By Michael Pakaluk.
Should Catholics celebrate Saint Valentine's Day? The best recommendation for celebrating it at all, I think, is that in our tradition three different martyred saints have been called "Valentine," and the feast day for all three of them is February 14th.
At least so states the Catholic Encyclopedia, in an article by judicious scholar, Fr. Herbert Thurston, S.J., famous for his skepticism about legends:
One is described as a priest at Rome, another as bishop of Interamna (modern Terni), and these two seem both to have suffered in the second half of the third century and to have been buried on the Flaminian Way, but at different distances from the city. . . .Of both these Saint Valentines some sort of Acta are preserved but they are of relatively late date and of no historical value. Of the third Saint Valentine, who suffered in Africa with a number of companions, nothing further is known.
If we have any belief in Divine Providence at all, we should take this "feast in triplicate," I consider, as a sign that God endorses some kind of celebration of Saint Valentine on February 14th.
Yet what do we celebrate? From the tradition, if we adopt the skepticism of Fr. Thurston, only martyrdom. Not that there is anything "only" about martyrdom, the complete gift of the body, with abandonment, to God. The ecstasy of living outside of oneself in death, for Christ. An unbreakable fidelity, mirroring that of the Bride, the Church, to the Bridegroom.
Simply in martyrdom there is the essence of all genuine romance. If on Saint Valentine's Day we celebrate "only" martyrdom, we shall not be doing badly.
But over time, the sense of the Christian faithful caused to sprout and grow, as if it deeply desired it, over this core of martyrdom, a festival of Christian mating. It was as if some austere wooden cross planted in the hard winter's ground should become adorned with flowery vines of early spring, which appeared spontaneously from the earth and grew up around it.
That these traditions of mating, and later romantic love in general, are genuine offshoots of an incarnate, Western, Christian sensibility is shown by how Muslim countries respond to the commercial holiday today. They ban roses, flowers, cards, and even the color red around the date of February 14th, viewing them as Christian incursions.
An early legend of one of the Roman Saint Valentines (dismissed by Fr. Thurston) is that the saint, when in prison, secretly married Roman soldiers to their brides, against the Emperor's order that the men had to remain single to fight more effectively.
If this legend is true, then one Saint Valentine - fully in accord with the spirit of martyrdom - was also a pro-family pro-natalist, prepared to commit civil disobedience against unjust laws.
But mating became more strongly associated with Saint Valentine's feast day around the time of Chaucer, because of a popular belief that birds paired off, into monogamous couples, on the feast. Again, why February 14th precisely, when that date is a little early for birds, and presumably birds pair off throughout all of spring? No one knows for sure. Chaucer wrote a poem on the theme, The Parliament of Fowls, in which among others Cupid, chaste Diana, Bacchus, and "pre-eminent" Priapus appear:
For this was on Seynt Valentynes day,
Whan every foul cometh ther to choose his make. . .
And although Chaucer himself perhaps understood the pairing off to take place in early May, over time, popular intuition firmly placed the mating of the birds on February 14th.
The two Saint Valentine's poems of courtly love by John Gower (1330-1408), Chaucer's friend, both presuppose that the love celebrated on that date is loyal and monogamous, like that of birds:
Saint Valentine has under his governance
the love and the nature of all birds,
whereby each of them chooses a worthy partner
similar to its size, according to its desire,
entirely of one accord and one assent.
For that one alone it leaves alone
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