Today on the podcast I talk with Benjamin from Washington. Benjamin is navigating his life post divorce… wanting to find an emotionally safe environment for himself moving forward and wondering how to do that.

We spend a lot of time talking about the fact that emotional safety isn’t something that you necessarily “find” as much as it is something you have to create with intentionality. I help him get to the root of some of his emotional needs, and why it took him so long to identify those needs.

We chat about our own role in cultivating emotional safety, and what that looks like in a practical way in our relationships.

If you want to create an emotionally healthy relationship, this episode will encourage you!

Tune in to this powerful conversation!

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Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with a woman who is struggling with some underlying anxiety about dating!

She’s having a hard time figuring out if the fears she’s having are legitimate or not!

Do I have anxiety because this dating relationship isn’t the right fit or do I have anxiety because I’m just scared?

And how do you know the difference? Today we talk about facing your fears, recognizing false alarms, important mindset shifts, and dealing with underlying anxiety in dating!

Tune in to this powerful conversation today!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Am I over my divorce? Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with Jerrod who is wondering if he’s actually moved on from the pain of his divorce. He’s battling feelings of regret from the decisions he’s made in his past, and feeling unable to move forward.

In this emotional conversation, we unpack some of the things that he did to contribute to his marriage falling apart…including his personal sexual struggles— and then I give him steps that he can begin to take to move forward into healing.

Tune in to this powerful conversation today!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Today I chat with Rebekah from Florida about how to navigate an unhealthy marriage, especially when you have children, who you are trying to raise in a healthy way!

The most interesting part about my conversation with Rebekah is that by the time I was able to get to her question, things had already began to shift in her life!!!

She started consuming my podcast and my books, and realized that a huge portion to creating a healthy marriage was learning how to get healthy standing alone… And she got started on her own journey of healing!!

Honestly, I was so inspired and encouraged by my conversation with her… And it’s a testament to the fact that when you begin to do the personal work in your life, things begin to shift in your life!!! You are not going to believe her story!! It brought tears to my eyes.

For anyone who is in the middle of an unhealthy or difficult marriage, I believe this conversation will give you hope and the perspective you need to take the next steps — even if your spouse is not willing to do the same.

Tune in today!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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What happens when mental health struggles impact your relationship?

On this final of couples therapy, I’m joined by Amanda and Tim. Tim has found himself struggling with trust issues, because of the difficult journey they have been on over the past few years.

Amanda has struggled with infidelity in their relationship, but underneath the surface of it all she had been battling bipolar disorder.

The ups and downs of their relationship have correlated to her mental health, and they have found themselves struggling to know how to move forward.

this conversation is so important, because too many people failed to address the underlying mental health issues that may be having a significant impact on a relationship!!

In order for the marriage to heal, the mental illness has to be healed and addressed. Today we talked through what that looks like… and steps for them moving forward.

Tune into this important couples therapy session!!!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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On today’s episode of couples therapy, I talk with Tim and Kathy Bush! This couple has been through so many hard things yet has come out the other side….

From addiction to affairs to control and trauma, and everything in between, it’s truly a miracle that they are together today and have a message to share.

It’s amazing how little we often know about marriage going into it. But like I always say, marriage is a mirror to our wounds and weaknesses… It exposes everything. But it also invites us into healing!!

This couple has definitely proved that to be true. So sit back and listen to their unbelievable story!! And then ask yourself, what needs to be healed in your life and in your relationships?

Tune in now!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Today we continue our MOST POPULAR series of the podcast — COUPLES THERAPY!!! I’ve invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories. 

The conversations are raw, real, and authentic…for a look into marriage you’ve never had before. 

Today’s couple is struggling with boundaries with the opposite sex! After overcoming an affair, they find themselves navigating what is OK and not OK in their marriage.

She’s feeling insecure and jealous, and he’s feeling misunderstood and controlled… And in this episode, I help them unpack their needs, fears, and struggles as they come head to head with their differences.

I can’t wait for you to hear this powerful episode! Tune in today!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Today we begin the MOST POPULAR series of the podcast — COUPLES THERAPY!!! Over the next four weeks, I’ve invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories. 

The conversations are raw, real, and authentic…for a look into marriage you’ve never had before. 

Today’s couple is Dave and Ashley Willis! You may recognize their name from their ministry and work at XO marriage.

Today, Dave and Ashley get real about a really difficult season they navigated in their marriage including stress, porn addiction, and deceit.

But I know they are not alone. I hear from so many of you that are battling porn problems in your marriage right now, and it’s an epidemic we have to face head on!

Their journey of healing has not stopped, and God has used their healing to impact so many other couples… I know you will be blessed by this on air session! I can’t wait for you to hear this powerful episode!

Tune in today!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Today I have an on air session with Faith Eury Cho. 

Faith and I talk about a difficult season she went through when everything was falling apart and it seemed like she had no one to blame but herself. We talk through the concept of self-blame, where it comes from, and how we can begin to take ownership of what’s ours to own vs. what’s not! 

In this one-air counseling session we talk through the details of her childhood, her Korean-American upbringing, increasing our expectations of God, and learning to let others own what belongs to them. We process why it’s so easy for her to take more blame and responsibility on her shoulders than she deserves. 

Listen to this powerful session with Faith, and as you do, ask yourself where you might need to “shift” some of the responsibility and ownership in your life in healthy ways. 

Tune in now!

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Today I have an on air session with Havilah Cunnington.

Havilah and I talk through the crisis that happens when people of faith go through a significant mental illness!

Having come from a church background where mental illness was denied or simply seen as an attack from the enemy — the solutions that were given to her were to pray more and confess more.

But what happens when those solutions don’t work? What happens when you are plagued by depression and anxiety?

In this one-air counseling session we talk through the details of the darkest season she walked through in her life… And how she got out the other side.

We affirm the importance of Jesus plus therapy and medication as needed.

Listen to this powerful session with Havilah, and as you do, ask yourself where you might need to take next steps in your own healing journey.

Tune in now!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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