The Centre for Healing Podcast

Podcast Episode: Exploring and Inquiring into Parts

Guests: Ryan Hassan & Matt Kay

Episode Overview

In this insightful episode, Ryan Hassan and Matt Kay guide listeners through the fascinating world of parts work, explaining how different aspects of ourselves form, interact, and influence our behaviours. They share practical tools for relating to these parts with curiosity and compassion, as well as embodied techniques for deeper self-exploration.

Key Topics Covered

1. Understanding Parts

What are "parts" and how do they form?

How parts develop as coping mechanisms during childhood experiences and challenging environments.

Understanding internal conflicts and self-sabotaging behaviours that arise when parts are in opposition.

2. Relating to Parts

Adopting a compassionate and curious approach to your parts.

Welcoming all parts of yourself—even those you may dislike or want to suppress.

Recognising that parts are aspects of yourself, not separate entities.

3. Embodied Inquiry

Exploring parts through embodied inquiry, a somatic, felt-sense method.

Sample inquiry questions:

When did this part first emerge?

How has it served or sabotaged you?

What does it believe about you or the world?

What does it need, and what would happen if it weren’t present?

Key Insights & Takeaways

Parts are often created as survival mechanisms, helping maintain autonomy and connection, particularly after developmental trauma or a lack of safety and empathy.

Healing involves integration and wholeness, where all parts are acknowledged and understood.

Cultivating the ability to compassionately witness your parts and respond to their needs with empathy is crucial for personal growth, individuation, and lasting healing.

Resources & Next Steps

Embodied Processing (EP) provides a structured approach to exploring and working with parts.

Click the Embodied Processing free pre-training here - https://www.thecentreforhealing.com/embodied-processing-pretraining

For personalized guidance, consider reaching out to Ryan, Matt, or a certified EP practitioner.

In this insightful episode, Ryan Hassan and Noel Haarburger explore the inner critic—its origins, mechanisms, and how it influences our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Listeners are guided through understanding the difference between a healthy conscience and an unhealthy inner critic, learning strategies to engage with it, and cultivating self-compassion and personal resilience.

Understanding the Inner Critic

Also referred to as the inner judge or superego.

Plays a role in shaping self-perception and behavior.

Origins and Development

Often rooted in childhood experiences and early survival strategies.

Cultural expectations and societal norms can amplify the inner critic.

Inner Critic Dynamics

Interaction with the “victim” part of the self and coping strategies.

Contradictory demands that often create internal conflict.

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Conscience

Healthy conscience guides ethical behavior and personal growth.

Unhealthy inner critic fosters guilt, shame, and self-judgment.

Futility and Pervasiveness

Inner critic demands are often impossible to satisfy.

Can manifest in multiple areas of life, creating chronic stress.

The Myth of Necessity

Belief that high achievement requires a harsh inner critic is false.

Self-Compassion

Central to countering the inner critic.

Involves developing the “adult self” to nurture, protect, and guide the inner child.

The inner critic often begins as a childhood survival mechanism.

Cultural and societal pressures compound its intensity.

Awareness and observation of the inner critic is crucial for transformation.

The inner critic is contradictory, leading to emotional and physical exhaustion.

Effective strategies include:

Using humor and paradox to disrupt its patterns.

Practicing assertiveness to set boundaries with internal judgments.

Cultivating self-compassion and an adult self to respond rather than react.

Daily Dialogue: Regularly engage in conversations with the inner critic to understand its motivations.

Dual Awareness: Develop the capacity to observe the inner critic without fully identifying with it.

Origin Exploration: Reflect on situations that trigger the inner critic and their roots.

Defend & Disengage: Learn to protect yourself while maintaining compassion for the inner critic and the self.

Listen and Learn: This episode provides actionable guidance for anyone looking to transform the impact of their inner critic, reduce internal conflict, and cultivate a more compassionate, empowered self.

Understanding Boundaries and Boundary Setting

Episode Summary

In this insightful episode, Noel Haarburger and Ryan explore the art of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries. They discuss why boundaries matter, how they are shaped by early experiences, and offer practical strategies for cultivating strong, flexible boundary skills. Whether you tend to be overly accommodating or struggle with rigidity, this episode provides tools and perspectives to help you navigate relationships with confidence and authenticity.

Key Topics Covered

The Cell Membrane Analogy: Understanding boundaries as flexible yet protective, like a cell membrane.

Boundary Extremes: Recognizing patterns of being too accommodating versus overly guarded.

Anger and Assertiveness: How integrating these emotions supports effective boundary setting.

Early Attachment and Trauma: How childhood experiences influence boundary patterns in adulthood.

Practical Exercises:

Saying “yes” and “no” with clarity

Visualizing personal boundary spaces

Role-playing real-life boundary scenarios

Insights and Takeaways

Healthy boundaries are a cornerstone of personal growth, yet many struggle to establish and maintain them.

Suppressing anger or assertiveness can create resentment and emotional blocks; embracing these emotions is essential.

Self-awareness, emotional integration, and vulnerability are crucial for reclaiming your capacity to set boundaries.

Boundary work is relational—surrounding yourself with supportive people enhances your growth.

Sustainable boundary development requires ongoing self-reflection, self-compassion, and challenging limiting beliefs.

Resources Mentioned

Gabor Maté – Exploring the link between boundaries, anger, and physical health.

Book: When the Body Says No by Gabor Maté

Connect with Us

Join the Healing Hub membership for ongoing support and resources: The Healing Hub 

For questions or enquiries, email: [email protected]

In this episode, we explore the transformative approach of trauma-informed parenting. We discuss how to understand trauma, create a safe and attuned environment for your children, recognize and address projected trauma, and implement a practical trauma-informed parenting blueprint to support both you and your child’s emotional growth.

Trauma isn’t only about external events—it’s also about the internal impact on the individual.

Children’s stress responses require co-regulation, not simply “self-soothing.”

Authenticity and attachment can sometimes be in conflict, leading to suppressed emotions.

Projecting our unresolved trauma onto our children is common but can be worked through.

Awareness of unconscious parenting beliefs and patterns is essential for meaningful change.

Integrating difficult emotions, such as anger, in a healthy way is important.

Maintaining your sense of identity beyond being a parent helps prevent burnout and resentment.

Understanding trauma, emotional imprints, and the stress response

Creating a space of safety, attunement, and authenticity

Recognizing and addressing projected trauma

Implementing a trauma-informed parenting blueprint

Deepen your understanding of trauma, the stress response, and nervous system regulation.

Create a safe, attuned, and authentic environment where your children can thrive.

Notice when you might be projecting your own trauma and take steps to address it.

Apply a trauma-informed parenting blueprint, including:

Identifying emotional triggers and unconscious beliefs

Integrating difficult emotions in a healthy way

Preserving your identity beyond parenting

Seek support, continue learning, and grow as a trauma-informed parent.

Embodied Processing (EP) Practitioner Training  – for deeper trauma work and personal development

Awareness by Anthony de Mello

V for Vendetta (movie)

The Shift (movie)

Episode Overview:

In this episode, Ryan Hassan and Matt Kay dive into the transformative world of somatic therapy and share practical insights on how to run an effective session. They explore why working with the body—not just the mind—is essential for addressing trauma, emotional imprints, and deep-seated patterns.

Key Topics Covered:

Why traditional cognitive approaches alone often fall short in resolving trauma

Understanding the body’s role in processing emotions, sensations, and trauma imprints

The concept of the “royal road to transformation”—accessing deeper layers of conditioning through the body

How the nervous system, survival responses, and pre-verbal imprints influence our behavior and emotional life

A step-by-step process of an Embodied Processing session:

Resourcing

Exploring the qualities of the experience

Finding the origins of imprints

Processing sensations and emotions

Integration and completion

Insights Shared:

Trauma is stored in the body and nervous system, not just in the mind

Developing the ability to stay present with uncomfortable emotions and sensations is key—rather than trying to fix or remove them

Approaching inner experiences with curiosity, acceptance, and befriending—instead of resistance—is essential for transformation

The body holds invaluable information and access points that cognitive approaches alone cannot reach

Conclusion & Recommendations:
Embodied Processing (EP) is a powerful modality for addressing trauma, emotional imprints, and facilitating lasting transformation. The EP training program provides:

Comprehensive step-by-step training

Ongoing support and mentorship

Lifetime access to materials for continued learning and application

Resources & Links:

Center for Healing: www.thecentreforhealing.com.au 

Embodied Processing (EP) Training Program: Explore EP 

Connect with Us:

Email: [email protected] 

Show Notes Summary

In this heartfelt and insightful conversation, Melissa connects with trauma-informed practitioner and author Sonia Skewes to explore her powerful journey from hairdressing and community work to creating a deeply healing practice in Penguin, Tasmania.

Despite waking up with a cold, Melissa followed her higher self’s guidance and went ahead with the interview- resulting in an authentic, soulful exchange about healing, self-worth, and empowerment.

Key Topics Discussed

About Sonia:

Sonia Skewes is a Root-Cause Therapy Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Manifestation Coach, and lifelong creative who began her journey as a hairdresser — working with transformation long before she called it healing.

Now based in Tasmania, she blends lived experience with powerful subconscious tools to help others break cycles and create lives that feel aligned, expressive, and free. With warmth and grounded creativity, Sonia supports those ready to reclaim the parts of themselves that were lost along the way.

Connect with her at www.soniaskewes.com.au
Social media https://www.instagram.com/soniaskewesintegrativetherapy/
Get her book here https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/B0FYNHFW1Q?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_fed_asin_title

SHOWNOTES

Chronic illness is what set Rosalie on her path to study Embodied processing and Somatic therapy as she spent over 10 years searching for answers and ways to find relief, so as a therapist she has a deep passion for holistic healing and the transformational journey toward wholeness. 

“I’m endlessly fascinated by the complexities of life , how our experiences shape us, how our bodies remember, and how healing becomes possible when we honour all parts of ourselves.

Rooted in a trauma-sensitive approach, my work is deeply informed by an understanding of the nervous system.
I’ve seen firsthand how automatic responses and dysregulation can influence our behaviours, trigger patterns, and even contribute to chronic illness. 

This insight became super personal as I navigated my own difficult path through MCAS and histamine intolerance . Debilitating conditions that challenged me, but ultimately led me home to myself.

Through my own healing journey, I’ve gained profound insight into the mind-body connection, and now, it’s my mission to support others in finding that same freedom. I help people reconnect with their inner wisdom, regulate their nervous systems, and cultivate a sense of peace, acceptance, and safely within.

I believe healing is not just about symptom relief, it’s about transformation, abundance, and coming back to wholeness. My greatest joy is walking alongside others as they reclaim their truth, step back into their power, and return to living in their full capacity 

I work with Chronic illness and specialise in MCAS and hormonal affected conditions such as adrenal fatigue,  perimenopause and menopause”

Website: https://templeofbeing.com.au/ 

Email: [email protected] 

IG: https://www.instagram.com/temple.of.being/ 

FB: https://www.facebook.com/rosaliemariemason/ 

Show Notes

Guest: Dr. Talia Steed

Author | Coach | Spiritual Teacher | Former Medical Doctor

Dr. Talia Steed supports others through a holistic approach to health — integrating science and spirituality to bring balance to the body, mind, and soul.

Areas of Expertise

Mind–Body Symptoms / Chronic and Unresolved Health Issues

Empaths & Highly Sensitive People

Women’s Health — from PMS to Pregnancy to Menopause

Mental Health — Anxiety, OCD, and Major Life Transitions

Career & Relationship Counselling

Spiritual Awakening — Guidance for those on the path of higher consciousness

About Her Book: Choosing the Witness Self

“In this way of being, we can make contact with pure awareness — awareness beyond thoughts, beyond feelings, beyond sensations in the body.
This is the essence of spirituality: discovering that you are the witness to the experiences of your life. Nothing more, and nothing less.”
— Dr. Talia Steed, Choosing the Witness Self

Episode Highlights

Dr. Talia’s journey from medical doctor to spiritual teacher — and what led her to question the limitations of the Western medical model.

The power of taking responsibility for your own healing rather than waiting for others to “fix” you.

Understanding the Witness Self — the observing awareness beyond thoughts and emotions.

How to integrate the Witness Self with the human ego mind.

Dr. Talia’s personal experience with OCD and depression, and the lessons learned through her own healing process.

The role of meditation, yoga, and spiritual practices in cultivating deeper self-awareness.

Exploring a holistic approach to wellbeing — recognising the interconnection of body, mind, and spirit.

Connect with Dr. Talia Steed

Website: www.drtaliasteed.com 

Instagram: @bodi_alchemy 

Facebook: Bodi Alchemy 

Her Book

Choosing the Witness Self: Illuminating the Illusions of the Ego Mind
Available now — learn more on her website.

Episode Title: Healing from Burnout with Neena Saith

Shownotes

In this episode, we sit down with Neena Saith, a nervous system-informed mind-body practitioner who helps high-achieving individuals untangle the hidden patterns of long-term stress, burnout, and emotional suppression.

With a corporate background herself, Neena knows first-hand what it’s like to look successful on the outside while quietly unraveling on the inside. Today, she shares how burnout manifests in the body, why traditional “push through it” approaches don’t work, and what it really takes to restore balance and return to yourself.

You’ll learn:

The nervous system’s role in burnout and recovery

How emotional suppression keeps you stuck in stress cycles

Practical ways to regulate and find stillness without “performing” relaxation

Why true healing isn’t about doing more, but about creating space to come back to who you are

Neena’s approach is powerful, grounded, and deeply personal—helping people regulate, restore, and reclaim their inner calm after years of living in survival mode.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly “on,” even in stillness, this conversation will meet you where you are.

Connect with Neena:
✨ Contact: https://www.neenasaith.com/contact 
✨ Free Resources: https://www.neenasaith.com/free-resources

In this episode, Ryan and Matt dive deep into the world of developmental trauma — exploring how early life experiences shape our nervous system, relationships, and sense of self.

They break down what developmental trauma looks like, why it’s not officially recognised in the DSM, and how it can show up in subtle yet powerful ways throughout life. Matt also shares personal reflections, giving a lived perspective on the impact and healing process.

1. Introduction to Developmental Trauma

Different types of trauma: acute, developmental, pre-conscious, genealogical, and collective

Why developmental trauma deserves more attention

2. The Importance of Developmental Trauma

Matt’s personal journey and experiences

The gap in formal recognition despite its widespread impact

3. Attachment & Authenticity

Why attachment is a survival instinct

How children adapt — often at the cost of authenticity — to maintain connection

The role of rupture and repair in building resilience

4. Stages of Developmental Trauma

Infancy (0–3 years): Safety vs. danger through attachment

Early Childhood (3–7 years): Core beliefs about self and the world

Socialisation (7–18 years): School, peers, and relational experiences

5. Symptoms of Developmental Trauma

Relational patterns: people-pleasing, over-independence

Emotional dysregulation: shutdown or overwhelm

Difficulty trusting self and others

Struggles with identity, being alone, or accepting emotions like anger and sadness

6. Healing Developmental Trauma

Creating healthy relational dynamics

Building capacity and a sense of safety

Exploring identity and early attachment wounds

Somatic processing and stress release

The importance of finding the right practitioner

More info on the Somatic Therapy EP here:
https://www.thecentreforhealing.com/embodied-processing