Startup Dad

Martin Pannier is a French entrepreneur who started the company Primo to help small and medium-sized businesses get their IT work right for new employees. He’s worked as a product leader at iziwork, Gusto and several others. In addition to being a founder he’s also a husband and the father of one young daughter. In our conversation today we discussed:

* Raising a daughter in a multicultural family

* How to avoid the temptation to view parenting as an accomplishment

* Why not to focus on over-optimization of parenting

* Maintaining relationships outside of the family when it’s hectic

* The balance of two working parents when one is a founder

* His most surprising aspects of becoming a Dad

* A few things he learned very quickly after his daughter was born

* Having a newborn and running a company

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Where to find Martin Pannier

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinpannier/

* Primo: https://www.getprimo.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:37] Welcome

[1:51] Background

[5:25] Martin’s Childhood

[8:25] Martin’s Family

[11:58] Did he have to convince his wife to move to France?

[15:09] Their decision to start a family

[17:23] What it’s like having a newborn & running a company?

[21:53] Multicultural parenting styles

[25:56] Terrible parenting advice

[28:04] Earliest memory of becoming a father

[30:07] Parenting as an accomplishment

[34:22] What surprised you the most about becoming a dad?

[35:39] Diaper changing competition

[36:43] What did you learn after having your daughter?

[39:34] How he has prioritized maintaining relationships outside the house

[41:04] Favorite book to read to Juno?

[42:02] Family language in a multilingual household

[43:57] How has having child/starting company impacted your life?

[45:58] What he hopes for his daughter’s relationship to technology

[50:03] What’d he give up to become a dad?

[51:39] Mistakes made as a dad

[53:25] Where to follow Martin

[54:44] Rapid fire / lightning round

[1:00:40] Thank you

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Show references:

iziwork: https://www.iziwork.com/fr/

Gusto: https://gusto.com/

Paris, France: https://www.britannica.com/place/Paris

Seine: https://www.britannica.com/place/Seine-River

World Bank:https://www.worldbank.org/en/home

French Space Agency: https://www.esa.int/Enabling_Support/Space_Engineering_Technology/Centre_National_D_Etudes_Spatiales_CNES

Siqi Chen’s Startup Dad Episode: youtube.com/watch?v=I2Nm5Mkj0s0

Sheep In A Jeep: https://www.amazon.com/SHEEP-JEEP-Nancy-Shaw/dp/0395470307

War and Peace: https://www.amazon.com/War-Peace-Vintage-Classics-Tolstoy/dp/1400079985

Where The Wild Things Are: https://www.amazon.com/Where-Wild-Things-Maurice-Sendak/dp/0060254920

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs: https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-is-maslow-hierarchy-of-needs

Baby Camera: https://www.amazon.com/Monitor-5Display-Pan-Tilt-Zoom-Temperature-Lullabies/dp/B09GM8JZM9/

Hatch Lights: https://www.hatch.co/

The Expectant Father: https://www.amazon.com/Expectant-Father-Ultimate-Dads-Be/dp/0789212137

Lion King: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0110357/

Honey I Shrunk The Kids: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0097523/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Linda Flanagan is a freelance journalist, researcher, and former cross-country and track coach. She is the author of numerous articles on youth sports and the book Take Back The Game - How Money and Mania Are Ruining Kids Sports—And Why It Matters. She is a founding board member of the NYC chapter of the Positive Coaching Alliance and her writing has appeared in The Atlantic, Runner’s World and NPR’s Mindshift. In addition to being a lifelong athlete she’s also the mother of three grown children. In our conversation today we discussed:

* The inspiration behind Take Back The Game

* The role of her father in her life as an athlete and how that shaped her perspective on sports

* The differences between fathers and mothers and their impact on daughter participation in sports

* The key changes in how youth sports have transformed with the influence of money and increasingly high stakes

* Changes in family dynamics and parental expectations; the influence of the Name Image and Likeness rules (or NIL)

* Early sports specialization and its effect on children’s physical and mental health

* How to make sports fun again

* Success stories in communities implementing positive change in youth sports

* Advice to parents who want to support their children’s athletic interests without falling into the mania

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Where to find Linda Flanagan

* Website: https://lindaflanaganauthor.com/

* X: https://x.com/lindaflanagan2

* IG: https://www.instagram.com/Lindaflanagan_author/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:51] Welcome

[2:15] Childhood

[3:26] Linda’s Kids

[3:57] Coaching career

[4:52] Realization that kid’s sports needed reform

[8:06] What role did Linda’s father play in her athletics?

[11:32] Differences between fathers and mother’s impacting daughters in sports

[13:07] Key changes in sports regarding money

[21:33] NIL - Name, Image and Likeness

[25:05] Early sports specialization

[29:43] Alternatives to specialization

[33:56] Organizations that have implemented positive change

[39:11] Role of tech and media on sports

[42:43] Role of coaches

[44:26] Advice for parents

[50:28] Changes for the next decade

[53:01] Where to find Linda

[54:33] Rapid fire / Lightning round

[58:22] Thank you

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Show references:

Take Back the Game, How Money and Mania are Ruining Kids Sports and Why it Matters by Linda Flanagan: https://www.amazon.com/Take-Back-Game-Ruining-Sports/dp/059332904X

ESPN Wide World of Sports: https://disneyworld.disney.go.com/destinations/wide-world-of-sports/

NIL: https://iconsource.com/what-is-nil/

NFHS: https://www.nfhsnetwork.com/

Families and Sport Lab at Utah State, Travis Dorsch: https://cehs.usu.edu/families-in-sport-lab/people/faculty/travis-dorsch

Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World by David Epstein: https://www.amazon.com/Range-Generalists-Triumph-Specialized-World/dp/0735214484

Tiger Woods: https://tigerwoods.com/

The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt: https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036

Free Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy: https://letgrow.org/free-chapter/

Peter Gray (professor at BC): https://www.bc.edu/bc-web/schools/morrissey/departments/psychology-neuroscience/people/affiliated-and-emeritus/peter-gray.html

Jason Targoff: https://www.cambridgeyouthsoccer.org/Default.aspx?tabid=1309964&mid=1365147&newskeyid=HN1&newsid=437883&ctl=newsdetail

Pick up Sports App: https://pickupsports.co/pages/app-1

Steve Magnus: https://www.stevemagness.com/

Ferber Method: https://www.sleepfoundation.org/baby-sleep/ferber-method

WSJ article, When Junior Heads to College, Helicopter Parents Turn to Empty-Nest Coaches: https://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/relationships/helicopter-parents-empty-nest-coaches-868b5600

Wizard of Oz: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0032138/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Rob Schutz is a serial entrepreneur and the co-founder of multi-billion-dollar online health company, Ro. He has also founded the domain name service company, Snagged. He invests alongside me in the 20Growth fund. In addition to his skill as a founder he’s also a husband and the father of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:

* How to set a good example for your kids in how you treat others

* Not putting too much pressure on yourself to have hard and fast rules or systems

* Adjusting your life to be more present

* The emotions and feelings you go through as a new Dad

* The most surprising aspects of fatherhood

* The difference between the relationship he wants his kids to have with technology vs. social media

* Some exciting new rapid fire/lightning questions!

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Where to find Rob Schutz

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robschutz/

* X: https://x.com/rob

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:29] Welcome

[1:59] Professional background

[3:45] Rob’s Childhood

[6:39] Rob’s family

[8:15] Starting a company

[10:58] Decision to start a family

[11:57] Music

[12:30] Earliest memory of being a dad

[14:43] Setting a good example for kids

[16:43] Is this perspective how you/partner were raised?

[18:39] What emotions arose when becoming a dad

[23:08] Most surprising things you’ve learned?

[26:20] What does “being present” mean to you?

[30:59] Advice to younger Rob

[33:14] Advice to ignore

[34:23] What book do you gift new dads

[35:04] What book do you read to your kids?

[35:47] Frameworks

[38:52] Balance of parenting

[41:52] How has parenting evolved

[45:13] Aligning as parents

[47:33] Kid’s relationship to technology

[51:51] Mistake as a dad

[53:10] Follow along

[53:56] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Ro: https://ro.co/

Snagged: https://www.snagged.com/

20 Growth Fund: https://www.thetwentyminutevc.com/20vc-fund/

Bark Box: https://www.barkbox.com/

University of McMaster: https://www.mcmaster.ca/

IBM: https://www.ibm.com/us-en

Isaiah House:https://isaiahhouse.org/

Penn State: https://www.psu.edu/

Cornell:https://www.cornell.edu/

Habitat for Humanity: https://www.habitat.org/

Mega Touch Machine: https://www.arcade-museum.com/Videogame/megatouch-video

Crunch Labs:https://www.crunchlabs.com/

Finasteride: https://ro.co/lp/medications/hair-loss/

Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads by Gary Greenberg & Jeannie Hayden: https://www.amazon.com/Be-Prepared-Gary-Greenberg/dp/0743251547

The Book with No Pictures by B. J. Novak: https://www.amazon.com/Book-No-Pictures-B-Novak/dp/0803741715

Snapchat: https://www.snapchat.com/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/en/

iPad: https://www.apple.com/ipad/

Cloth diapers: https://www.grovia.com/

Tesla: https://www.tesla.com/

Is It Cake: https://www.netflix.com/title/81333845

Mighty Ducks: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0104868/

Goonies: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0089218/

Blockbuster: https://www.blockbuster.com/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Adam Nash is a long-time Silicon Valley executive, investor and advisor. He was the President and CEO of Wealthfront, a Product executive at Dropbox and LinkedIn, and teaches a course on personal finance for engineers at Stanford. He is currently the co-founder and CEO of Daffy, the donor-advised fund for you and a champion of charitable giving. In addition to his long and successful career he’s also a husband and the father of four kids! In our conversation today we discussed:

* How to raise financially literate kids

* How to think about the question of “am I financially ready for children” and is that the right question

* How to teach your kids about charitable giving and philanthropy

* The challenges of starting a company as a parent

* The concept of “super powers” at work and at home

* How to talk about money with your wife and kids

* How to do financial planning in your household

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Where to find Adam Nash

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamnash/

* X: https://x.com/adamnash

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:41] Welcome

[2:47] How did you develop your passion for finance?

[5:31] When are you financially ready for children?

[12:05] Was financial literacy part of childhood?

[14:55] Kids ages and background

[15:25] Decision to start a family

[18:26] Guardrails

[23:35] Conversation with partner about startup

[27:12] Concept of superpowers

[31:56] Advice to younger Adam

[35:49] Advice to ignore

[38:53] How do you build financially literate children?

[44:09] What is a DAF?

[51:18] Your family’s philanthropy & impact

[53:51] Financial review

[57:27] Financial apps

[58:48] Mistake as a dad

[1:03:57] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Daffy: https://www.daffy.org/

Wealthfront: https://www.wealthfront.com/

Dropbox: https://www.dropbox.com/home

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/feed/

Stanford: https://www.stanford.edu/

Quicken: https://www.quicken.com/

Steve Jobs: https://www.britannica.com/money/Steve-Jobs

DonorsChoose: https://www.donorschoose.org/

Greenlight: https://greenlight.com/

Monterey Bay Aquarium: https://www.montereybayaquarium.org/

Acorns: https://www.acorns.com/

Plenty: https://www.withplenty.com/

Apple watch: https://www.apple.com/watch/

Jewish Community Center: https://jcca.org/

Cars: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0317219/

Animal House: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0077975/

Back To School: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0090685/

Real Genius: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0089886/

Star Wars: https://www.starwars.com/films

Back To The Future: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088763/

Toyota Sienna: https://www.toyota.com/sienna/

Honda Odyssey: https://automobiles.honda.com/odyssey

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Andrew Capland is the founder of Growth coaching and advisory, Delivering Value. He’s also been the Head of Growth at Postscript and Wistia and was an early employee at Hubspot. He’s a loving husband and the father of two kids, including one who was 6 weeks old during our chat! In our conversation today we discussed:

* Going from one kid to two and thriving with a newborn

* Managing your life and paternity leave as a Solopreneur

* The support structures needed with a second kid

* Bottle washing hacks!

* What do you do when you and your spouse are both exhausted?

* What to do with different religious values in the household

* How to set yourself up for success with clients and a newborn

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Where to find Andrew Capland

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewcapland/

* X: https://x.com/acapland

* Delivering Value: https://deliveringvalue.co/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:24] Welcome

[1:42] Professional background

[3:02] Inspiration for pod

[4:52] Childhood

[8:12] Family now

[9:15] First date with wife?

[9:56] How old are your kids?

[10:34] What does your wife do for work?

[10:58] Decision to start a family

[13:17] First thing you remember when 6 week old was born?

[15:15] Support structures w/ second kid

[17:41] Paternity leave as a solopreneur

[19:17] How to manage new parenthood and soloprenuer

[21:19] Transition from 1 to 2 kids

[24:00] Any bottle washing hacks?

[24:50] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[25:59] Emotions w/ first child vs. second

[27: 22] What are some surprising things you discovered?

[28:14] Advice to younger Andrew

[29:57] Advice to ignore

[31:10] Favorite books to read to your kids?

[32:09] Frameworks

[32:59] What do you do if you’re both exhausted?

[33:59] How has parenting evolved 

[36:10] Where do you and your partner not align?

[37:45] Differences in religions amongst couples

[40:14] Kid’s relationship to technology

[42:25] What is something you gave up to be a dad?

[43:59] Recharge batteries

[44:59] Mistake as a dad

[46:31] Follow along

[47:47] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Andrew’s Podcast: https://media.deliveringvalue.co/t/show

Adam’s episode of Andrew’s Podcast: https://media.deliveringvalue.co/p/how-to-deal-with-overwhelm-imposter

Delivering Value: https://deliveringvalue.co/

PostScript: https://postscript.io/

Wistia: https://wistia.com/

HubSpot: https://www.hubspot.com/products/get-started-f049

Kings: https://www.playatkings.com/

Bright Horizons: https://www.brighthorizons.com/

Little Blue Truck Makes a Friend: https://www.amazon.com/Little-Blue-Truck-Makes-Friend/dp/0358722829

Little Blue Truck Leads the Way:https://www.amazon.com/Little-Blue-Truck-Leads-board/dp/0544568052

iPad: https://www.apple.com/

MiniMeis backpack: https://us.minimeis.com/

Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads by Gary Greenberg & Jeannie Hayden:

https://www.amazon.com/Be-Prepared-Gary-Greenberg/dp/0743251547/

Toy Story: https://toystory.disney.com/

Jaws: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0073195/

Nantucket: https://www.nantucket-ma.gov/

Kia Telluride: https://www.kia.com/us/en/telluride

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Jordane Giuly is a 3x co-founder having started French Fintech unicorn Spendesk and most recently SMB financing company Defacto. As a French entrepreneur he brings an interesting, international perspective to parenting and company building. He’s a loving husband and the father of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:

* Comparing California cuisine to French cuisine

* The differences in parenting support between France and the U.S.

* Deciding how many kids to have

* Raising kids internationally while starting a company

* Paternity leave for startup founders

* Doing diaper changes while talking to investors

* Watching your own parents become grandparents

* How becoming a Dad has influenced his leadership style

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Where to find Jordane Giuly

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jordane-giuly/

* X: https://x.com/jordanegiuly

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:28] Welcome

[1:55] Jordane’s professional life

[3:46] How does CA cuisine compare to France?

[4:41] Jordane’s childhood

[6:44] His sister as a co-founder

[7:33] Support structures in France for parents

[10:32] Startup founder support system

[12:28] His family now

[15:19] Starting a company & raising a kid at the same time

[16:38] Changing diapers during investing calls

[18:41] His wife’s career

[19:54] Amount of kids discussion

[20:49] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[22:37] Having a “super hairy kid"

[24:25] Most surprising thing about being a dad

[26:09] Young grandparents

[26:32] Advice for younger Jordane and what to ignore

[29:30] Fav book to read to his kids?

[30:45] Parenting frameworks

[32:45] Grandparents for childcare

[32:53] How has Jordane’s parenting style changed from one to two kids?

[35:30] Has being a dad changed his leadership style?

[37:47] What do Jordane and his wife not agree on?

[39:47] Relationship he wants his kids to have with tech?

[40:55] Recharge batteries

[41:54] Will he be running in the streets during the Olympics?

[42:43] Mistakes made as a dad

[43:37] What did he give up to become a dad?

[44:01] Where to follow along

[44:36] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Spendesk: https://www.spendesk.com/

DeFacto:https://www.getdefacto.com/

Stanford: https://www.stanford.edu/

Open Classrooms: https://openclassrooms.com/en/

Daft Punk: https://www.daftpunk.com/

Queen: https://queenonline.com/

Where the Wild Things Are: https://www.amazon.com/Where-Wild-Things-Maurice-Sendak/dp/0064431789Paris Olympics: https://olympics.com/en/paris-2024

Seine River: https://www.britannica.com/place/Seine-River

Birkenstocks:https://www.birkenstock.com/us

Stupid rabbit show: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simon_(French_TV_series)

Star Wars: https://www.starwars.com/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Dave Boyce is a successful five-time exited founder, a GTM expert and owner of the newsletter ProductLedGTM.com. He sits on the board of Forrester and has just completed the final manuscript for his book on GTM strategy which comes out in 2025. He’s a loving husband and the father of six kids, ages 16 to 28. In our conversation today we discussed:

* How to raise a family of incredibly successful kids

* Competition in the family when you’ve got PhD students, applied math majors, ML scientists and accomplished athletes

* The importance of play-based childhood

* The value of hard work

* How to reframe achievement so it’s not about getting the ‘A’

* The importance of noticing your kids differences

* Being home when you’re home

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Where to find Dave Boyce

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/boycedave/

* Newsletter: productledgtm.com

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:37] Welcome

[2:11] Professional background

[3:20] Childhood

[6:22] Dave’s family

[10:12] Wife’s decision to go back to work

[12:12] Play-based childhood

[14:49] Instilling the value of hard work

[17:02] Most surprising thing you discovered as a dad

[19:14] Advice for younger Dave

[20:50] Manufacturing unprogrammed time

[22:39] Advice to ignore

[24:01] Defining achievement

[26:23] How has being a dad changed you professionally?

[29:39] An area where you and partner don’t align

[31:12] Establishing roles

[32:25] Being home when you’re home

[34:32] Something you gave up to be a dad?

[36:57] Fav music experience with a kid?

[38:38] Recharge batteries

[40:38] Mistake you made as a dad

[42:47] More challenging things as a dad/large family

[45:56] Follow along

[47:23] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Forrester: https://www.forrester.com/

Oklahoma State University: https://go.okstate.edu/

Nike: https://www.nike.com/

Cheaper by the Dozen: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0349205/

Punk Rock Bowling: https://punkrockbowling.com/

Madness: https://www.madness.co.uk/

Fenway Park: https://www.mlb.com/redsox/ballpark

Oracle: https://www.oracle.com/

Fundly: https://fundly.com/

Dough cutter: https://www.amazon.com/Scraper-Stainless-Polished-Measuring-Multipurpose/dp/B01D1GE1KE

iPad: https://www.apple.com/

Teletubbies: https://us.teletubbies.com/Swiss Family Robinson: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0054357/

Dumb and Dumber: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0109686/

Tommy Boy: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0114694/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

Nacho Libre: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0457510/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

Napoleon Dynamite: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0374900/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_3_tt_6_nm_2_in_0_q_napol

Planes, Trains and Automobiles: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0093748/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

GMC Yukon XL: https://www.gmc.com/suvs/yukon

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Darby Saxbe is a professor at USC and holds a PhD in Clinical Psychology. Her research includes studying the effects of stress hormones in couples and most importantly the changes that the male brain undergoes after becoming a parent. She has scientifically discovered slight gray matter loss in men following fatherhood and termed it Dad Brain. She is currently writing a book about her research. She’s also a wife, musician in a Mom Band and mother of two kids! In our conversation today we discussed:

* Early influences on her scientific research

* What it was like having two kids while getting your post doc

* The neuroplasticity of the brain

* Stress hormones in couples

* How fatherhood reshapes men’s brains to make them more efficient

* Changes in the ‘default mode network’ and the visual network in new Dads

* How brain changes are different in new Dads vs. new Moms

* The implications of her research for public policy, paid family leave and the support for new parents

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Where to find Darby Saxbe

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/darbysaxbe/

* X: https://twitter.com/Darbysaxbe

* USC: https://dornsife.usc.edu/nestlab/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:52] Welcome

[2:25] Professional background

[5:18] What was the spark for the research?

[8:26] Did having children during postdoc help shape research?

[10:08] Cortisol

[13:57] Dad brain

[25:55] Should we worry about brain shrinkage after becoming a parent?

[29:55] Brain efficiency in parenting

[31:33] Default mode and visual network for Dads

[35:43] Enhancement in social cognition

[38:06] Indifference

[40:35] Parental leave

[44:48] Darby’s book/ future research

[48:35] Advice to new parents/dads

[51:10] Follow along

[52:05] Darby’s Mom band

[54:55] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Darby’s Research: https://dornsife.usc.edu/nestlab/publications/

Prenatal prolactin predicts postnatal parenting attitudes and brain structure remodeling in first-time fathers: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0306453023003104

Darby on Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?hl=en&user=q676bXMAAAAJ

Dad Brain is Real: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/06/16/opinion/dad-brain-fatherhood-parenting.html?unlocked_article_code=1.0E0.biCq.04uwT7G2QN-x&smid=url-share

More on Dad Brain: https://theconversation.com/brain-study-identifies-a-cost-of-caregiving-for-new-fathers-227319

Cortical volume reductions in men transitioning to first-time fatherhood: https://academic.oup.com/cercor/article-abstract/34/4/bhae126/7645338?redirectedFrom=fulltext&login=false

USC: https://www.usc.edu/

Fulbright: https://us.fulbrightonline.org/

UK Biobank: https://www.ukbiobank.ac.uk/

Scrooge McDuck: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scrooge_McDuck

Super Why: https://pbskids.org/superwhy/

Inside Out: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2096673/

Inside Out 2: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt22022452/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

Beetlejuice: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0094721/

Throwing Muses: https://throwingmuses.com/

The Killers: https://www.thekillersmusic.com/

Breeders: https://www.thebreedersmusic.com/

Seven Up!: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0058578/

Rushmore: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0128445/

A Hard Day’s Night: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0058182/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Eric Bahn is the co-founder and a GP at Hustle Fund—a pre-seed venture fund that invests in very early stage founders. He has also been a founder himself as well as a product leader at companies like Intuit and Instagram. Most importantly, he’s a husband and the father of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:

* What it means to feel joy in coming home to your family

* His decision with his wife to have children

* How to prioritize your spouse

* Life integration rather than balance

* Some non-traditional methods of recharging his batteries

* A hilarious tangent about home projects including a recent plumbing success

* What emerging companies he has seen that could have a significant impact on kids and future generations

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Where to find Eric Bahn

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericbahn/

* X: https://twitter.com/ericbahn

* Website: https://www.hustlefund.vc/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:54] Welcome

[2:30] Professional background

[3:06] Explaining career to his kids

[4:16] Grew up in Detroit

[5:12] Childhood

[7:14] Immigrant family/being Korean in Detroit

[11:03] Talking to kids about how Eric’s parents culturally assimilated

[13:00] How did you meet wife/what does she do?

[15:45] Decision to start a family

[19:53] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[21:50] Most surprising thing you discovered?

[23:44] Parenting approach helped professional life?

[26:53] Prioritizing wife over kids

[29:45] Where you and partner don’t agree?

[33:30] Eric’s home plumbing tweet

[36:10] Advice for younger Eric?

[39:41] What does it mean to “hustle” vs. family life?

[43:57] Leadership style influenced by having kids?

[47:37] What things has he seen in VC that will affect kids?

[52:18] What relationship do you want your kids to have with technology?

[55:09] Recharge batteries?

[59:38] Mistake you made as a father?

[1:00:08] Follow along

[1:01:11] Rapid fire

[1:04:52] Thank you

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Show references:

Hustle Fund: https://www.hustlefund.vc/

Instagram: instagram.com

Intuit: https://www.intuit.com/

8 Mile: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0298203/

McAllen, TX: https://www.mcallen.net/

Patrick Thompson Epidsode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qDbmT4AgizQ

“Juicy” By Notorious BIG: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_JZom_gVfuw

Sonoma Raceway: https://www.sonomaraceway.com/

F1: https://www.formula1.com/

Squatty Potty: https://www.squattypotty.com/

Cocomelon: https://cocomelon.com/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Yousuf Bhaijee is a Growth Gdvisor and interim Head of Growth to companies like Brightwheel, HP, Evernow and Blackbird. Chris Lloyd is an engineer who most recently worked at AI company, Humane, and also Pinterest, Assembly and Opera. Yousuf is the father of three kids and Chris is the father of two.

Chris and his family, Yousuf and his family and five other families live in a town-home complex that they all collectively bought several years ago. There are now a total of fifteen kids at the complex! In today’s conversation we discussed:

* How this whole modern day commune experiment got started

* What it means to live in a modern day commune

* The shared rituals, benefits and drawbacks of this lifestyle

* The positive impacts on mental health

* The benefits of sharing

* How gender roles take on new meaning in communal living

* The most surprising aspects of a communal lifestyle

* Family privacy and parenting styles when you live in close proximity with others

Where to find Yousuf Bhaijee

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yousufbhaijee

* X: https://twitter.com/ybhaijee

Where to find Chris Lloyd

* X: https://twitter.com/chrislloyd

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:47] Yousuf & Chris Introduction/Welcome

[4:46] Family Life and Hottakes 

[10:42] Commune Living - What it is

[12:44] Commune Living - How it came to be

[17:50] Logistics & Agreements

[19:42] Gender Roles

[21:30] External Judgements

[23:36] Macro and Micro Rituals

[26:15] Social Media

[27:15] Functionality of Commune Living

[30:00] Family Privacy & Parenting Styles

[35:52] Changes in Mental Health

[39:22] Modern Day Sharing Economy

[42:37] Discoveries of Living in a Commune

[45:00] Vulnerability & Parenting Advice

[50:48] Technology and the Communal Impact

[57:12] Parenting Mistakes as a Dad

[1:00:25] Reaching Out

[1:00:00] Rapid Fire

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Show references:

Amazon One Medical: https://health.amazon.com/prime

Brightwheel: https://mybrightwheel.com/home-b/

HP: https://www.hp.com

Evernow: https://www.evernow.com/

Blackbird: https://www.blackbird.xyz/

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com

Assembly: https://www.joinassembly.com/

Opera: https://www.opera.com/

Eaze: https://www.eaze.com/

Zynga: https://www.zynga.com/

Humane: https://humane.com/

WWDC: https://developer.apple.com/wwdc24/

Disney: https://www.disney.com/

Paw Patrol: https://www.pawpatrol.com/

Blippi: https://blippi.com/

Nickelodeon: https://www.nick.com/

Lovevery: https://lovevery.com/

SNOO: https://www.happiestbaby.com/products/snoo-smart-bassinet

NoseFrida: https://frida.com/products/nosefrida

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/