Take TWO: A Dose of Mental Wellness

In this episode Stacy and Lindsay celebrate Lindsay turning the big 31! They chat about the ups and downs of parenthood and Stacy shares how she wishes she knew about the FAIR PLAY SYSTEM (for dividing up domestic labor) before she had kids.
They explore:     
-The stress of deciding when to start a family, pregnancy anxieties and the ups     and downs of parenthood.     
-Invisible domestic tasks and the mental load of parenting.     
-The “Fair Play” system and how it helps divide up household tasks fairly and based on the unique needs of each couple.       
-How Fair Play helps couples establish their values and the minimum standard of care behind each task.     
-The value in keeping passions beyond parenting and your profession.   
 -Reclaiming your right to be interested and interesting after having kids.     

 Take Two this week by evaluating the division of labor in your relationship, including the invisible tasks and mental load. Note what is working and what changes you would like to see. If the Fair Play system is of interest it is linked below.
https://www.fairplaylife.com

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay welcome Victoria Byrd, pharmacist turned Integrative Women’s Health Coach. After having her symptoms dismissed and being told she was too young for perimenopause, Victoria made it her mission to help other women through the MENOPAUSE TRANSITION. She creates personalized game plans with clients so that they can thrive during perimenopause and menopause. Victoria shares her expertise on women’s health issues, including:
 -Natural hormone balancing vs. hormone replacement therapy. 
-Bio-identical hormones as an option for treating symptoms. 
-The role of progesterone and how it’s decline in midlife contributes to mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression. 
-The rollercoaster of estrogen in perimenopause and how it can result in feelings of rage, irritability and aggression. 
-The importance of creating a web of support for this time in life. 
-Ways to prioritize good sleep hygiene and rest. 
-Tips for using nutrition and movement to benefit your health. 
-The role alcohol plays in menopause symptoms. 

Take Two this week by adding rest into your schedule. Even though it likely isn’t on your “to do” list, Victoria suggests that we add it. So, take some time to decompress, rest and reset.
Follow Victoria on Instagram @msvictoriabyrd 

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Stacy and Lindsay are excited to be back for a second season! In this episode they recap their summer and discuss what they are seeing in their office during the BACK TO SCHOOL TRANSITION. 
They explore: 
-Lindsay’s small plane experience, international travels and house guests. 
-Stacy’s summer spent going back and forth between colleges and what life looks like now with just one kid at home. 
-The range of emotions felt when your kids leave for college. And it’s impact on your identity, relationships and family dynamics.
-Tips for making friends and meeting new people in college. 
-When you should let your homesick or anxious kid come home from college for the first time. 
-How to manage school refusal and hard mornings for elementary, middle and high-school kids. 
-Helpful morning routines, clear expectations and rules for screens. 
-Why a set homework time and next-day check-in can be helpful. 

Take Two this week by looking at what worked for your family last school year and what didn’t. Where would it be helpful to change your approach or expectations? Be intentional with the parts of your routine that you can control and use this transition time to reset.

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In this episode we continue the conversation with Michael Allio from the Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise where we talk about dating in the public eye, and how he won't settle until he finds the level of love he's looking for. 

Keep up with Michael on Instagram @michael_alliol4

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay welcome Michael Allio from The Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise. Michael discloses how he deals with the grief of losing his wife to cancer, the way he is raising their son and how keeping his curiosity for life helps him with all of it. He shares so much wisdom that the episode will be 2 parts. 
In part one we learn:     
-The one thing he tries to implement to have a healthy mindset as he enters his  40s.    
 -How he ended up on The Bachelorette and the impact of that decision.     
-His grief journey after his wife passed away and what people don’t understand about living with loss.     
-The value of just being there alongside someone who is grieving  and the wisdom found in the children’s book “The Rabbit Listened.”     
-The importance of changing his relationship to pain and how embracing it led him to growth.    
 -How he created a foundation (The L4 Project) to support individuals on their cancer journey. And how being of service to others helped him cope with his loss.    
 -Dealing with judgement and how he has come to accept criticism on social media.    
 -His thoughts on how he will parent in the age of social media. 

Take Two by checking out the book Michael referenced: 

https://www.amazon.com/dp/073522935X/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_G6MCETKHY98TR5XYV0EP?linkCode=ml2&tag=vineandpress-20

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay share their “ICKS” for each other. After 5 years of being business partners and friends they decided it was time to reveal the things about one another that drive them crazy! After that dicey discussion they get clinical in their conversation about mindset and the NEGATIVITY BIAS. 
They explore:
 -All the “icks” of working together. Including stolen clocks, unanswered texts, scary zoom faces, excessive email addresses, arguing over chrome and much more!
 -The negativity bias and how our mind sees more of what we focus on.
 -The importance of balanced thinking, gratitude and optimism.

 Take Two this week by building awareness of your negativity bias and challenging those thoughts when appropriate. And not leaning so hard into your “icks!”

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay interview two renowned experts on TEENS AND TECHNOLOGY. Dr. Emily Weinstein and Dr. Jacqueline Nesi are psychologists, researchers, and moms who have studied the role of technology in kids’ mental health and development for over a decade. They used their data to create the “Tech Without Stress” course, helping families make more informed decisions about technology. Today they answer all of our questions and break down:
 -What teens told them they wish adults understood about tech.
 -How we can support kids in managing their friendships during this time of constant communication.
 -Questions parents can ask to better understand areas where their kids are struggling. -How to transition from referee to coach in helping kids navigate social media. 
-The social support burden that kids report. 
-The importance of modeling good boundaries with tech habits. 
-The shift away from screen time as a focus and what they found to be a more important factor when deciding on screen limits. 
-Research supporting that different kids need different rules and why we have to parent differently depending on each child’s sensitivities. 
-The value of “co-viewing” screens with kids of all ages. 
-Social media cleanses and curating a social media feed that helps kids feel positive. 
-The pros and cons of device use for younger kids. 

Our guests suggest that we Take Two by being mindful of how we want technology to fit into our lives. They offer two specific questions to help us reflect on our tech use, in the hopes that we can improve our relationship with social media and technology.

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay discuss the Netflix documentary “THE PROGRAM: CONS, CULTS AND KIDNAPPINGS.” This docuseries was developed by a former student of a disciplinary school and aims to expose the corruption of the troubled teen industry. The abuse inflicted on kids was hard to watch and they have lots of thoughts and feelings to share. After breaking down the documentary Stacy and Lindsay discuss the different levels of care for mental health treatment and how to know when you need more support. 
They explore: 
-The troubled teen industry and how it preys on worried parents.
 -How the model of this school deprived kids of connection and support, resulting in complex trauma for many of the students. 
-Paris Hilton’s experience at this type of facility and her advocacy work to prevent these programs from operating. -Red flags to look for when seeking a higher level of mental health treatment. 
-The various levels of support for mental health, what each one looks like and when it is most appropriate. 

Instead of suggesting a Take Two they recommend some of their favorite documentaries and summarize them so you can pick one to watch.

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay dive into all things FRIENDSHIP related. Friends are crucial to our health and well being so it is worth reflecting on how we develop and maintain friendships. Today they talk about their own friendship and also explore:

-Characteristics of a quality friend.

-Friendship shifts and why expectations and roles can change over time.

-Transition phases where friendships may be harder.

-How being a people-pleaser can cause resentment in friendships and tips for saying no to friends when you feel pressured.

-Ways to connect when you want more friends.

-Signs of an unhealthy friendship. 

Take Two by reflecting on your friendships. How do you show up for friends and how do they show up for you? Consider if you are satisfied with where you are putting your time and energy. Think about telling a good friend them how much you appreciate them.

As a Take Two bonus, we hear from Kathy and Maggie, childhood besties of Stacy and Lindsay. They share some stories and tell us why they think their friendship has lasted through every life stage. Thanks Maggie and Kathy!

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay share 5 TIPS FOR RAISING CONFIDENT KIDS. Recently they have seen more kids with low confidence and a high fear of failure. Many kids are struggling but the good news is that confidence is a skill to be built and parents can help. Today they give specific tools that parents can use to foster confidence. They explore:

-How “labeled praise” fosters a growth mindset. 

-One family practice you can implement that will help kids reframe mistakes and encourage resilience.

-The importance of allowing independence in decision making so kids learn to trust their abilities and how this was a hard lesson for Stacy.

-The 2 extreme ways parents often react to big emotions and how this can have a negativeimpact.

-Specific questions parents can ask to improve a child or teens problem solving skills.

-The connection between low confidence and social skills and how to help build those lacking skills.

-Phrases parents can use to foster open conversation. 

-How to model positive self talk and confidence.

Take Two this week by picking one confidence building tip to implement or encouraging your child to take a healthy risk. Let us know what is the most helpful!

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