We've all been there — someone we love is struggling, and we desperately want to help… but we don't know how. Do we step in? Step back? Offer words? Bring dinner? Sometimes, the hardest part of supporting someone is figuring out what support actually looks like.

In this heartfelt conversation, Jordan Arogeti, co-founder of Support Now and speaker of a powerful TED Talk explains why knowing someone's Support Language is the key to giving the kind of help that actually makes a difference & introduces the idea of Support Languages — a way to identify and honor the unique ways people want and need care. She shares her personal journey through motherhood, identity shifts, and invisible labor, and why learning to give and receive support has changed everything.

Together, we unpack the myths of "having it all," the weight women silently carry, and why support isn't a sign of weakness — it's one of the bravest, strongest choices we can make.

✨ What you'll hear in this episode:

• Why "having it all" leaves women exhausted and unfulfilled

• How Support Languages make offering help easier and more meaningful

• The invisible mental load most of us never name — but always feel

• Jordan's path to co-founding Support Now and reimagining care for families

• Why asking for and receiving help is an act of strength, not failure

"Support isn't weakness — it's the strongest choice we can make."

Connect with Jordan:

• Learn more about Support Now:

• Take the Support Languages quiz

• Watch Jordan Arogeti's TED Talk:

RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE TO "DON'T CUT YOUR OWN BANGS"

Like your favorite recipe or song, the best things in life are shared. When you rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast, your engagement helps me connect with other listeners just like you. Plus, subscriptions just make life easier for everybody. It's one less thing for you to think about and you can easily keep up to date on everything that's new. So, please rate, review, and subscribe today.

DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW

I greatly appreciate your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below.

Connect with Danielle:

• Watch the show on YouTube

• Instagram

• The Treasured Journal

• Wrestling a Walrus