The Be Ruthless Show

My dad used to say “let me see your eyes” when I wasn’t feeling well. Dead giveaway. I’m not the kid who got a fever. Ever!

He also could tell when I was “faking fine.” You know - when I knew I was sick but still wanted to do something.

One look. That’s all it ever took.

I’m not the best at evaluating that look myself, and I’m absolutely prone to adult faking fine….. doing something when I should be resting!

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss the importance of prioritizing health - physical, mental, and spiritual!

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection:

[email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

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Join Team Ruthless for SEVEN support groups EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

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Learn more about the Faces of Grief 'Meet the Author events: Pilates in the Park, Visible & more…

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Learn more about Faces of Grief - available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/official-faces-of-grief

The world doesn’t discuss grief, so how can we expect work places to address grief?

It’s necessary, because people will inevitably deal with loss. And then they’ll return to the work place.

Where everything is exactly the same - except for them!

Today’s guest on The Be Ruthless Show is all too familiar with loss and loss in the workplace.

Dr. Kimberly Harms has been around the block in life. She has served as a Commissioned Officer in the United States Public Health Service, a dental school professor, a grief counselor, a death doula, a civil mediator, a clinical dentist with her late husband Jim in Farmington MN, a school board Chair, President of an international women's organization, the first woman President of the Minnesota Dental Association, a National Spokesperson for the American Dental Association (21 years), an award-winning, best selling author and international speaker on the topics of grief, conflict and legacy planning. She has also suffered many personal losses, including the deaths by suicide of her mother and son and the death by broken heart of her husband after their son's death. Her most important role now is mother to her two surviving children and grandmother to 6 precious grandchildren.

Connect with Dr. Kimberly Harms at DrKimberlyHarms.com

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection:

[email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SEVEN support groups EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about the Faces of Grief 'Meet the Author events:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Learn more about Faces of Grief - available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/official-faces-of-grief

It’s been a year.

I have so many incredible things happening, but Sassy not being ok has been my main focus.

I’ve even been neglecting myself because I’ve been so preoccupied with her.

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss the importance of taking care of YOU. I discuss when we don’t have to listen to doctors or people in positions of authority. Because if I had listened to mine - I’d be doing much worse!

We tend to assume that others know better than we do, but when it comes to your body - you know you best!

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection:

[email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SEVEN support groups EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about the Faces of Grief 'Meet the Author events:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Learn more about Faces of Grief - available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/official-faces-of-grief

Show notes:

I talk all the time about the secondary losses people experience while grieving. Loss of the futures imagined, loss of friends or family who don’t understand the grieving process.

As if anyone does.

Going through this recent crisis with Sassy took me right back to those feelings. Complete gratitude for so many who show up that I never would have imagined. As well as people you expect to show up - who don’t.

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss Who Shows Up - as well as HOW they show up. I discuss how you can support someone without adding to a crisis. And I discuss the importance of being true to yourself. Trusting your intuition. And even letting go of some you thought were forever relationships.

Thank you all for every single moment of support, prayers, encouragement, donations and love. I couldn’t have gotten through this without you all!

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection:

[email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SEVEN support groups EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about the Faces of Grief 'Meet the Author'events:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Learn more about Faces of Grief - available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/official-faces-of-grief

In Sickness & In Health

Vows. Commitments. Morals. Values.

What happens when people have different definitions of such important aspects of life?

What happens when someone disregards their commitments?

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss the importance of looking at your own health.

In a world full of judgments and expectations, we don’t discuss the importance of our own well being when someone or something isn’t healthy.

And Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection:

[email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SEVEN support groups EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about our 'Meet the Author'events:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Learn more about Faces of Grief - available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/official-faces-of-grief

This world minimizes certain mental illness.

“The weather is bipolar” and someone who is anal is OCD.

In reality, these diagnoses (and so many more) have symptoms that are much more debilitating than the world’s stereotypical versions.

What do we do for people living through these illnesses? and what do we do for caregivers?

On today's episode of The Be Ruthless Show, my guest discusses her late brother who lived with OCD. Danielle Booher shares her story of healing, including her book "Inside CJ's Mind: Navigating Middle School and Intrusive Thoughts.”

Danielle Booher is an Author, Speaker, Mom, Nurse, Podcast Host, and Life Coach. She has had a passion for helping others since she was a child. Spreading love and kindness is very important to Danielle. She loves to make people laugh and smile.

Mental health awareness is also a passion of hers.

Connect with Danielle at:

Get your copy of Inside CJ’s Mind here:

https://a.co/d/5THwdkS

And Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection:

[email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SEVEN support groups EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about our 'Meet the Author'events:

https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/healing-together-the-road-to-the-main-event-3442979?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=creatorshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=odclsxcollection&utm-source=cp&aff=escb

Learn more about Faces of Grief - available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Being Present 

I’m not doing the greatest - and if you know me, you know I wear my heart on my sleeve. I can’t fake it. And I won’t. So on today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I share what’s going on, along with the positive and negative feedback I’ve been hearing. I discuss the importance of being true to yourself - and share how I’m being true to me. I’m tuning out the noise and listening to my instincts.

It’s not always easy, but we pay a bigger price in the end when we ignore our intuition.

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection:

[email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SEVEN support groups EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about our 'Meet the Author'events:

https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/healing-together-the-road-to-the-main-event-3442979?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=creatorshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=odclsxcollection&utm-source=cp&aff=escb

Learn more about Faces of Grief - available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

6 and a half years.

with water. Camille Woods is a Faces of Grief Author, a licensed school

social worker, private practice clinical therapist, storyteller, and

Moth Story Hour Two-time Grand Slam winner, through which her

storytelling has been featured on National Public Radio.Camille is also the founder of Project "I Got You. -Big Mack," an

educational program and winner of Washtenaw County Project of the Year

in 2018. She is dedicated to sharing her son's legacy of giving and kindness

with today's youth, and helping them understand what it means to say "I

Got You" through acts of kindness. Her program has accomplished over

10,000 acts of kindness to date.Camille is married and the mother to her beautiful daughter,

Mayceeclair, bonus son David, and "Grammy Cammy" to David's two

daughters, Eva and Naomi. Family means everything to Camille, and losing

her son Marcus taught her that every moment must be lived to the

fullest. You can find Camille in the pool swimming laps, listening to 70s

easy listening, basking in the sun in the summer by Lake Michigan, or at

the local public pool she calls the

to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and

connection: [email protected] the

Grief is the one thing we’ll all experience. But that doesn’t mean we experience it the same way.

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss what to do when you live or work with someone grieving differently than you. And I discuss why this matters!

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection: [email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SIX support groupsEVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about our ‘Meet the Author’ events:https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/healing-together-the-road-to-the-main-event-3442979?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=creatorshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=odclsxcollection&utm-source=cp&aff=escb

Learn more about Faces of Grief - available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Grief brings anxiety and depression issues for everyone. But what about people already dealing with mental illness?

My anxiety reached levels I didn’t know existed after losing Jim. My brain responds differently than someone who never had anxiety to begin with.

Today’s extremely special guest on The Be Ruthless Show, Kristina Bottenberg, also struggled with anxiety and depression before her losses.

Today, she shares the impact grief has had in her life, as well how she’s coping through the healing. This Faces of Grief Author shares a bit about her chapter, Unconditional Love, and why sharing her story is so important.

Kristina was born November of 1973, in Monterey California, moving just a few short months after her birth to Germany. Being that her father was in the army, they lived on the base there.

Being an Army brat, Kristina was accustomed to moving often. They spent a few years there before moving back to the U.S and finally settling in Washington state.

Growing up Kristina endured a lot of dysfunction and trauma. She persevered and throughout her early adult years had 3 beautiful, accomplished girls, one is now her guardian angel, her brightest star in the sky.

Kristina is, in fact, a grieving mother. She met her second husband Dave in 2013 and in 2014 they were married and so in love. Kristina is, in fact, a grieving widow.

She has 2 beautiful grandchildren from her angel Kenzie, and many bonus grandchildren through her late husband. She works full time in Skagit county, enjoys her work and her 3 cats, hiking, kayaking, fishing, camping with family and friends.

Kristina is taking this time to evaluate what’s important; you could lose those people that mean so much to you in the blink of an eye. And finally, Kristina is trying to learn to love herself. Life can change in ways that are so devastating, but Kristina knows there must still be beauty in living, that’s why Ishe hasn’t given up - though there are times she wants to. Even though she always will live with the grief and loss, because that will never go away, Kristina has hope it will coincide with joy.

Connect with Kristina on Facebook @KristinaAndrewsBottenberg and on Instagram at @bottenbergs

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection: [email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SIX support groups

EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about our ‘Meet the Author’ events:

https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/healing-together-the-road-to-the-main-event-3442979?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=creatorshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=odclsxcollection&utm-source=cp&aff=escb

Learn more about Faces of Grief available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays