Was he drawing a boundary...or going to extremes to avoid his ex hook up? ExCoworker Justin joins the pod to recap and rehash this week's main episode! We'll talk about post-relationship triggers, avoiding your exes at any cost, and niche dating deal breakers....

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:37 ): How they met

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(04:23): When the other relationship came to light

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(07:30): How his GF reacted

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(09:10): When he called her and broke things off bigggg time....

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(12:55): The aftermath

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(15:53): Reflecting on the relationship

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(23:00): Teaser

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It can be so easy to look back on a relationship with hindsight bias. How many times have we all said, "Oh I should have done this" or "said this" or "done this differently"? The reality is, we're only in control of what we bring to the relationship and we're certainly not at fault for the horrible things a toxic ex has done. Let's unpack some of the hardest parts of this week's episode, just you and me!

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Timestamps

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(00:00): Intro

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(01:38): Break up withdrawals

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(07:22): His manipulative tactics

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(11:47): Grappling with his suicide

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(14:23): Her sexual assault

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(17:05): Outtro

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[CW: Sexual Assault, Suicide, Intimate Partner Violence]

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:02): How they met

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(08:34): When the red flags started to show

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(14:47): When he went to jail for the second time

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(19:30): When his mom revealed what he was lying about

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(24:55): When she gave him a second chance

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(28:21): The aftermath of the break up

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(42:27): Reflecting on the relationship

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(55:20): Teaser

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[CW: Sexual Assault, Suicide, Domestic Violence, Child Molestation, Intimate Partner Violence]

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Do they REALLY like me...or am I being love bombed? How do I identify it in my relationship? Is an age-gap relationship a bad idea? Like...how many years a part is too much?? We're breaking down this week's episode and covering all the hot topics in this quick break down bonus with Lexi.

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Lily Womble (The Date Brazen Podcast) Bonus Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/777HQvFseDMXe0YKF9dxqt?si=31iSSSg1SPSHfyV8rMoWUw

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Are Age Gaps Actually Toxic? 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T3zC7YCVR28

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5 Signs of Love bombing

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UlXoI_XJGAg&t=348s

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This week we're raising awareness for Respond in Boston, MA: https://www.respondinc.org/donate/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:06 ): How they met

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(08:41): How her first relationship impacted her first marriage

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(10:46): When she finally got together with her first ex husband

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(16:47): When she decided she wanted her first divorce

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(25:09): When she started a relationship with husband #2

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(30:35): Her second divorce

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(32:43): Was there ever a throuple??

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(41:26): How she grew and moved past the relationships

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(53:25): Teaser

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[CW: Sexual Assault, Intimate Partner Violence]

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Why are we so quick to prioritize our partners? This week's bonus content breaks down this week's episode with Abby, Lexi, and Justin. They talk about the importance of making your partner earn your trust in the beginning and throughout the relationship. They'll also touch on recognizing domestic violence in the workplace from personal experience.

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Think your coworker/friend is in a dangerous relationship? Start here: https://www.thehotline.org/resources/talking-to-your-coworker/

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Dr. Margaret Rutherford Bonus Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1pFwVmNGSDEiihTfhuXNEp?si=uVS-xTMGRkOvyg0rYp5sYQ

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(05:55): How they met

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(07:13): The first signs of toxicity

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(10:07): When she found signs of infidelity

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(15:36): When she finally left

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(17:17): When she found out who he was cheating on her with

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(23:24): Reflecting on her life now/advice

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(28:56): Teaser

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[CW: Intimate partner violence]

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Have you ever been "the other person" in someone else's relationship? Abby, Lexi, and Ex-Coworker Justin hash out all the details from this week's main episode where our interviewee had NO IDEA she was the "other woman". Abby also references a podcast episode from the OPENHOUSE podcast where experts commented on a similar situation. She'll help make sense of this week's story by bringing up advice and information mentioned by the therapists in that episode.

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The OPENHOUSE Podcast: The Psychology of "The Other Woman" and how to avoid becoming her.

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(02:27): How they met

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(04:31): When she found the PICTURES

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(08:00): When she breaks up with him

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(13:51): When his wife reached out to her

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(17:39): When she and the wife confront him

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(20:13): Reflecting on the relationship/advice

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(30:37): When she finally broke things off

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(26:33): Teaser

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