SKAB DEN GODE DAG

HOW TO BECOME SPECIFIC IN OUR WANTS.

''When you start saying what you really want, your mind automatically shifts to pull you in that direction. Give your vocabulary a positive makeover to speak your dreams into existence.''
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For those of you who have followed me for a while and who have read my posts with consistency, then you’ll know that I’m a big believer in the power of words - and therefore also a big believer of this quote. ⁣
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But sometimes, it can be difficult to narrow down what we really want (because there’s so many great opportunities out there) and therefore we get confused and loose direction along our way. ⁣
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If you know this feeling, then I have a really simple tool which is super effective and great in helping us become specific in our wants. Here it comes: ⁣
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1. Write down all the different things you want ⁣
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2. Organise them in a prioritised order ⁣
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3. Agree with yourself to only choose 10 of them in total ⁣
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4. Then agree with yourself to only choose five ⁣
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5. When you have your five wants on your list then do this: focus on one want at the time and compare it to each other want and ask yourself ‘which one do I want to keep on my list the most?’ ⁣
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6. Continue to do this with all of your wants⁣
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7. Until you have only one or two wants left⁣
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8. Now focus on them, and by a constant awareness apply them in your vocabulary on a daily basis. ⁣
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9. Also do some visualisations to make yourself believe in your own words and wants even more ⁣
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10. Wait and see. I’m convinced that you eventually will start to speak your dreams into existence⁣
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Once you’ve made a active decision on turning your want into a dream coming true, then your mind and your heart will help you find a way. Good luck! xx J ⁣
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@xxjasminsoe / www.xxjasminsoe.com

''How to step into your side hustle unafraid and with confidence.''

I guess half of this quote is not possible. I just read it on twitter, and it belongs to an article on Success.com. ⁣
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Well, the first thing that came to my mind is: everything which is important to you is one way or the other related to fear. Because of the emotional attachment to it. ⁣
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I know that some says (I think it’s in Buddhism?) that it’s actually possible and for the better to practise not being emotional attached to anything, but I don’t agree on that. I find that being emotional attached is part of being human. What makes everything worth it. ⁣
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So, my point here is: try to build some sort of friendship with your fear instead, and see it as a helper that tells you something is important for you once it arises. ⁣
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The second thing I thought was: the thing about confidence! Well, I find that confidence is something that you build over time, by getting yourself started - and watching/experiencing yourself getting the results wanted! Sometimes you can even build confidence just on trying. ⁣
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But the one thing that doesn’t build any confidence is: being too fearful to even start. Or too much of a perfectionist or whatever word you use to cover up for the fear. ⁣
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So please, you might as well reframe your relationship with fear (if it’s a fearful one!) and get yourself started, in order to even consider stepping into your side hustle. Good luck! xx J⁣
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AN INSIGHT ON: AUDIOBOOKS. ⁣

This evening I want to give you an insight: if you dream of becoming an author but has difficulties ⁣
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• signing with a publisher house ⁣
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• booking a meeting with a publisher house ⁣
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• getting started on the ‘getting signed with a publisher house’ process because of the amount of work you think you have to put into it ⁣
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• going for your dream because of the fear of rejection ⁣
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Then this is for you! ⁣
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Every 3 month I receive a statement on my book sale from my publisher house. And I can tell you this: audiobooks is thriving! ⁣
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Personally then I published by latest book as a hardcover, ebook and audiobook. ⁣
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My point here is: it is the easiest thing in the world to record an audiobook (unless you’re super pregnant like I was, swipe for picture). The process of doing that is almost only ⁣
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1. Book a studio⁣
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2. Press play, pause and stop ⁣
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3. Save your recording ⁣
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I had a company that edited mine together, but I’m sure you can do it yourself too. ⁣
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Being signed with a publisher house has a lot of good things about it when it comes to: getting your book in the shops (physical and online), on trade fairs, they have graphic designers to do the layout of your book and so on. BUT if you have a great audience yourself, can do some magic with the visual layout and hire someone to correct your gramma, then you’ll be fine. At least: think about it. ⁣
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Maybe push away the dream of publishing a hardcover book (for a while) and go for the audiobook instead. ❤️ xx J ⁣
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** DM/EMAIL me if you need help with making your dreams come true. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

@xxjasminsoe / www.xxjasminsoe.com

HOW TO TURN YOUR ROLE MODELS QUALITIES INTO YOUR BUSINESS QUALITIES. ⁣
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So I thought I wanted to share this picture with you guys.⁣
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This is not me in the picture, but there’s a good reason for me to share it (I think) and that’s because this one picture helped me to start my whole journey as a podcaster. ⁣
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As some of you have read in my former posts, then I went from 0 to 8.000 downloads within 24 hours and reached the number #1 on iTunes podcast hit list as the most popular podcast show and as the most popular episode - in my country, at the time! And it stayed like this for almost three weeks. So how did I achieve that? ⁣
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Well, I would love to share with you the exact steps on how I did that in a future post (because actually it was really simple and a tree step method. It’s true, I promise you, even though it seems too good to be true, I know...) ⁣
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Because in this post I’ll like to share another point with you which is: go and find your role models and then do this:⁣
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1. Copy what you like that they’re doing ⁣
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2. Turn it into your own thing/style/words and so on ⁣
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3. Continue to do number 1 and 2 ⁣
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I also did that with my podcast, even in the details! My introduction was almost the same as my own favourite podcast show, I build my structure (format) in the same way, I added the same colours in my podcast front cover picture/logo and so on. It’s so okay to copy, as long as you turn it into your own thing/style etc. afterwords. ⁣
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So please, go for it and take some time today to: do some research on who your role models are? Who makes you feel so inspired and who makes you feel so uplifted? ⁣
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A role model doesn’t have to be anyone famous, I can also be a friend, a family member or your mom? xx J⁣
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⁣⁣⁣⁣** DM/EMAIL me if you need help with making your dreams come true. ⁣⁣⁣

@xxjasminsoe / www.xxjasminsoe.com

“Your effort matters. Your dedication counts. It is all making a difference - even though you may not be able to see it quite yet.”

OMG, this is so important! It’s such wise words and I just love it! ⁣
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I think most often (or maybe I can only talk for myself) it can be so challenging to stay consistent with something (unless it’s a heart project or something you have tons of passion, time or money for) because it is pretty tuff sometimes, to continue to try making your dreams/dream come true, if you don’t receive any or even a bit of results/acknowledgement along the way. ⁣
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You might know the feeling and experience of: starting a blog, an Instagram account, a YouTube channel, a newsletter or so on - and no one really reply or should we say: you experience not really any response. ⁣
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And in times of no response it can be challenging to continue and stay consistent along the way because you might feel: ⁣
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1. No one responses anyway, so it might as well be a waste of my time or ⁣
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2. I feel so embarrassed an fearful, maybe everyone thinks my content really sucks 3. I’m a complete looser and I have no idea how to get leads/downloads/views/readers/subscribers and so many others are successful in this field - so why even try.⁣
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Well, stop yourself right there. ⁣
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I’ll really encourage you to find some people who you trust, or a group of people who you want to reach (a target group) buy them cake, make them tea and ask them to comment on all of your content (I know this can be scary) But who knows, you might as well find out people love what you do, but it only will be a question of time and therefore consistency for them (your dream audience) to open their eyes towards your journey/product/brand etc. ⁣
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So the point I’m trying to make here is: please follow your gut feeling, but also be smart about it. Seek critique (= how to become better), then adjust and then continue. ⁣
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As I said in the former post today, then you’ll never know who you inspire. ⁣
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So everything you’re putting in to your dream project/destination is not a waste of time. Just hang in there. xx J⁣
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@xxjasminsoe / www.xxjasminsoe.com

ON BRANDING. ⁣⁣⁣
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Hi everyone, so this evening I thought about sharing these exact thoughts with you on branding. ⁣⁣⁣
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Do you know the feeling of: ⁣⁣⁣
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• Trying to find out what works for your brand?⁣⁣⁣
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• Not being too happy about your current branding? ⁣⁣⁣
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• Really wanting to do better on branding, because you dream of growing your audience? ⁣⁣⁣
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Then: you’re totally not alone and I’ve just been through the exact same thing! ⁣⁣⁣
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Here’s a few things I did wrong: ⁣⁣⁣
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1. I didn’t do any research on my visual identity. Instead I just started posting randomly pictures on my IG ⁣⁣⁣
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2. I didn’t spend enough time researching on other people in my field, who’s doing what I dream of doing too⁣
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3. I was not aware of where my audience is? So I just kept posting hoping for them to find ME ⁣⁣⁣
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4. I posted a lot, but I didn’t have any vision or formula/strategy on my posting ⁣⁣⁣
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5. I didn’t do enough research on all the great apps that exist to help create a more professional look and therefore attract potential buyers of your product/brand = grow your audience ⁣⁣⁣
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To mention a few of them! ⁣⁣⁣
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I’m all about getting started before you’re ready, but by making all the mistakes I did you will hurt growing your audience by confusing them. Or by posting way too much, way too often! Without being targeted.⁣
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Do not work harder, but: do work smarter. ❤️ and remember to learn along the way. ⁣⁣
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If you’re curious about getting to know the exact tools/steps on how to apply what I learned into your branding, then please don’t hesitate to: ⁣⁣
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@xxjasminsoe / www.xxjasminsoe.com

HOW TO ANCHOR FEELINGS. ⁣
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Today I want to talk about anchoring! ⁣
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Anchoring comes from NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) and is the greatest tool right before or during performing something! ⁣
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So weather you have a job interview, attend a casting or have to present something for someone, then this is for you! ⁣
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When I wanted to make sure that I spell ‘anchoring’ correct I googled it and at the same time a description about anchoring popped up. Here’s what it says: “Anchoring is a useful NLP technique for inducing a certain frame of mind or emotion, such as happiness or relaxation. It usually involves a touch, gesture or word as an "anchor", like a bookmark for a desired emotion, and recall it again later using that same anchor.” I don’t think I can put it anymore correct than that. ⁣
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Here’s what you can do, for practising how to fx calm down before or during a current event: ⁣
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1. Practise meditation ⁣
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2. Add the feeing of being calm to a point on your body through your thoughts ⁣
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3. I tend to use the pointy finger and my thumb - put together ⁣
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4. Do this over and over again ⁣
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5. Now you have made a NLP link from the feeling of being relaxed down into your finger position ⁣
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6. Before or during an event where you wish to feel more relaxed or calm down yourself then: put those two fingers together and you’ll notice your emotional state to change ASAP. ⁣
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Good luck! xx J⁣
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@xxjasminsoe / www.xxjasminsoe.com

Hi guys! ⁣
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So I promised to share with you how to start a podcast, so that’s what I’ll focus on doing right now. ⁣⁣
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By the way then: if you’re also interested in learning how to memorise a script, then please go to my IG TV section and find a video about that. ⁣⁣
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But here’s my tips: ⁣⁣
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1. Buy the right things to get started and it doesn’t have to be expensive! I bought two microphones, two microphones pop filters and a pair of headset, an USB cable + an hard drive to get started and that works perfectly fine. I think I spend about 200 dollars on everything in total. I’ll recommend you to buy a: M-AUDIO UBER MIC (you don’t necessarily have to buy two, one is fine and can also be used for interviews) The headset was only for myself to hear the sound perfectly clear (to check if it was okay) but you can use your iPhone headset for that too. ⁣⁣
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2. Choose a platform to host your podcast. I’ll recommend you to choose Spreaker.com and just start with the free package. Later on you can upgrade accordingly to your needs. ⁣⁣
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3. Go on google or YouTube to read/watch how to connect your podcast from Spreaker to iTunes. It’s very simple. ⁣⁣
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4. Choose a podcast name. Choose a simple one that describes your intention with the podcast. Fx mine was ‘young love’ (in danish) and the podcast was about young love. Simple. ⁣⁣
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5. I’ll recommend you the free program on your computer/you can download ‘GarageBand’. It works perfectly fine to edit and cut your podcast. ⁣⁣
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6. Find a website where you can BUY your soundtrack music, so that it’s yours to use! ⁣⁣
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7. Get started! ⁣⁣
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Hope this was useful for you. Good luck! xx ⁣⁣J
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@xxjasminsoe / www.xxjasminsoe.com

ON THE FEAR OF GOING FOR IT. ⁣⁣

So lately I’ve received some messages on: ‘I really want to get started and to put my brand out there, but I don’t know when I feel comfortable enough to do that. I do not feel comfortable enough to put everything out there now!’ ⁣⁣
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Do you know the feeling of: ⁣⁣
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• Feeling overwhelmed by the amount of work you have to put into your dream, before you feel comfortable enough to put it all out there? ⁣⁣
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• Not knowing enough (or at least that is what YOU think) in order to get out there and start working on your dream? ⁣⁣
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• Being too fearful of putting it all out there?⁣⁣
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Then you’re not alone! I’m convinced this is some really normal feelings and experiences to go through while dreaming or even working on your dreams to come true. ⁣⁣
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But let me tell you this: the secret is to start before you’re ready and then learn, adjust and apply along the way. ⁣⁣
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Because when you know better, then you do better! If: you’re smart enough to learn and adopt from your mistakes. Which I’m sure you are. ❤️⁣⁣
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And also: if you wait till you’re ready, then you might have to wait for forever. Because: when exactly are you ready? What have to happen in order for you to feel ready? How much do you need to know? How experienced do you have to be in your field? And so on. ⁣⁣
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Please just go and start now because I tell you: I’m sure that the struggle of suppressing your dreams, is so much more painful now and long term - than feeling the fear and doing it (going for it!) anyway. ⁣⁣
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** DM/EMAIL me if you need help with making your dreams come true. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

@xxjasminsoe / www.xxjasminsoe.com

HOW TO CREATE TRUST/RAPPORT BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR COACHING CLIENTS.
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This is another picture of my former office (studio, as I called it) for my coaching business, once I worked as a performance coach for some years. Of cause this was in the end of my coaching carrier and I felt so proud of welcoming my clients here! ⁣
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What you see on this picture, is the corner of the studio where I used to make coffee and small talk with my clients before starting the session! ⁣
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Because in order to develop and in order to move anything within us, we need to feel safe and comfortable. We need to feel like our shoulders relax and that we trust the situation and the person in front of us. Trust is such a fundamental thing when working with clients in the coaching field. ⁣
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Today I thought I wanted to share some tips with you on how to create that (almost instant) trust between you and your clients. This is fundamental in order for you to work with them more than once and to succeed as a coach long term.⁣
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Here’s a few tips on how to build trust: ⁣
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1. Create rapport by mirroring your clients mood/vibe/body language. We as human beings feel more comfortable when we vibe on the same level ⁣
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2. Lead the conversation by stepping in to your authority as the coach. It’s your responsibility to ask the right questions and lead the way. ⁣
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3. Create eye contact, but look away when asking your clients deep questions in order to give them space ⁣
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4. Use your body language. If your client has a closed body language, then see if you can open up their fx arms by reaching them a pen/paper/cup of coffee. ⁣
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5. Keep your promises, be on time, don’t cancel your meetings and so on. ⁣
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Go for it. xx J⁣
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⁣⁣⁣⁣** DM/EMAIL me if you need help with making your dreams come true. ⁣⁣

@xxjasminsoe / www.xxjasminsoe.com