In Sickness & In Health

Vows. Commitments. Morals. Values.

What happens when people have different definitions of such important aspects of life?

What happens when someone disregards their commitments?

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss the importance of looking at your own health.

In a world full of judgments and expectations, we don’t discuss the importance of our own well being when someone or something isn’t healthy.

And Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection:

[email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SEVEN support groups EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about our 'Meet the Author'events:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Learn more about Faces of Grief - available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/official-faces-of-grief

This world minimizes certain mental illness.

“The weather is bipolar” and someone who is anal is OCD.

In reality, these diagnoses (and so many more) have symptoms that are much more debilitating than the world’s stereotypical versions.

What do we do for people living through these illnesses? and what do we do for caregivers?

On today's episode of The Be Ruthless Show, my guest discusses her late brother who lived with OCD. Danielle Booher shares her story of healing, including her book "Inside CJ's Mind: Navigating Middle School and Intrusive Thoughts.”

Danielle Booher is an Author, Speaker, Mom, Nurse, Podcast Host, and Life Coach. She has had a passion for helping others since she was a child. Spreading love and kindness is very important to Danielle. She loves to make people laugh and smile.

Mental health awareness is also a passion of hers.

Connect with Danielle at:

Get your copy of Inside CJ’s Mind here:

https://a.co/d/5THwdkS

And Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection:

[email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SEVEN support groups EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about our 'Meet the Author'events:

https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/healing-together-the-road-to-the-main-event-3442979?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=creatorshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=odclsxcollection&utm-source=cp&aff=escb

Learn more about Faces of Grief - available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Being Present 

I’m not doing the greatest - and if you know me, you know I wear my heart on my sleeve. I can’t fake it. And I won’t. So on today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I share what’s going on, along with the positive and negative feedback I’ve been hearing. I discuss the importance of being true to yourself - and share how I’m being true to me. I’m tuning out the noise and listening to my instincts.

It’s not always easy, but we pay a bigger price in the end when we ignore our intuition.

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection:

[email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SEVEN support groups EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about our 'Meet the Author'events:

https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/healing-together-the-road-to-the-main-event-3442979?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=creatorshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=odclsxcollection&utm-source=cp&aff=escb

Learn more about Faces of Grief - available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

6 and a half years.

with water. Camille Woods is a Faces of Grief Author, a licensed school

social worker, private practice clinical therapist, storyteller, and

Moth Story Hour Two-time Grand Slam winner, through which her

storytelling has been featured on National Public Radio.Camille is also the founder of Project "I Got You. -Big Mack," an

educational program and winner of Washtenaw County Project of the Year

in 2018. She is dedicated to sharing her son's legacy of giving and kindness

with today's youth, and helping them understand what it means to say "I

Got You" through acts of kindness. Her program has accomplished over

10,000 acts of kindness to date.Camille is married and the mother to her beautiful daughter,

Mayceeclair, bonus son David, and "Grammy Cammy" to David's two

daughters, Eva and Naomi. Family means everything to Camille, and losing

her son Marcus taught her that every moment must be lived to the

fullest. You can find Camille in the pool swimming laps, listening to 70s

easy listening, basking in the sun in the summer by Lake Michigan, or at

the local public pool she calls the

to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and

connection: [email protected] the

Grief is the one thing we’ll all experience. But that doesn’t mean we experience it the same way.

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss what to do when you live or work with someone grieving differently than you. And I discuss why this matters!

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection: [email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SIX support groupsEVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about our ‘Meet the Author’ events:https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/healing-together-the-road-to-the-main-event-3442979?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=creatorshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=odclsxcollection&utm-source=cp&aff=escb

Learn more about Faces of Grief - available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Grief brings anxiety and depression issues for everyone. But what about people already dealing with mental illness?

My anxiety reached levels I didn’t know existed after losing Jim. My brain responds differently than someone who never had anxiety to begin with.

Today’s extremely special guest on The Be Ruthless Show, Kristina Bottenberg, also struggled with anxiety and depression before her losses.

Today, she shares the impact grief has had in her life, as well how she’s coping through the healing. This Faces of Grief Author shares a bit about her chapter, Unconditional Love, and why sharing her story is so important.

Kristina was born November of 1973, in Monterey California, moving just a few short months after her birth to Germany. Being that her father was in the army, they lived on the base there.

Being an Army brat, Kristina was accustomed to moving often. They spent a few years there before moving back to the U.S and finally settling in Washington state.

Growing up Kristina endured a lot of dysfunction and trauma. She persevered and throughout her early adult years had 3 beautiful, accomplished girls, one is now her guardian angel, her brightest star in the sky.

Kristina is, in fact, a grieving mother. She met her second husband Dave in 2013 and in 2014 they were married and so in love. Kristina is, in fact, a grieving widow.

She has 2 beautiful grandchildren from her angel Kenzie, and many bonus grandchildren through her late husband. She works full time in Skagit county, enjoys her work and her 3 cats, hiking, kayaking, fishing, camping with family and friends.

Kristina is taking this time to evaluate what’s important; you could lose those people that mean so much to you in the blink of an eye. And finally, Kristina is trying to learn to love herself. Life can change in ways that are so devastating, but Kristina knows there must still be beauty in living, that’s why Ishe hasn’t given up - though there are times she wants to. Even though she always will live with the grief and loss, because that will never go away, Kristina has hope it will coincide with joy.

Connect with Kristina on Facebook @KristinaAndrewsBottenberg and on Instagram at @bottenbergs

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection: [email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SIX support groups

EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about our ‘Meet the Author’ events:

https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/healing-together-the-road-to-the-main-event-3442979?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=creatorshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=odclsxcollection&utm-source=cp&aff=escb

Learn more about Faces of Grief available this December at Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Therapy.

It’s a major word in our culture. What comes to mind when you hear the word therapy?

Lying on a couch talking about your childhood?

Medication?

How about “Lifelong Client?”

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss therapy vs. coaching. I discuss the impact of letting a word stand in your way of receiving the support and resources to make life more manageable. And I discuss the ripple effects these decisions have on your friends, loved ones, and even careers.

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection: [email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SIX support groups

EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about our ‘Meet the Author’ events:

https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/healing-together-the-road-to-the-main-event-3442979?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=creatorshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=odclsxcollection&utm-source=cp&aff=escb

Learn more about the Awareness Calendar - reach out for a reduced price 2024 Calendar and submit your children’s artwork for the 2025 Calendar. Contact [email protected]

Learn more about Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Grief comes in all different shapes and sizes. My definition of grief is an ending of some kind. This definition encompasses so much more than the end of life.

There are actually different kinds of grief, and one that is not talked about enough is Ambiguous Grief. To simplify - these are the not so obvious (ie ambiguous) losses.

Today’s guest on The Be Ruthless Show, Faces of Grief Author Connie Mae Inglis, shares her story of ambiguous grief.

Connie is an award-winning author, editor, speaker, and teacher. She also hosts her own podcast, "Born on a Bridge," — a podcast which focuses on building bridges of understanding and making relational connections. Her mission in her podcast and future memoir is to connect the world that knows nothing about, and often fears, mental illness, to the world of mental illness as she has lived it as a caregiver to an adult child diagnosed with bipolar disorder. She wants the world to know that in the midst of the pain and heartache, there is hope.

Connie and her husband have lived

cross-culturally in Southeast Asia for the last 30+ years, dedicating their lives to working with minority language groups in Bible translation, literacy, and teaching.

Connie's greatest joy is found in her grandchildren. They fill her with love and laughter and lead her into the wonder of life. Always.

If she's not spending time with family, you can find Connie painting or hiking or camping or, if she's lucky, traveling to places she's never been, always with pen and paper in hand. Ever curious, she knows inspiration for her next poem, story, or novel could be right around the corner.

You can connect with Connie at www.conniemaeinglis.ca

And connect to her podcast, “Born on a Bridge” here: https://www.conniemaeinglis.ca/media

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection: [email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SIX support groups

EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about our ‘Meet the Author’ events:

https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/healing-together-the-road-to-the-main-event-3442979?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=creatorshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=odclsxcollection&utm-source=cp&aff=escb

Learn more about Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Do you schedule things in advance? Do you live by your calendar? Or are you someone who puts things off? Maybe you “perform better under pressure?”

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss when it’s ok, when it’s necessary, and when it’s problematic to put things off.

Whether it’s homework or a conversation, your decision impacts more than just you!

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection: [email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SIX support groups

EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about Pilates in the Park: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/926158042637?aff=oddtdtcreator

Learn more about Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays

Some families come together during traumatic times, and others drift apart.

We all handle things differently in the best of times.

During traumatic times, these differences can feel even bigger. The families that have the conversations - the uncomfortable conversations - learn how to navigate the unclear healing paths ahead.

Together.

Sisters Molly Cohen & Leslie Rott lost their father unexpectedly almost ten years ago. They had the conversations - and continue to have the conversations, and heal, together.

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, Molly and Leslie share their story of loss and their different paths towards healing. Respecting those differences led them to heal through writing, again together, in a co written / co authored chapter in Faces of Grief (available this December!)

Connect with them both on social media and meet them in person at Pilates in the Park this August, and Healing Together Through the Holidays this December.

Leslie Rott

Leslie Rott has a master’s degree and a PhD in Sociology from the University of Michigan, and a master’s degree in Health Advocacy from Sarah Lawrence College. She was diagnosed with lupus and rheumatoid arthritis in 2008, at the age of 22. She is a blogger, e-patient, health activist, patient advocate, healthcare disruptor, sociologist, and writer. She authors the blog Getting Closer to Myself (www.gettingclosertomyself.blogspot.com) and has contributed to a variety of other health-related sites, including CreakyJoints, Health Central, Health Line, Lupus News Today, Mango Health, and Rheumatoidarthritis.net. Leslie’s story has been featured in the U.S. Pain Foundation Invisible Project: RA/RD Edition, Women’s Health magazine (twice!), Real Life Diaries: Living with Rheumatic Diseases, and on a jacket, “Double Major,” that she proudly wears as a member of the Walking Gallery of Healthcare. She currently works as the Compliance & Experience Officer at a community healthcare company in Royal Oak, Michigan. Leslie lives in Beverly Hills, Michigan, with her son and husband.

Molly Cohen

Molly Cohen is a graduate student at Sara Schenirer/Yeshiva University’s Wurzweiler School of Social Work. She received her bachelor of arts in Spanish with a minor in biology from Wayne State University. She is passionate about perinatal and maternal mental health and helping others through some of life’s most difficult moments. Although she is unsure of her future career, she is grateful for the opportunity to find her path through social work. She interned at Jewish Family Service of Metro Detroit and is currently interning at a Perinatal and Youth mental health clinic. Molly lives in Southfield, Michigan, with her husband and daughter.

Remember that you can reach out anytime - with questions, feedback, to work with me, for referrals and resources, and just for support and connection: [email protected]

Join the Griefhab Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7/

Join Team Ruthless for SIX support groups

EVERY week PLUS EVERY holiday:

https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless

Learn more about Pilates in the Park: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/926158042637?aff=oddtdtcreator

Learn more about Healing Together Through the Holidays:

https://samantharuth.com/healing-together-through-holidays