(As Presented by Lisa Bishop)
The past 2 years have thrown a lot of curve balls our way. I’m wondering what last year was like for you. What were some of the things you had hoped would happen but didn’t? What are some things you had hoped would not happen but did? And, how is your hope as this new year has gotten under way?
Webster's dictionary definition of hope is: A desire of some good, accompanied with at least a slight expectation of obtaining it. Or an expectation or optimism for the future.
We’ve all been there, hoping for something. Maybe you have hoped for a new job, a relationship, a new home or a promotion, good news of a child after years of battling with infertility. Maybe you have hoped that your son or daughter would get their life on track or that a broken relationship would be restored. Perhaps you have hoped for healing of a disease or physical ailment for yourself or someone close to you.
I have had many hopes over the years. Some things I have hoped for came to fruition. Others didn’t. For years I hoped for marriage. I hoped that that special someone would notice me and choose me to be their wife. And along with marriage, I hoped one day to have kids. Today I am 52, single, never married and I don’t have children.
Almost eight years ago my dad unexpectedly fell ill. I hoped he would recover, but he didn't.
For several years I had hoped that God would bring me a new job. The one I was in felt like a dead end and I wasn’t passionate about it. I experienced a stirring for a career that felt meaningful. It took seven years until a new job, one that was in alignment with my calling, came my way.
We all have expectations and longings. We all hope.
What do we do when what we hope for, what we long for, doesn’t happen? How will we act when things do not turn out the way that we want or not in our timing?
Hope is an important Christian virtue, it’s a standard of our Christian faith. And hope is essential especially as we seek to stay grounded in the midst of life’s challenges, losses and disappointments. Because let’s face it, life will have disappointments. So how do we maintain hope?
In Proverbs 13:12 King Solomon penned these words of wisdom: “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.”
When something we hope for is delayed it can cause despair and affliction. Unmet longing can make us heart sick. When was a time in your life that you experienced despair when something you hoped for did not come to fruition, was postponed or delayed?
In the second part of Proverbs 13:12 Solomon gives the antithesis of hope deferred when he says, “But a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” The tree of life represents the renewal of life.
When our hopes and desires are fulfilled, we are refreshed. When our prayers are answered, we are encouraged. When we obtain the good thing that we desire, our souls feel revived. Solomon reiterates the sentiment in Proverbs 13:19: “A longing fulfilled is sweet to the soul.”
The reality is that dashed hopes can sicken the heart, and the higher the expectations, the greater the potential for despair. So what do we make of Solomon’s words on hope?
God created us to desire; he created us to have hope.
While receiving what we desire can be an excellent and fulfilling thing, we must not allow the pursuit of it, the fulfillment of it to become the ultimate. As followers of Jesus, we must know and believe that our ultimate hope is in him. Our hope is in the giver of all good things, not the good things themselves.
When we misplace our true hope and an unmet desire and expectation turns to hopelessness, we can become spiritually dried up and really vulnerable to the enemy’s attacks.