do we inherit our confidence or is it bred? Josh and Casey want to help. On today's episode, that's exactly what they try to unravel. To start the guys' give their initial takes on the question as well as some personal examples before going into the definition/signs of male confidence. Moving on to some statistics Casey brings up two studies supporting each side of the argument before Josh asks about their personal confidence levels. Next the guys' discuss how to spot inauthentic confidence before moving into some solutions which start out by looking at the comparison game and having a support network. To conclude, Josh and Casey finish up their solutions list by discussing words of affirmation, facing your fears, finding your strengths, and goal setting.

Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
1:20 - Our first takes on the question with examples
8:10 - Confidence categories
11:20 - Signs of male confidence
12:55 - Studies on the nature of confidence
17:20 - Our relationships with confidence
22:10 - Inauthentic vs. authentic confidence
26:45 - Stop the comparison game
29:55 - Have a supportive social circle
31:27 - Be the best version of yourself
33:50 - Words of affirmation
36:15 - Does confidence carry on to sports?
38:15 - Facing your fears/being open to failure
40:50 - Find your strengths and preferences
42:00 - Setting realistic goals

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Insecurity plagues us all. However, young men seem to always be most anxious about their size. And by size, we mean the big 3: height, muscularity, and penis size. Josh and Casey do a deep dive into the obsession surrounding size from bigorexia to the quest to be taller. They start by breaking down why people commonly experience these insecurities including our own personal stories. Next, the guys break down porn and gym addictions before commenting on the gigachad phenomenon. Moving on, statistics on endowment, body image, and height are discussed as well how important height is in the dating game. Moving into some solutions Casey mentions the importance of believing in yourself which causes Josh to bring up having realistic expectations. Finally the guys discuss staying off social media/dating apps as well as the pros and cons of plastic surgery.

Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
1:00 - Most common size insecurities
4:40 - Our personal size insecurities
11:30 - Porn's distortion of mental health
12:40 - The gym addiction culture
14:06 - The gigachad meme
16:35 - Statistics on 'endowment' satisfaction
19:52 - Statistics on body image satisfaction
22:57 - Statistics/commentary on height and attraction
35:20 - How guys can overcome their height
37:50 - Believing in yourself/managing expectations
39:50 - Staying off social media/dating apps
41:00 - Focus on what you can control
42:13 - The pros/cons of surgery

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More young men are living at home than ever before! What is going on? Josh and Casey try to uncover the mystery. To start Josh describes his experience living at home and trying to move out before the guys discuss why living with family can be difficult and cause you to make unnecessary comparisons which can hurt your mental health. Next Casey brings up some statistics on the percentages of young people living at home over time as well as the difference in numbers between men and women. This sparks a discussion on COVID's effect on these numbers as well as how it affected their generation overall. Moving forward the guys discuss more societal and economic factors contributing to the trend including the change in living with partners vs. parents. Wrapping it up with some solutions as always, the guys discuss finding a path out of the home, finding cheaper housing, and reframing your mindset of living at home.

Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
3:30 - Josh's experience living at home
5:10 - Being okay with living at home
6:55 - How living with family can be difficult
9:40 - Why comparisons can hurt you
11:50 - Statistics on young people living at home
17:00 - COVID's effect on moving home
21:55 - Societal/economic factors that contribute
32:35 - Flip of living with partners vs. parents
34:00 - Finding a path out of the house
38:45 - Moving to a cheaper area/having roommates
42:00 - Reframing your mindset of living at home


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Alexander Kiseloff is a Master's Level Clinician specializing in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy with a particular emphasis on substance abuse. To start off, Alexander describes both his background and his clientele's before getting into the most common addictions he sees in young men. This leads to a conversation on harder vs. softer drugs, if gateways exist, and if full legalization is a viable option. Moving on, Casey asks about the societal issues that Alexander sees causing addictions in young men as well as how managing dopamine is the common factor. Next, the guys ask about Alexander's therapy sessions as well as how he uses his own journey of addiction in practice. Josh then asks about the stigma of young men getting mental health treatment as well as antidepressants. The guys finally wrap up with what treatment methods are the best, how young men can curb addiction outside of therapy, and finding what Alexander describes as the "zest" of life.

Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
0:45 - Alexander's background/expertise
2:01 - Client gender/age ratio
3:07 - Most common addictions in young men
7:42 - Differences in addictions to harder and softer drugs
11:00 - Are lighter drugs gateways to harder ones?
12:50 - Adderall use in young adults
14:00 - Full legalization of drugs
16:25 - Societal issues causing addiction in young men
20:10 - Managing dopamine release with therapy
22:15 - How Alexander runs his sessions
25:18 - Alexander's journey of recovery and his message
29:10 - The stigma of young men seeking help in the U.S. vs. Russia
32:50 - Alexander's use of antidepressants in practice
34:02 - Kratom/other "natural" drugs
35:30 - How Alexander gets/keeps young men off substances
38:05 - How to determine the best treatment
40:49 - EMDR/alternative therapies
43:44 - How guys can begin to curb addiction
45:25 - Finding the "zest" of life

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Ah FOMO, otherwise known as: Fear Of Missing Out. It is a common problem plaguing many young people today. This battle of obsession with what we aren't doing may be subconsciously affecting us. Josh and Casey help enlighten you on the issue and why it may have a more significant mental impact than you realize. First, the guys get into the origins and most common causes of FOMO, especially for young men. Next Casey reads off some statistics before Josh asks how they have personally experienced FOMO. Moving on to some psychology the guys discuss the mental causes and signs that you may be experiencing it. Moving onto solutions Josh and Casey discuss limiting your social media use, setting intentions, and how to enjoy your time either with friends or by yourself.

Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
1:28 - Origins of FOMO
2:20 - Most common causes of FOMO
6:00 - Why young people are specifically at risk
11:18 - Statistics on FOMO and social media
12:50 - Personal experiences with FOMO
19:30 - Psychological causes
26:40 - How to know when you have FOMO
30:00 - Putting limits on social media apps
32:55 - Setting intentions in life
35:03 - Gratitude journals
37:30 - The benefit of trying new things
40:20 - Spending time with friends/making plans
42:37 - JOMO - Joy of missing out

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