In this episode we continue the conversation with Michael Allio from the Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise where we talk about dating in the public eye, and how he won't settle until he finds the level of love he's looking for. 

Keep up with Michael on Instagram @michael_alliol4

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay welcome Michael Allio from The Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise. Michael discloses how he deals with the grief of losing his wife to cancer, the way he is raising their son and how keeping his curiosity for life helps him with all of it. He shares so much wisdom that the episode will be 2 parts. 
In part one we learn:     
-The one thing he tries to implement to have a healthy mindset as he enters his  40s.    
 -How he ended up on The Bachelorette and the impact of that decision.     
-His grief journey after his wife passed away and what people don’t understand about living with loss.     
-The value of just being there alongside someone who is grieving  and the wisdom found in the children’s book “The Rabbit Listened.”     
-The importance of changing his relationship to pain and how embracing it led him to growth.    
 -How he created a foundation (The L4 Project) to support individuals on their cancer journey. And how being of service to others helped him cope with his loss.    
 -Dealing with judgement and how he has come to accept criticism on social media.    
 -His thoughts on how he will parent in the age of social media. 

Take Two by checking out the book Michael referenced: 

https://www.amazon.com/dp/073522935X/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_G6MCETKHY98TR5XYV0EP?linkCode=ml2&tag=vineandpress-20

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay share their “ICKS” for each other. After 5 years of being business partners and friends they decided it was time to reveal the things about one another that drive them crazy! After that dicey discussion they get clinical in their conversation about mindset and the NEGATIVITY BIAS. 
They explore:
 -All the “icks” of working together. Including stolen clocks, unanswered texts, scary zoom faces, excessive email addresses, arguing over chrome and much more!
 -The negativity bias and how our mind sees more of what we focus on.
 -The importance of balanced thinking, gratitude and optimism.

 Take Two this week by building awareness of your negativity bias and challenging those thoughts when appropriate. And not leaning so hard into your “icks!”

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay interview two renowned experts on TEENS AND TECHNOLOGY. Dr. Emily Weinstein and Dr. Jacqueline Nesi are psychologists, researchers, and moms who have studied the role of technology in kids’ mental health and development for over a decade. They used their data to create the “Tech Without Stress” course, helping families make more informed decisions about technology. Today they answer all of our questions and break down:
 -What teens told them they wish adults understood about tech.
 -How we can support kids in managing their friendships during this time of constant communication.
 -Questions parents can ask to better understand areas where their kids are struggling. -How to transition from referee to coach in helping kids navigate social media. 
-The social support burden that kids report. 
-The importance of modeling good boundaries with tech habits. 
-The shift away from screen time as a focus and what they found to be a more important factor when deciding on screen limits. 
-Research supporting that different kids need different rules and why we have to parent differently depending on each child’s sensitivities. 
-The value of “co-viewing” screens with kids of all ages. 
-Social media cleanses and curating a social media feed that helps kids feel positive. 
-The pros and cons of device use for younger kids. 

Our guests suggest that we Take Two by being mindful of how we want technology to fit into our lives. They offer two specific questions to help us reflect on our tech use, in the hopes that we can improve our relationship with social media and technology.

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay discuss the Netflix documentary “THE PROGRAM: CONS, CULTS AND KIDNAPPINGS.” This docuseries was developed by a former student of a disciplinary school and aims to expose the corruption of the troubled teen industry. The abuse inflicted on kids was hard to watch and they have lots of thoughts and feelings to share. After breaking down the documentary Stacy and Lindsay discuss the different levels of care for mental health treatment and how to know when you need more support. 
They explore: 
-The troubled teen industry and how it preys on worried parents.
 -How the model of this school deprived kids of connection and support, resulting in complex trauma for many of the students. 
-Paris Hilton’s experience at this type of facility and her advocacy work to prevent these programs from operating. -Red flags to look for when seeking a higher level of mental health treatment. 
-The various levels of support for mental health, what each one looks like and when it is most appropriate. 

Instead of suggesting a Take Two they recommend some of their favorite documentaries and summarize them so you can pick one to watch.

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay dive into all things FRIENDSHIP related. Friends are crucial to our health and well being so it is worth reflecting on how we develop and maintain friendships. Today they talk about their own friendship and also explore:

-Characteristics of a quality friend.

-Friendship shifts and why expectations and roles can change over time.

-Transition phases where friendships may be harder.

-How being a people-pleaser can cause resentment in friendships and tips for saying no to friends when you feel pressured.

-Ways to connect when you want more friends.

-Signs of an unhealthy friendship. 

Take Two by reflecting on your friendships. How do you show up for friends and how do they show up for you? Consider if you are satisfied with where you are putting your time and energy. Think about telling a good friend them how much you appreciate them.

As a Take Two bonus, we hear from Kathy and Maggie, childhood besties of Stacy and Lindsay. They share some stories and tell us why they think their friendship has lasted through every life stage. Thanks Maggie and Kathy!

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay share 5 TIPS FOR RAISING CONFIDENT KIDS. Recently they have seen more kids with low confidence and a high fear of failure. Many kids are struggling but the good news is that confidence is a skill to be built and parents can help. Today they give specific tools that parents can use to foster confidence. They explore:

-How “labeled praise” fosters a growth mindset. 

-One family practice you can implement that will help kids reframe mistakes and encourage resilience.

-The importance of allowing independence in decision making so kids learn to trust their abilities and how this was a hard lesson for Stacy.

-The 2 extreme ways parents often react to big emotions and how this can have a negativeimpact.

-Specific questions parents can ask to improve a child or teens problem solving skills.

-The connection between low confidence and social skills and how to help build those lacking skills.

-Phrases parents can use to foster open conversation. 

-How to model positive self talk and confidence.

Take Two this week by picking one confidence building tip to implement or encouraging your child to take a healthy risk. Let us know what is the most helpful!

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay discuss APOLOGIZING and FORGIVENESS. This was prompted by Lindsay receiving an email apology years after the initial incident. They explore:

-Why it is so hard to apologize.

-The appropriate time to apologize.

-How a good apology can strengthen a relationship.

-The important distinction between an apology and forgiveness. 

-The four step framework for a genuine apology

-Why people over-apologize and the impact of over-apologizing.

-Reasons it is important for parents to apologize to their kids. 

-Using the best friend rule to forgive yourself. 

You can Take Two this week by building awareness around your apologies. If you owe someone an apology use the factors discussed to deliver a meaningful and genuine apology. Or if there is something from your past that you feel bad about, take two and write out an apology (to yourself or to someone else) so you can release it. 

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay interview Bryce Spencer Jones. Lindsay met Bryce at the Harvard Creator Summit for mental health focused social media creators and was inspired by his message and dedication. Bryce is a creator and host of the Unstuck Yourself Podcast. He compassionately discusses mental health, overcoming traumas, finding self-worth, going through breakups and more. 
Today with Bryce, they explore:

-Bryce’s passion for mental health advocacy.
-The years he struggled with social anxiety and selective mutism and how this experience led to his profound journey of self-exploration and inner growth.
-How he reclaimed his voice and now uses it to connect with others as they overcome their own struggles. 
-The role Stoicism has played in his life.
-The ways that his family supported him through his anxiety.
-His tips for moving out of your comfort zone…this includes skydiving and Stacy is shocked to hear that he and Lindsay have this in common!
-How he deals with negativity on social media. 

They then let Bryce share how he Takes Two to support his own self awareness and mental health.

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In this episode Stacy and Lindsay discuss strategies and tools that they recommend to parents of children with ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER (ADD or ADHD). And how adjustments in parenting that account for differences in the ADHD brain can result in less chaotic relationships and a calmer home environment. These tips also apply to adults and can be used with a partner or friend with ADHD. They explore:

-The ways that ADHD causes stress yet can also be a super power. 

-Common behavioral issues seen in kids with ADHD and strategies for managing behaviors and big emotions. 

-The impact of the ADHD burnout cycle.

-How to help kids identify where they get stuck and help them build skills to decrease impact. 

-Why they frame ADHD in terms of regulation. 

-How untreated ADHD can diminish the benefits of the ADHD brain.

-Why parental co-regulation and consistency is important when reacting. 

-Specific tools and language that can decrease power struggles

-Tips for decluttering, organizing and other executive functioning deficits. 

-The importance of “stop and think” skills for impulsivity.

Take Two this week and observe where your ADHD child (or partner) is excelling and where they are stuck. After identifying a struggle, work on building the lagging skill that is missing. See “The Explosive Child” book for more direction on lagging skills. 

-https://drrossgreene.com/the-explosive-child.htm (https://drrossgreene.com/the-explosive-child.htm)

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