This episode of "Words F*cking Matter," is a masterclass in conscious language, radical responsibility, and what it really means to heal and grow one word at a time.
In this bold and unscripted episode, Army Veteran and author Andy Weins drops truth bombs that will challenge everything you think you know about language, healing, and accountability. Andy doesn’t tiptoe around transformation—mid‑show, he flips the script and calls ME out for using his so‑called “sh*t words,” exposing how my language was quietly sabotaging my own growth.
He believes (and proves) that words f*cking matter—words like “if," "but,” “should,” “easy,” “can’t." These might sound harmless, but they carry weight. They limit our choices, muddy our intentions, and keep us stuck in cycles of blame, avoidance, and ego.
If you’ve ever said “I just don’t know how” or “It’s too hard”—this episode is your mirror and your medicine. Bring your notebook, bring your humility, and bring your willingness to grow so you can rewrite your story—one word at a time.
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00:44 – When my guest flips the script and calls me out on my language03:21 – Grab your pen and paper—you’re going to want to take notes04:09 – Quick favor: Vote for Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing for Best of Madison - Local Podcast05:48 – Meet today’s guest: Andy Weins—speaker, author, entrepreneur, podcaster, and Army Veteran10:47 – Why Andy makes decisions quickly (and how failing fast leads to better choices)11:51 – How one word can shift everything + the “Start - Stop - Continue” method for growth13:54 – Three practical ways to eliminate the word “but” from your vocabulary17:34 – What “truthful adjustment” means and how to apply it when you fall short21:02 – Boundaries vs. expectations—and the quote Andy has tattooed on his arm27:48 – How lack of confidence is often rooted in a wounded inner child30:35 – The difference between “simple” and “complicated”31:00 – The OODA Loop: Observe, Orient, Decide, Act + Reflect, Realize, Regulate35:10 – Breaking down the Savior Complex—how it helps (and hurts)41:48 – The OAR Model: Ownership, Accountability, Responsibility vs. Blame, Excuses, Denial48:35 – Why Andy says “truth” is just another sht word—and why “perspective” is more powerful50:20 – That time I completely froze…on my own podcast54:10 – Why self-talk matters + the Harvard research to back it up59:43 – “Sometimes, Always, Never” people—and how to protect your energy1:02:44 – Specifics vs. details—what’s the difference, and why it matter1:06:37 – The HALT Method: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired1:11:03 – The 5-5-5 Principle: 5 minutes in the morning, after work, and before bed1:12:34 – The six most powerful ways to start a sentence1:14:09 – Helping others label their feelings by mislabeling (yes, you read that right)1:19:13 – The ultimate “sht word” revealed