Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 28 year old married woman and my husband just turned 30. We have a great marriage, but I need you to help me settle an argument. We are both black, but we come from very different backgrounds. He was raised in a poor, urban area that was predominately black. I was raised in a middle-class suburb that was very racially diverse. I often have to tell him that certain things like wearing a du rag outside the house or blasting loud rap music is not acceptable at his age and in the community we live in now.........

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am dating a distinguished retired man and after our second date, he told me that I needed to have an open mind about sex because he lives an alternative lifestyle. He told me that he is in to bondage and domination. I told him we are not compatible because I’m not into kinky sex. After a few days, he called and told me that he liked me so much, he’d change just for me. So, we’ve been dating for two years and our relationship is great. He never once tried his freaky sex moves on me...........

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My life could not be more complicated. I'm a 36 year old woman and I've been dating the same man for 21 years. Yes that's right. He's my boyfriend and we've been together off and on since middle school. He was my first love and my first sexual encounter. We have three teenage children and we've been through all of the ups and downs that married couples have but we've never been married. He has never wanted to get married. I wanted to marry him when we were in our 20s but changed my mind because he was not treating me like a queen and making me feel like I was the prettiest woman in the world.............

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a big problem. Two years ago I relocated for work. Before I moved I had a special lady that I enjoyed spending time with. She was a big fine woman, thick in all of the right places. It's been a year since I had seen her and I was missing her good loving so I called her and told her I was sending her a bus ticket to come visit me. Yes, a bus ticket because a brother ain't rich. The weekend finally came and I was so excited to see her, but oh my goodness when this woman got off the bus I swear I barely recognized her..........

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m in a bad situation and I need your advice. A few months ago, I was in a great relationship and my man and I were happy. I had a male neighbor that I only talked to on social media. My man found out about us sending each other messages and he accused me of messing around with the guy. He said it was inappropriate and I needed to stop, so I did, but my neighbor kept on liking my pictures and leaving comments every time I posted a picture on Instagram............

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 46 year old single lady and I am ready for the next chapter in my life. In 1999 I dated a man off and on for a while, but finally ended things with him when I found out he got another woman pregnant. I moved on with my life and he moved to another state. Well, in 2018, he and I reconnected on social media. Since we live far apart, we texted and called each other daily. He told me he was coming to town and wanted to see me. I told him to come by the house, since we were old friends and hadn’t seen each other in many years............

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am writing you for advice since I have heard you guys talk about this on the show before. I’m in my mid 30s and I’m an educated man with a great job and I’m financially secure. I was in a 10 year relationship that ended a few years ago and since that breakup, I have had problems meeting women. I have been ignored by women when I try to speak to them or strike up a conversation. I had considered many possibilities as to why women avoid me and I’ve come to this conclusion… It’s because I am an unattractive man and I have realized that my facial features aren't the cutest..............

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Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I have been married for over 20 years and we have 4 children, 3 daughters and 1 son. My husband is a truck driver, so he’s gone a lot and I’m left to care for the kids. When my husband is home, he tries to step in and take over the father role, but we argue constantly about disciplining the kids. My husband has been driving trucks for 10 years and that’s when I started noticing problems with our son’s behavior. I used to stay up at the school because of his bad attitude, poor grades and fighting with classmates. At home, he was unruly too..........

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a five month old son who was conceived during a threesome. I had an affair on my boyfriend of three years with a guy that I’ve known all my life. My boyfriend and I were having problems, so my male friend offered me an all expense paid trip to Miami and I didn’t have anything to do, so I went to clear my mind. When I got there, he picked me up and we went to the hotel and another one of his female friends had flown in for the weekend too............

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 39 year old engaged woman and my fiancé is terrific, but I need your advice. My fiancé and I met in the Emergency Room, when I treated him for a minor illness. He flirted a little and told me that his mom used to be a nurse, so that made me even more attractive. We went on a date a couple of weeks after that and we’ve been together since then. I do most of the cooking and he prefers for me to only cook meals from his late mother’s handwritten recipe book. Her recipes are really good so I didn’t make a big deal out of that.............

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