Spark Faith Podcast

If your health is getting in the way of living out the amazing plan God has for your life, you are in the right place. I talk about my our guilt and shame, how I ran from God and the outcome. You need to know 3 things:

1. Jesus is the only one who EVER gets to be perfect, so He expects you to be messy!

2. Jesus knew how to handle distractions. He did what He had to do in the face of a lot of opposition. So, you CAN too!

3. Listen to all the way to the end for a great new skill to handle guilt, shame and actually, all the challenges, no, opportunities your life brings.

Today I share my top tip for stopping on self sabotage. It starts with this one thing…It's super uncomfortable for many of you, yet your self esteem, and self worth hinge on it. Start slow. Baby steps. Use a journal. No judgement, of others or yourself! You can do this!

Reach out if you want more insight or have questions.

Check out my first 2-3 podcasts for all of my own challenges. You're not alone.

We’re going to start unraveling all this Guilt and shame and give you some skills to work through all this.

So that you can take care of the temple, free from self sabotage behaviors, and free of guilt and shame.

What if it all hinges on Love and Gratitude?

Wait!! Why are we talking about guilt and shame? We’ve gone pretty far down the rabbit hole of guilt and shame.

What does this have to do with taking care of the Temple again?

Why do I need to take care of the Temple anyway?

What’s Health got to do with it?

What’s Love got to do with it?

I WAS completely incongruent and inauthentic. Jesus changed everything for me...Guilt, hyper-responsibility and shame are all emotions I’ve wrestled with over time. I WAS an expert at people pleasing and self sabotage! Inside I felt anxious and depressed.

On the outside, no one knew, I looked happy and positive. I don’t live like that any longer, and you don’t have to either. I am whole again I’m the same on the inside and the outside.

Are you more likely to…

You don’t have to live like that any more! Jesus offers you a perfect place to leave all the negativity. Check out my podcast to start the journey!

Did you know that up 95% of your value system is programmed into your neural pathways before the age of 18!!?? No wonder we act like kids and throw tantrums when we're 35, ok 58 😎.

Thoughts precede emotions, emotions in motion lead to behaviors. But, where do the thoughts start? Where do they come from?

Your thoughts originate from your value systems and programs. Your values and programs were instilled from other humans in your life - your mothers, fathers, teachers and preachers. In addition to the humans in your world, how and where you grew up, the messages you were told, the events - negative and positive, ultimately influence your thoughts, now.

Interestingly: 95% of your values are instilled before you’re 18!!!

0-4 years old - 50%

5-8 years old - 30%

9-18 years old - 15% =====> 95%

Before the age of 10-12 years old, your brain is really a sponge. You don’t really have the framework necessary to make rational thoughts out of the information you're taking in. You create stories to make the information make sense. Many of these stories no longer serve you as an adult, and are the root of self sabotaging behaviors, guilt and shame.

The good news is - You don’t have to live with what was programmed. You can change your programming. I’m going to go into this on the next few podcasts! So, please, LIKE and SUBSCRIBE!

Thoughts become emotions, emotions in motion become actions - this is where the self sabotage starts…

What thoughts do you have that precede the emotions?

DO you feel...not good enough, not enough?

Do you compare yourself to others?

Are you sad, disappointed, angry?

DO you have fear and/or anxiety ruling your life?

Any of these can trigger emotions that can lead to self sabotaging behaviors.

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So, let’s get this straight. God wants, no, He commands you to take care of HIS temple.

Mr Sinatra was certainly fine with doing it his way - “he sings that he “took the blows” Are firmly planted in Frank Sinatra-land, “I’m doing it MY way’. Are you taking the blows? That’s completely fine. No judgement. However, before you scroll on, 2 questions:

Okay, let’s assume you figured out that MAYBE your way isn’t working so well. Which of these is/are your biggest challenge(s)?

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Okay, so God gave us a temple to house the Holy Spirit. Cool. However, He also tells us that the temple actually belongs to Him and commands us to take care of the temple.

I don’t know about you, but when someone “commands“ me to do anything it gets my hackles up, gets my knickers in a knot, and causes Resistance to rise up and stand strong. I get so prideful. And haughty in spirit.

And how does this serve me? I get to be right! I get to live exactly the way I want to! I get to make the choices I want to make!

Yep, sounds like a 4 year old!

And I got to feel empty and incongruent with how I was showing up in my life. Optimistic on the outside, dying on the inside.

SPOILER ALERT: Proverbs 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.

Proverbs tells us exactly what’s going to happen. Yet, we’re usually surprised when life starts to unravel.

My life certainly unravelled. Not just my health at certain times, also my relationships, finances, and my faith.

Yes, it’s a longer story. You can find it on my earlier podcasts and the links to the Global Leadership Summit (Part 1 and Part 2) story about my journey. Beware, it’s ugly! It was ugly for a long time. I’ve been running from God for over 15 years.

However, the fall and destruction followed. Maybe God is causing part of your destruction, to get your attention. Maybe that health scare was for your benefit. Maybe your summer clothes that don’t fit are a warning. God uses circumstances we understand to communicate His message, loud and clear.

God slowly stripped me of all my external validation. All the “things” I had created and accumulated that defined “who I was” were slowly dismantled. Until, HE was the only “thing” I could see and the only thing left for me to grab.

Resistance cannot live in the presence of Jesus. I was humbled. I got to the place where I had no choice but to look at the price Jesus paid for me. I was reminded that I get to have a relationship with the God who kept chasing after me. And the benefits of that life over the me, me, me and more of me. When I was “all about me”, so was He! He was after the me He created, not the one I created.

Ultimately, I was overcome by gratitude. It’s so much easier to follow from a place of gratitude and love, than that of duty, obligation, fear or shame.

It’s a journey understanding God’s unconditional love for me, my value and self esteem. I’ll be walking you through all of that in upcoming podcasts…However, how are you going to respond to His relentless pursuit of YOU?

You can keep slogging through life or you can create a new one? How are you going to respond? Is your current response serving you? Are you going to keep running? Or are you going to allow God into your heart and life in a new way. Romans 8:1 So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. God loves you!

Do you believe your health is holding you back from doing something you REALLY want to do?

Do you believe your health is holding you back from living the life God created for you?

Or your health is in such a place you're not even sure you have the clarity to discern what God wants for you?

I have definitely been there at 185 pounds, carrying baby weight and Cooper was 4 or 5 years old already! I was still eating for two!

Maybe you’ve tried so many times before to get healthy. And, now you feel frustrated, angry, and full of guilt and shame.

Then, one day it hit me like a ton of bricks. I was reading in 1 Corinthians that our bodies are the temple for the Holy Spirit! WOW!

My temple needed a radical renovation!

Do you feel like your temple needs renovating or at least an update? Or are you so frustrated and full of guilt and shame about your health journey, you’ve given up?

I’ve learned a new way! You don’t have to do this with guilt and shame. Remember 2 things:

1. Health is a journey

2. God has you exactly where He wants you and he loves you Psalm 48:9 Within your temple, O God, we meditate on your unfailing love. YES!~ In YOUR temple! He loves you!