Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

How do we know when we are really over our ex and ready to find someone better? A lot of times we tell ourselves that in order to really close the book on our heartbreak, we need closure. We need for that person to tell us how sorry they are for whatever has happened, and once we get that from them, we’ll be ready to let go and move on. What if you could get closure without them? This is something I was working on with a client this week and in this episode, I share with you how we can redefine closure, create it for ourselves, and live our best lives, no matter what.

Let’s talk about our ability to receive. This topic comes from a coaching client who recently came to our coaching and shared that she is finding it really difficult to receive a gift that was offered to her. When we dig into the hard work of upleveling ourselves and healing our hearts, I have seen with many of my clients that the universe recognizes the work and provides abundance and opportunity.

Let’s talk about triggers. In the world of dating, there are more than just two types of triggers, but for the purpose of this episode, we will be focusing on two: the kind you have when are dating Mr. Wrong and the kind you have when you are dating Mr. Right. This episode was inspired by a recent coaching call with a client who is starting to date again, and is really interested in this guy she’s dating, even when there are triggers for her that he may not be the Mr. Available she wants him to be.

Triggers and fear are both totally normal, even when you are dating or even in a relationship with Mr. or Ms. Right. In this episode, we take a look at the different types of triggers, how to identify and call out problematic behavior, and how to love yourself through the fear and through those moments of being triggered. You deserve a reciprocal relationship of love, consistency, effort, and commitment. The question that comes down to you is, are you willing to lean in and do the work so that you can live in the result of an epic love story? Because it is waiting for you on the other side.

Your thoughts, create feelings, which drive results. This is the model I use as a coach and when I get coached. In this episode, I share with you just how important your feelings are, and how they can shape your results. Let’s take a look at how you may not be fully loving yourself right now, what this means for your love life, those you are attracting, and how to investigate the feelings that may be driving your actions.

I am so excited for the full launch of my one-year group coaching, which starts this Friday, April 9th. For this episode, I have asked three students who took advantage of the opportunity to join early to come on the podcast and talk about what it has been like for them to get coached in this way and why it works. You’ll hear from each of them as they share why they joined the program, what it’s like to be in the group setting, and what the work looks like for each of them. I am so honored to have these women on the podcast and to be their coach.

I was recently working with two clients who were going through the same thing; their Mr. Unavailable’s are in new relationships, and from the outside, it looks like they are now Mr. Available to their new partners, and are now able to give the best of themselves in the new relationships. Even in my own dating history, I can look back and see examples of men who committed to new partners and were able to give them everything I wanted. In this episode, let’s take a deeper look into this thought. Is everything what it seems? Does it matter? And how does this create the container to be able to find who is right for you?

Having hope is very tricky. How many times have you been looking forward to a date, but then stopped yourself from “getting your hopes up”? This happened recently when I was working with a client. When she told me she didn’t want to get her hopes up for a first date, I asked her why the hell not? It is so natural to have hope, but there are also times when hope doesn’t serve us. I share with you how to tell the difference between when hope is helpful, versus when it isn’t, and how you should apply this to create the result of finding your person.