Sprouting Minds

"You might win some, you might lose some. But you go in, you challenge yourself, you become a better man, a better individual, a better fighter." - Conor McGregor

This week I call on my brother, Brandon Thai to share his story of losing what he worked so hard for in high school, going through the depression that followed, and coming out a stronger, smarter man. He opens up about his life- the challenges he faced in high school, working for his parents, discovering his passion in life, his relationship with his fiance, and the experience of overcoming his environment and traveling internationally at a young age.

Whenever we run into an obstacle in our life, we have 2 choices: Learn something from the experience or paint the experience as the end all be all. The choice is yours. 

 A 3 step approach to help you next time you face an obstacle

1. Accept it. It is what it is. It will either control you or you will control it

2. Harvest the good in the situation. There is a lesson in every situation. Seek and you will find

3. Forgive the rest. Let go and move on

IG: @seizeduhday

"When we expect we stop accepting reality"

Do you sometimes feel like you don't love your life? Like, deep inside, something is missing?  That is because we are living some else's life. We allowed other people to determine our beliefs,, our thoughts, and our actions- we are trying to please their expectations. 

Social Pressure is all around us- we all become prey without noticing it. Before we realize we have no control of our lives, we end up envying other people's lives. To regain that passion for the life you want, you must recover ownership of your choices!

This week I bring on Elena and Dizzy Harlow to talk about the expectations for women & men by society. They open up about their view of their own  personal expectations and the struggles that accompany them. Finally we discuss the first steps on  how to recover ownership of your life. 

We are all subject to the influence of others. It is only when the opinions of others becomes the dominating force guiding your decisions does it become a troublesome problem. No one in this episode is perfect but we sure are on the road to recovery to live for ourselves. You can best serve yourself and others by living for yourself, not to please the expectations of others.

With so much fear running rampant throughout the nation, I felt the need to address the COVID pandemic and help shed light on why so much fear is running amok. I hope to offer you a different perspective than the narrative being told by the media. I offer tips to help your health and immune system, something the media has not focused on. I wish you all to listen and think objectively about the situation and not let fear run your life. 

"Words form the thread on which we string our experiences." -Aldous Huxley 

The words you speak hold power. Power to create and destroy. Power to build relationships or  tear them down. Power to lift people up or pull them down. Power to lift your spirit or magnify your fear. Psychologist have found that the subconscious mind interprets what it hears very literally . The words that come out of our mouth therefore create the reality we perceive- for better or for worse! Unfortunately we have not been taught of the power our words have. We unconsciously sabotage our success simply by using language that undermines our successes and amplifies our problems. This diminishes our ability to handle sticky points in life. Our external environment is often a reflection of our internal world, which shows up in how we speak. If you use positive language/vocab- about yourself, your ability to learn new skills, to achieve goals, and manage difficulties- then that's what tends to show up externally. Conversely, if you're continually saying things that affirm incompetence, echo hopelessness, nurture anxiety and fuel pessimism , then that will also shape your reality. Over time your world will morph to mirror your words. Take back control of reality by deliberately using empowering words rather than devaluing and deflating yourself. It all starts with conscious awareness of our language patterns.

CALL TO ACTION

Discussing current events surrounding the BLM movement and what we can do as young people to bring about change  with @Dizzyharlow and @petrosmekonnen. While this interview and its answers are far from perfect , it is a step in the right direction. We need to continue raising awareness so we can begin to work on change. We must look forward to the future to develop a plan to create systemic change.

POWER TO THE PEOPLE!

I thank the many great speakers and speeches that influenced  this speech.

"Always the beautiful answer who ask a more beautiful question" - E.E. Cummings

Up to this point we've learned how our beliefs affect our decisions, our actions and ultimately our destiny. But all these are a product of thinking! So I ask, how do we think? 

Today's episode is all about questions and the Godly power questions have. Take control of your focus and therefore your actions by learning how to skillfully ask yourself the right questions.

PROBLEM SOLVING QUESTIONS:

1) What is great about this problem?

2) What is not perfect?

3)What am I willing to do to make it the way I want?

4) What am I willing to no longer do to make it the way I want?

5) How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want?

Start your day off right with MORNING QUESTIONS

1) What am I happy about in my life right now? 

2) What am I proud about in my life right now?

3) What am I enjoying most in my life right now?

4) What am I excited about in my life right now?

5) What am I grateful for?

6) What am I committed to in my life right now?

ACTIONABLE STEPS

 What are some questions that would be useful to ask yourself? Come up with 2 questions that can change your emotional state and give you the resources you truly desire!

JIM KWIK'S NEWEST BOOK

https://www.limitlessbook.com/

Let's add another tool to the toolbox. In this episode I share with you how to use your body to change how you feel. Remember we can change what we focus on and NOW we can change how we use our bodies

CALL TO ACTION

Make a list of all things you do that makes you feel better. Add things you have not tried but still THINK will make you feel better

EX: Listening to music, walks at the beach, singing, hot bath/shower etc.

"Live for the present moment. Do everything you do with love." @dizzyharlow IG

QUESTIONS I ASK DIZZY

What is interesting in your world right now? (3:40)

What has picking up the guitar taught you? (7:25)

When & how did your spiritual journey start? (10:20)

What has your spiritual journey revealed to you? (14:35)

Have your hobbies led to other doors opening? (15:45)

Who/What inspired your image? (19:20)

What allowed you to get over the self doubt regarding your look? (23:30)

What are some challenges you have overcome in the past? (25:00)

Are there any challenges you are dealing with now? (28:35)

Have you crushed any old limiting beliefs? (35:50)

Do you have any limiting beliefs now? (36:50)

What are some of your goals? (37:30)

What is your definition of success? (43:35)

CALL TO ACTION

How do you change the room when you walk into it?

What affect do you have on the world around you and on the people around you?

What is that affect you have on people or that quality that causes that effect ?

STEP BY STEP PROCESS TO CREATE CHANGE

A google doc link is provided 

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1iiZs-F3T6JwxAPGgbPLVCDTr3zH62l80A9FmuQDJn-o/edit?usp=sharing