The Conscious Couples Podcast

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talked about the impact of optimism and pessimism in every relationship. They discuss how these tendencies can sway us to either overcommit or undercommit and the lessons we've gleaned from our experiences. Discover the value of self-awareness in mitigating the downsides of optimism and pessimism and how a better understanding of our tendencies can bolster our communication and trust-building efforts. They explore the power of vulnerability and taking responsibility for our feelings in resolving conflicts. This is a must-listen for anyone looking to improve their relationships and communication skills.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[2:46] What we say versus what we do
[5:31] Effective communication
[7:15] Being honest with yourself
[10:14] Jessica and Michael share their experience with Emilia and Alan and Relationship Talk
[14:22] The Dance of Optimism and Pessimism in Relationship Commitments
[15:19] How to manage disappointments.
[18:54] How to manage expectations when things do change.
[21:43] Outro


Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #27 on Sep 21, 2023, at 06:00 PM Eastern Time: “How to Get on the Same Page About Money.”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYoc-iurj0uHdF_9ceuvSMNj6rnAgUqOPt2

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the profound impact family dynamics have on relationships. The discussion centers around seeing our family through our partner's eyes, a perspective that often uncovers the 'comforting lies' we've been telling ourselves and reveals some 'uncomfortable truths.' They also discuss recognizing the signs of our partner reverting to their childhood behavior in the familial setting. They also discuss the potential consequences of not addressing these behaviors and share an example demonstrating how our perception of family can shift over time. This candid conversation promises to shed light on the often untold stories within families and their subtle but significant impact on our relationships.
 
Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[1:51] 360 degree feedback
[6:09] Comforting lies
[9:39] Changing perspectives with your partner
[12:36] Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
[13:50] Unconcious lie
[17:35] Reverting to an old version of yourself
[21:08] Taking action will make things better
[24:38] Outro


Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #27 on Sep 21, 2023, at 06:00 PM Eastern Time: “How to Get on the Same Page About Money.”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYoc-iurj0uHdF_9ceuvSMNj6rnAgUqOPt2

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they discuss the delicate balance between expressing your truth and your partner's capacity to receive. They share insights and tips from personal experiences and their clients' journeys, who grappled with the fear of outgrowing their partner. They also share how avoiding the uncomfortable truth can lead to suppressed emotions and potentially harm relationships. To help you visualize these concepts, they use the metaphor of 'truth pebbles,' 'truth bullets,' and 'truth cannons.' Each represents different amounts of truth and has varied impacts on your interactions. But how do you decide which one to use? They guide you through this and share how self-awareness plays a significant role in effectively communicating your truth. Click the link to the digital asset to gain a visual of this concept and join the hosts on this enlightening journey toward effective communication.

Digital Asset: Truth Bullets - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1c3je13MOzMbQiB1cOgJKwgVdRRRlr8o7/view?usp=drive_link

Show notes:
[2:31] People struggle to get their truth across 
[6:30] Express the truth pebbles while they're small
[11:13] Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching 
[12:59] Identify your truth pebbles while they're pebbles
[14:49] Expressing the truth could drive you closer
[17:44] The right level of truth between you and your partner
[22:48] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #27 on Sep 21, 2023, at 06:00 PM Eastern Time: “How to Get on the Same Page About Money.”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYoc-iurj0uHdF_9ceuvSMNj6rnAgUqOPt2

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the hidden world of insecurity in relationships. Insecurity can lead us to hurt those we love unintentionally. They discuss navigating this complex terrain, sharing the importance of understanding your and your partner's insecurities. They also dive into how apologies and insecurities intertwine in relationships. They share some of their experiences, highlighting the need for humility, courage, and vulnerability to rebuild relationships and reduce insecurity. It's about facing insecurities head-on by understanding ourselves better, removing the power of insecurity, and moving forward as stronger, better individuals and partners.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[2:41] The more you own your insecurities, the less insecure you are
[5:12] Take the power from your insecurity
[8:13] Everyone has an insecurity
[11:22] Alan talks about feeling insecure
[12:31] Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
[18:37] Humility and apologizing
[19:18] Top three insecurities
[22:41] The song stuck in your head
[25:53] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #26 on August 17, 2023, 06:00 PM EST: "How To Work Through Uncomfortable Truths with Your Partner": https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwud-ygqz8vHtPbcp31mqRBeK7A5L55VREZ

Follow us on Instagram:

Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today, they discuss finding the balance between selfishness and selflessness in relationships. They discuss how understanding your partner's perspective can influence your interactions and how recognizing the need for more selfishness or selflessness can significantly alter the relationship dynamic. "Is your partner being too selfish?" might be a question that plagues your mind. Overbalancing on either end of the selfishness-selflessness spectrum can wreak havoc on relationships. They shed light on the significance of prioritizing yourself, not out of selfish motives, but to fill your cup to ultimately take better care of your loved ones.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[1:46] The Conscious Couples’ origin story
[6:26] Selfless vs. selfish
[10:25] Alan reminds Emilia to take time for herself
[11:01] Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[12:58] Why a healthy reflection is important
[17:54] Take time for yourself
[21:15] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #26 on August 17, 2023, 06:00 PM EST: "How To Work Through Uncomfortable Truths with Your Partner": https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwud-ygqz8vHtPbcp31mqRBeK7A5L55VREZ

Follow us on Instagram:

Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they delve into the intricacies of our core beliefs about love. and how these can impact the love journey. They show how these core beliefs shape our interactions and the relationships we attract. They also talk about how conflicting love beliefs can lead to unmet expectations, and share valuable insights on maneuvering through these tricky waters with your partner.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[2:36] The glasses analogy about love
[8:23] Differing beliefs on love, and growing apart
[12:09] Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[14:03] The science underneath love
[16:37] Cultivating love
[19:43] Core beliefs that butt heads
[26:04] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #26 on August 17, 2023, 06:00 PM EST: "How To Work Through Uncomfortable Truths with Your Partner": https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwud-ygqz8vHtPbcp31mqRBeK7A5L55VREZ

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Have you ever felt unseen, unheard, or unappreciated in your relationships? Have you ever wondered how to express your truth without causing pain? In this episode, they embark on a soulful journey into the power of vulnerability and courage in our relationships. Drawing parallels to the Tango dance, they unravel the intricate steps of building a lasting bond based on the 'Triad of Belonging' - being seen, being understood, and being valued. They share personal stories and insights into the courage it takes to truly be heard and the transformative power of vulnerability. They also discuss the importance of shared core values and how expressing the truth, even at the risk of pain, fosters meaningful relationships over purely transactional ones.

Digital Assets:
The Triad of Belonging  - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Lg-Wd0GU1R-CVFH8eHj9c71qOBzLkEsG/view?usp=drive_link
The 25 Conscious Love Languages - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1B9d9Vbyn4yNNqH9J66Upmdoz-V0RyClB/view


Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[3:10] The Triad of Belonging
[9:18] Feeling unseen
[11:41] Seeing yourself inaccurately
[14:04] Lucas and Antonie talk about...
[15:16] Fear of rejection
[19:06] The slippery slope of the Tango-ing
[24:54] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #26 on August 17, 2023, 06:00 PM EST: "How To Work Through Uncomfortable Truths with Your Partner": https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwud-ygqz8vHtPbcp31mqRBeK7A5L55VREZ

Follow us on Instagram:

Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today, they talk about a powerful concept, something they fondly call guilt-free pleasures. They believe in giving ourselves the liberty to occasionally enjoy that video game, that movie marathon, or that wine we love. Of course, the key lies in not going overboard. They explored how these guilt-free pleasures can supercharge our lives and relationships. They talk about their own guilt-free pleasures and how they've been incorporating them to strike a balance between pleasing themselves and nurturing their relationship. The idea is to maximize potential and savor those moments of pure joy, guilt-free. The episode wraps up with a heartfelt discussion about the power of open conversations, the alignment of expectations with our partners, and the importance of prioritizing self-care.

Show notes:
[2:32] Identify three guilt-free pleasures
[8:40] Superchargers for the "me"
[11:42] Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
[12:53] Why only three?
[21:58] Support your partner's guilt-free pleasures
[25:06] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com 

Join us on Relationship Talks #25 on July 20, 2023, 06:00 PM EST: "How to NOT Fall Out of Love with Your Life Partner":
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZclc-6ppjguEtQz7hNXE52xDhxb2aNQ-5Tq 

Follow us on Instagram:

Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they talk about navigating fear and vulnerability in your relationships. They discuss how understanding different attachment styles can equip you to express fears more constructively. What happens when you see your partner’s energy shift, but their words don’t match what you notice? Too often, we personalize this mismatch, leading to downward relationship spirals. They share insights on how to acknowledge underlying fears and ask the important question – what support does your partner need now? They also delve into the art of identifying your fears and how to communicate them effectively to your partner.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[2:32] HHALLT
[7:48] Energy shift
[11:45] Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens to the podcast consistently
[12:32] The past, present, or the future
[15:40] Expressing your fear vulnerably
[18:34] Tertiary truth
[24:01] Outro


Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com 

Join us on Relationship Talks #25 on July 20, 2023, 06:00 PM EST: "How to NOT Fall Out of Love with Your Life Partner":
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZclc-6ppjguEtQz7hNXE52xDhxb2aNQ-5Tq 

Follow us on Instagram:

Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they unmask the varied levels of violent communication that have become our 'normals.' Drawing parallels with the Richter scale, they illustrate how these 'normals' echo in our relationships and interactions. Their anecdotes shed light on these communication patterns' profound influence - shaping our attitudes, reactions, and existence. They share practical tools to create a more harmonious atmosphere in our relationships. They also underline the lasting impact of violent communication on our young ones and pets, and hope to inspire us to cultivate an environment of compassion and understanding.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[2:29] Non-violent communication
[6:04] Your Richter scale
[9:26] We model what we experienced growing up
[12:47] Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
[15:02] Assess the normal level of violence in your past
[20:11] NVC
[24:17] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com 

Join us on Relationship Talks #25 on July 13, 2023, 06:00 PM EST: "How to NOT Fall Out of Love with Your Life Partner":
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZclc-6ppjguEtQz7hNXE52xDhxb2aNQ-5Tq 

Follow us on Instagram:

Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!