There are two benefits of a painful relationship: one real and one perceived. Humans don’t do anything unless there is a benefit.

Staying stuck, even when it’s painful, gives us the illusion of safety. It keeps us from taking risks or challenging our beliefs (i.e. there’s no one else out there for me). Unfortunately this perceived benefit may keep people stuck their entire lives, unable to move forward. The true benefit of a bad relationship is one of personal growth. It’s an opportunity to learn what keeps us tethered to the untenable, allowing our pain and starting to make different choices. Yup, hard to do… making a decision to take care of yourself vs. pleasing the other person by abandoning yourself. Hard, but possible.

Join me and guest Cristina DiMeglio to learn what makes a bad relationship, why you stay and how to move on!