The Balancing Act

There is so much emphasis put on being productive. And as a working mum it can often feel like a necessity in order to get everything done.  Then when we're not in the flow of productivity, we can feel like we're failing.

I want to offer an alternative, so if productivity is something that often comes up for you, tune in to this week's episode to hear me talk about:

• what i think productivity is
• what it’s like to not feel productive
• what productivity could be instead 

If you'd like to continue the discussion come join us at The Balancing Act for Working Mums Facebook Community.

I absolutely loved this conversation! Keri and I talk incredibly passionately about things that we both care deeply about: audacity, feminism and motherhood.

As The Audacity Coach Keri is the creator of the four pillars of audacity:
- Acknowledging and asking for what we want
- Appearance ambivalence
- Availability for abundance
- Alliance with other women

We talk a lot about how Keri's early experiences of motherhood led her to become so vocal about the role of feminism in today's society. And how it has shaped her own work-life balance.

If you want to hear more from Keri follow her on Instagram @keri_l_jarvis or check out her website https://kerijarvis.com

This episode is aimed at any fellow people pleasers who find it difficult to say no, or to express your true opinion.

I share some examples of when I see it happening, small and big. I share why we do it - not wanting to cause hassle or inconvenience. And I also share three simple steps we can take in order to get used to saying no more:

1. Start small - request the drink that you really want even if it is different to everyone else's.

2. Become curious about situations where you recognise this happening.

3. Talk about it in order to reach a compromise rather than going along with what other people want all of the time.

I'd love to know what you think. Drop me a DM on Instagram @debbieleeco and let me know what your key takeaway is.

This week I'm talking about the feeling of only knowing what you don't want, without being able to articulate what you do want, or even the way you feel just now.

This is something that I experienced on and off for a long time until it finally became unavoidable after I became a new mum.

In this episode I talk about:

- how it feels when you only know what you don't want
- why it happens
- one super simple, quick tool that gives you something to do about it

I'd love to know what you think. Drop me a message @debbieleeco to let me know if this feeling resonates with you.

In this episode I share my experience of being held back in business by juggling it all. Whilst on mat leave with my first son I worked on building up my growing artisan granola company. It started off being really fun with lots of creativity.

But after a few months I started putting more and more pressure on myself to make a success of the business without having really tangibly defined what 'success' actually looked like. So work started creeping into all of the pockets of free time that I had, I stayed up late and worked at the weekends.

And ultimately the way of working became unsustainable, not because I burnt out, but because I lost the love. I had a huge passion for the business and the ethos behind it, but working on it started feeling like a chore.

It wasn't an overnight thing, more of a slow drip effect. It was a great learning experience for me and a large part of my drive to want to support other mums in business find a balance that works and is sustainable for them.

I'm running a FREE 60min MASTERCLASS on Tues 1st June, How to balance your business life with the rest of life, for mums with a purpose driven business. Sign up now to reserve your spot: www.debbielee.co.uk/balance-in-business

We all know that comparison is often very unhelpful and not something to seek out. But
how often do you find yourself online lost in the instinctive spiral of all the reasons that you're not good enough? Not fun enough, clever enough, pretty enough?

The thing is that because we are already believing these things about ourselves we are seeking out the evidence that they are true - it's confirmation bias in action.

But what if we could actually use comparison for good. What if we could use it as a source of information for showing us what is possible. What if we could turn the story around and start using comparison  to reinforce that story.

On this episode I cover:
- how to tell when you are in the comparison spiral
- why comparison is typically unhelpful
- what we can do to make comparison our friend

I also share details of my upcoming FREE MASTERCLASS on How to balance business life with the rest of life, Tues 1st June 2021, at 12noon. You can sign up HERE.

• examples of when it might crop up
• why it feels so uncomfortable
• how to avoid or move through the discomfort

This week I am fresh from a week of holiday and I'm talking about how you know whether you actually need a break or whether you are procrastinating. I'm sure we've all been in the place where there's one or many things hanging around undone on our to do list.

I share three things to look out for to help you decide which of the two it is:
- be clear on the why behind the task
- notice your patterns and whether it is something that always feels hard
- pay attention to your body and your behaviour

If you love this episode get in touch to let me know what you're going to choose to do differently @debbieleeco.

When I first came across the concept of money mindset I didn’t really pay much attention. It didn’t seem relevant to me because I didn’t think that I was motivated by money and I earned a comfortable, stable income.

But since then I’ve noticed how it creeps into so many aspects of our life. I debated whether to have this as a podcast topic but I believe that as females, our attitude towards money is a fundamental part of feeling empowered.

Tune in to hear me talk about:
- what money mindset is
- why it is relevant to balance
- where it comes from
- how we start to investigate our own money mindset

I’d really love to know what you think of this episode and if you’d like to hear more. Drop me a message on Instagram @debbieleeco