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Hello and welcome to the final episode in our series, “Riding the Waves.” This has been an exploration to find what becomes available to us when we hold big ideas, big feelings, and big problems a little more lightly. So far, Juanita Molano Parra and I have looked at the issue through the lens of the following questions:
-Where should I start?
-What should I do?
-What if I fail?
-What now?
In this final episode, we bring it all together by asking “What do I know?” Juanita and I have really enjoyed sharing and bouncing ideas off of each other as a way to determine why these big things can be so challenging, what gets in the way of progress, and, ultimately, what opens up for us when we add some mindfulness to our approach.
Thank you so much for joining us on this journey. Your time, your care, and your attention mean more to me than you know!
And a big, very special THANK YOU to Juanita for her time, her knowledge, her insight, and her friendship. It’s been a blast!
Be sure to listen next time as "Don't Cut Your Own Bangs" continues to navigate the messy middle between where we are and where we want to be.
JUANITA MOLANO PARRA, MBA, PCC
Juanita is an engineer and MBA turned certified life and leadership coach. Originally from Colombia, she worked in multinational corporate finance and later started her own coaching business—training new coaches and partnering with organizations to transform culture and leadership from within. Her business, Jump Coaching, helps leaders live authentically, lead with purpose, and turn their dreams into reality. Juanita lives in Indianapolis with her husband, their daughter, and two cats.
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Welcome to the penultimate episode in our series, “Riding the Waves,” in which Juanita Molano Parra and I examine what comes up, what opens up, and what becomes available when we hold big ideas, big feelings, and big problems a little more lightly.
Join Juanita and me as we consider “What Now?” As with the other questions in our series, this prompt helps us find a way to work through the big, challenging things and deal with what gets in the way of progress. Here are a few observations from our discussion:
-Asking “what now?” can introduce confusion or fear of consequences.
-Be present. Assess how you feel and what you’re experiencing at this moment.
-What’s happening now is not necessarily urgent. Consider taking a pause.
-Simply being in the now can help lighten your grip on big things.
Thank you for listening and be sure to tune in next time for the final episode in our series. Your time, your care, and your attention mean more to me than you know!
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JUANITA MOLANO PARRA, MBA, PCC
Juanita is a certified life and leadership coach. Her business, Jump Coaching, helps leaders live authentically, lead with purpose, and turn their dreams into reality.
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It seems counterintuitive to actually loosen your grip on something that you care about. But, that’s what Juanita Molano Parra and I are examining in our series, “Riding the Waves.” We’re looking at what comes up, what opens up, and what becomes available when we hold big ideas, big feelings, and big problems a little more lightly. Can this technique help us navigate rough emotional waters?
As a way in, Juanita and I pose several questions that indicate how we approach and manage “big things.” This episode continues our breakdown of “what’s at stake?” Stakes can be both inspirational and paralyzing. We explore how stakes motivate (and demotivate) us, share what gets in the way of progress, and use real-life examples to provide context. Here are a few thoughts from our discussion:
Do we create unrealistic expectations when we use educational information to measure our success?
How can we balance self development with the pitfalls of perfectionism?
Using how-to resources for growth and development can be constraining, but “enlightenment will always taste of freedom.” (A quote of a quote.)
Best practices can provide a sense of permission in the face of risk.
Possibility is the flip side of risk, and possibility can be filled with beauty, magic, and joy.
Join us next time as our series continues. Thank you for listening!
JUANITA MOLANO PARRA, MBA, PCC
Juanita is an engineer and MBA turned certified life and leadership coach. Originally from Colombia, she worked in multinational corporate finance and later started her own coaching business—training new coaches and partnering with organizations to transform culture and leadership from within. Her business, Jump Coaching, helps leaders live authentically, lead with purpose, and turn their dreams into reality. Juanita lives in Indianapolis with her husband, their daughter, and two cats.
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DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW
Thank you for your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below.
Website - https://danielleireland.com/
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Hello and thank you for joining Juanita Molano Parra and me as we continue “Riding the Waves,” the series in which we examine what comes up, what opens up, and what becomes available when we loosen our grip on big ideas, big feelings, and big problems. By holding big things a little more lightly, it becomes easier to ride the turbulent emotional waves.
This episode introduces the question, “what’s at stake?” Stakes can be both good and bad, penalty and reward, inspirational and paralyzing. We explore how stakes motivate us, what gets in the way, and real-life examples for context. Here are a few observations from our discussion:
Parenting, in particular, carries huge stakes. Additional stakes can surface with people who are asked to watch our children or who have opinions on how our children are being raised.
Social media can affect how we view stakes and prompt us to doubt ourselves.
Sometimes there is conflict between how much something matters and how to make that thing happen.
The actual stakes can be very different from what we perceive to be at stake.
We can feel attachments to a variety of things including people, outcomes, stories, and the way things have always been done.
Thank you for listening. Tune in next time for part 2 of "What's at Stake?"
JUANITA MOLANO PARRA, MBA, PCC
Juanita is an engineer and MBA turned certified life and leadership coach. Originally from Colombia, she worked in multinational corporate finance and later started her own coaching business—training new coaches and partnering with organizations to transform culture and leadership from within. Her business, Jump Coaching, helps leaders live authentically, lead with purpose, and turn their dreams into reality. Juanita lives in Indianapolis with her husband, their daughter, and two cats.
Jump Coaching - www.jumpcoaching.co
Jump Start newsletter - https://www.jumpcoaching.co/newsletter
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/juanitamp/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jumpcoaching.co/
Email - [email protected]
DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW
Thank you for your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below.
Website - https://danielleireland.com/
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Hello! Thank you for joining Juanita Molano Parra and me as we pick up from our last discussion and dive deeper into the question, "what if I fail?" This is the third question in our series, “Riding the Waves,” where we examine what comes up, what opens up, and what becomes available when we hold big ideas, big feelings, and big problems a little more lightly.
Several interesting ideas became clear during the first part of our discussion on fear and failure. Now, we consider why the mere possibility of failure can be so difficult to manage and discuss how we often get in the way of our own progress. In addition to sharing real-world examples, we also offer a helpful exercise for loosening that tight grip on the big things in life.
Here are some of the discussion points from this episode:
We have to learn to navigate “what if I fail?” so that we keep moving toward our goals and dreams.
Failure and judgment are closely related.
When we ruminate and let negative thoughts run free, our bodies react as though we’re actually under threat, which can reinforce the negativity.
Because fear of failure can include other fears, such as fear of rejection, we experience an increased sense of risk.
Failure to acknowledge a fear makes it difficult to manage the risks.
Fear can tell us a lot about ourselves.
The “Three Column Exercise” is a great resource because it gives your fears a voice.
Take an inventory of your resources. Most likely, they will be more plentiful than you think and can help ease some of the fear you may be feeling.
Fear can shrink your focus and your view of what’s real, but lightening your grip on the fear allows clarity to come into view.
Once we’re clear on what we fear, we can ask: What is to be addressed? What is to be healed? What is to be tackled? These questions naturally lead to “What’s at stake?” And that is the question we examine next time in our series, “Riding the Waves.”
Thank you for listening!
JUANITA MOLANO PARRA, MBA, PCC
Juanita is an engineer and MBA turned certified life and leadership coach. Originally from Colombia, she worked in multinational corporate finance and later started her own coaching business—training new coaches and partnering with organizations to transform culture and leadership from within. Her business, Jump Coaching, helps leaders live authentically, lead with purpose, and turn their dreams into reality. Juanita lives in Indianapolis with her husband, their daughter, and two cats.
Jump Coaching - www.jumpcoaching.co
Jump Start newsletter - https://www.jumpcoaching.co/newsletter
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/juanitamp/
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DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW
Thank you for your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below.
Website - https://danielleireland.com/
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Blog - https://danielleireland.com/blog/
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Welcome back and thank you for joining Juanita Molano Parra and me as we examine what comes up, what opens up, and what becomes available when we hold big ideas, big feelings, and big problems a little more lightly. This is an approach to well-being that begins with a question and often leads to other questions. But, if the answers can help us loosen our grip on those big scary things, then it becomes a bit easier to ride the turbulent emotional waves.
This episode in our series introduces the question, “what if I fail?” We explore why the concept of failure is hard and what gets in the way of healthy processing. We also offer real-life examples to provide context. Here are a few observations from our discussion:
Facing fear of failure is easier when you’re not facing it alone because it can create a new intentionality or a new framework for moving forward.
Self sabotage can deceptively take the form of something worthwhile.
Changing expectations can change fear levels and create more room to fail.
Can judgment provide meaning?
When we have a death grip on the big things, it can be helpful to speak them aloud.
Thank you for listening! Join us again next time for the second part of our deep dive into “what if I fail?”
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Getting your thoughts out of your head and down on the page is a simple act that can change your life. The questions, prompts, and sentence stems in the journal will help you explore the big feelings in your life. Learn more at https://danielleireland.com/journal.
JUANITA MOLANO PARRA, MBA, PCC
Juanita is an engineer and MBA turned certified life and leadership coach. Originally from Colombia, she worked in multinational corporate finance and later started her own coaching business—training new coaches and partnering with organizations to transform culture and leadership from within. Her business, Jump Coaching, helps leaders live authentically, lead with purpose, and turn their dreams into reality. Juanita lives in Indianapolis with her husband, their daughter, and two cats.
Jump Coaching - www.jumpcoaching.co
Jump Start newsletter - https://www.jumpcoaching.co/newsletter
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Email - [email protected]
DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW
Thank you for your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below.
Website - https://danielleireland.com/
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Blog - https://danielleireland.com/blog/
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Thank you for joining Juanita Molano Parra and me for our continuing series, “Riding the Waves.” We are looking at several questions designed to help us navigate big feelings, big situations, and big questions. We know that holding these big things lightly can make them less overwhelming and more approachable. Even better, new things become accessible and possible when we hold the challenging things lightly. Here are some observations as we continue our discussion of, “What should I do?”
“Experiencing” the result of a plan (rather than just “executing” a plan) is an example of a new thing becoming accessible.
“Should” can cast a shadow. That shadow is probably some form of discomfort that we don’t want to acknowledge.
When discomfort is acknowledged—and the grip on the discomfort is lightened—then it’s easier to see what we know to do, what we’re ready to do, and what we want to do.
We can be more comfortable with the discomfort of others when we don't make their discomfort about us.
There's a lot of control wrapped up in “should.”
Thank you for listening. Tune in next week for our discussion of “What if I fail?”
JUANITA MOLANO PARRA, MBA, PCC
Juanita is an engineer and MBA turned certified life and leadership coach. Originally from Colombia, she worked in multinational corporate finance and later started her own coaching business—training new coaches and partnering with organizations to transform culture and leadership from within. Her business, Jump Coaching, helps leaders live authentically, lead with purpose, and turn their dreams into reality. Juanita lives in Indianapolis with her husband, their daughter, and two cats.
Jump Coaching - www.jumpcoaching.co
Jump Start newsletter - https://www.jumpcoaching.co/newsletter
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/juanitamp/
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Email - [email protected]
DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW
Thank you for your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share.
Website - https://danielleireland.com/
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Blog - https://danielleireland.com/blog/
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Welcome back as Juanita Molano Parra and I explore the next question in our series, “Riding the Waves.” In this series, we are looking at several questions as a way to navigate big feelings, big situations, and big questions. We’re considering how to hold these big things lightly so that they are less overwhelming and scary… and more approachable. New things become accessible and possible when we hold the challenging things lightly, and it’s those new possibilities we hope to reveal.
In the first of this two-part discussion on “What Should I Do,” we zoom in on all the work being done by the word “should.” Here are just a few our observations:
Where does “should” come from?
What gets in the way of purposeful “shoulds”?
In many cases, “what should I do” is not defining the next step in a plan. Instead, “should” is used as an avoidance tactic.
“Should” can be rooted in perfectionism and control.
“What should I do?” is very different from “this is what I am going to do.”
What do I know to do? What am I ready to do? What do I want to do? And, how do those questions stack up next to: What do I know? What am I ready for? What do I want?
Thank you for listening!
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JUANITA MOLANO PARRA, MBA, PCC
Juanita is an engineer and MBA turned certified life and leadership coach. Originally from Colombia, she worked in multinational corporate finance and later started her own coaching business—training new coaches and partnering with organizations to transform culture and leadership from within. Her business, Jump Coaching, helps leaders live authentically, lead with purpose, and turn their dreams into reality. Juanita lives in Indianapolis with her husband, their daughter, and two cats.
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DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW
Thank you for your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share.
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Juanita and I are excited to be back with the next episode in our miniseries, Riding the Waves. The logical first question, “where should I start,” has prompted a lot of discussion around finding confidence in the uncertainty of big feelings and big situations. Here are some of the topics we address::
Starting Messy: It’s okay if your beginning feels imperfect—give yourself permission to start anyway.
Getting Stuck: Negative self-talk and the fear of how things might turn out can stop us before we take even the first step.
Plans vs. Uncertainty: We often collapse “how is it going to go?” with “how is it going to turn out?” They’re not the same. Learn to separate them.
Navigating with a Map or a Compass: Some people need a detailed plan or map, while others are comfortable just knowing which way is north.
Art and Science of New Beginnings: Where do intuition and logic meet? Balancing creativity with practicality can help us step into the unknown with more confidence.
Handling Misalignment: It’s normal for reality to differ from your vision or dream. What matters is learning from past experiences and trusting that you can handle whatever comes your way.
The “Why” and “The Plan”: Understanding your “why” clarifies the right next step. Gaining clarity can help build self-esteem and self-awareness, even in uncertain times.
Holding Plans Lightly: A light touch avoids rigid thinking and attachment to things you can’t control.
This was such a fun conversation! Tune in next week as we continue to explore the paradox of holding on and letting go, and how to ride the emotional waves that come with new beginnings.
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JUANITA MOLANO PARRA, MBA, PCC
Juanita is an engineer and MBA turned certified life and leadership coach. Originally from Colombia, she worked in multinational corporate finance and later started her own coaching business—training new coaches and partnering with organizations to transform culture and leadership from within. Her business, Jump Coaching, helps leaders live authentically, lead with purpose, and turn their dreams into reality. Juanita lives in Indianapolis with her husband, their daughter, and two cats.
Jump Coaching - www.jumpcoaching.co
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Phone - 317.969.7363
DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW
Thank you for your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below.
Website - https://danielleireland.com/
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Hello! I’m excited to be back with the 16th season of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs podcast! This season—all season—I am joined by Juanita Molano Parra, an experienced life and leadership coach. Together, we are going to examine ways to navigate big feelings, big situations, and big questions. More specifically, we’ll consider what becomes possible and available when we hold big ideas lightly. Our conversations will focus on looking for ways to make the harder, more challenging times in life feel more approachable, less confusing and scary.
In each episode we’ll name a topic, explore why it is hard to deal with, and call out the things that get in the way of clarity. We’ll share real-life experiences, including many of our own. Instead of offering hard and fast solutions, we will discuss practices, habits, and ideas for you to explore. In other words, we won’t be making the emotional waves smaller, but we will provide ways for you to feel more confident stepping into the water and seeing where the ride takes you.
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JUANITA MOLANO PARRA, MBA, PCC
Juanita is an engineer and MBA turned certified life and leadership coach. Originally from Colombia, she worked in multinational corporate finance and later started her own coaching business—training new coaches and partnering with organizations to transform culture and leadership from within. Her business, Jump Coaching, helps leaders live authentically, lead with purpose, and turn their dreams into reality. Juanita lives in Indianapolis with her husband, their daughter, and two cats.
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Phone - 317.969.7363
DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW
Thank you for your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below.
Website - https://danielleireland.com/
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