In today’s episode, I take a deep dive into the meditation questions I’ve been asked the most over the past three decades—as a student, as a teacher, and now, as someone who teaches others to teach.

We talk about the real stuff. The messy, wonderful, confusing, luminous questions that arise when you sit down on your cushion and meet your own mind.

Highlights:

1. “Why can’t I stop thinking?”
    You’re not supposed to. That’s not a failure—it’s reality. Thoughts are not the enemy.
   
   
   
2. “Why do we keep our eyes open during practice?”
    Eyes open helps us stay here, in this life, not some special spiritual realm. We’re not retreating. We’re engaging—with softness and awareness.
   
   
   
3. “I feel like I’m hyperventilating… or I’m weirdly obsessed with my breath or eyes—what’s happening?”
    You’re just noticing more. That wide open space you’ve created isn’t empty—it’s your awareness. And yes, it’ll settle.
   
   
   
4. “What if I have a really good idea during meditation?”
    The real answer is: call it thinking, let go, return to the breath. But… I also share my (slightly quirky) workaround involving my thumbs.
   
   
   
5. “Can meditation help with depression, anxiety, or trauma?”
    This is an important and delicate topic. Meditation is not a cure-all, and it is essential to proceed gently, and ideally with guidance from a trusted healthcare provider.
   
   
   
6. “I’m overwhelmed by feelings when I meditate. Isn’t this supposed to calm me down?”
    Not always. Sometimes the most compassionate choice is to not meditate. Or to gently make your feeling—rather than your breath—the object of attention.
   
   
   
7. “How do I know if I’m doing it right?”
    Because, let’s face it, it feels boring. But the answer is not on the cushion—it’s in your life. Are you more kind? More patient? More real? Then yes, you’re doing it right.

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Music by: Derek O'Brien

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