A friend once said to me, “I feel like a total failure,” I was taken aback, because she is anything but a total failure. But I know the feeling, don't you? Maybe that's the way you feel. Perhaps your plans and dreams have never materialized or something you attempted didn't work. Or maybe you've failed in your moral behavior or in your lifestyle and habits. How in the world can we face our failures without being devastated?
I truly do speak from my heart as I approach this topic of failure. If experience qualifies me as an expert, then I feel fairly competent to talk about failure, because I've had my share. There are some gigantic failures in my past, things for all the world to see, and there are others which are smaller, known only to God and me.
I haven't outgrown failure; none of us do. But I know this beyond any doubt: the God I serve is great enough to give me the strength and the ability to face my failures and to recover from them. In fact, in his incredible efficiency, he uses my failures to teach me and to help me encourage others.
Maybe you are even now struggling with failure. You feel totally defeated and discouraged because you've failed in some way. Maybe you keep failing in the same way over and over, and you're ashamed and guilt-ridden as a result. I want to talk to you from my heart today, as one who is in that same boat with you, but who is learning the good news that failures don't have to be fatal.
Let me first share with you the blessings of failure. I know, you didn't think there were any blessings in failure, but believe me, there are. Here's what I mean. One of the most difficult things for any of us human beings to admit is that we are sinful. None of us truly want to believe that deep within us is this sin nature which tries to control us; none of us like to think that we are not capable in ourselves of doing good or being good.
That's because we're born proud. Pride is at the root of all our wrong thinking and actions. We have to come to the understanding that within us there is no good thing and all the things which we call good look like filthy rags to God. On our own we're just one huge mess! So, this inborn pride can keep us from knowing God, from the fullness of who we are in Christ.
Therefore, failure is a blessing, for it teaches us just exactly who we are in our natural, unredeemed condition. C. S. Lewis states it so well in his book Mere Christianity: Speaking of failure he says: "It cures our illusions about ourselves and teaches us to depend on God. We learn, on the one hand, that we cannot trust ourselves even in our best moments, and on the other, that we need not despair even in our worst, for our failures are forgiven."
So, those failures which look like total disasters to you can indeed be an instrument of blessing to teach you this essential truth about yourself; to "cure your illusions about yourself," as Lewis puts it. I know they're painful; I know it is an unpleasant lesson to learn. But, dear friends, until we know the depth of our fallen state and how truly helpless and hopeless we are on our own, we can never know God as we need to.
I want to look again at a story of failure in Scripture and see how our Lord dealt with it. You'll find it recorded in Luke 22, where we see Peter as a total failure. Did you ever think about the fact that Jesus knew beforehand precisely how badly Peter would fail him? He tells Peter exactly what Peter's going to do and when: "Before the rooster crows today, you will deny three times that you know me.” Jesus knew, and yet, he didn't discard Peter because of his miserable failure.
In Luke 22:31 Jesus said, "Simon, Simon, Satan has asked to sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, Simon, that your faith may not fail.” It’s interesting that Jesus called Peter "Simon,” his old name,