The Conscious Couples Podcast

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss what causes drama in relationships.  Whether with friends, family, or partners, drama can be a considerable burden.  We’re talking about the significant differences between being surrounded by emotionally immature people and those who are more mature. They discuss that the amount of drama in your life is proportional to the people around you and their level of emotional maturity. The hosts also share powerful information on understanding The Emotional Maturity Triad.

Digital Asset - The Triad of Emotional Maturity: https://drive.google.com/file/d/12i8WhZhDgCoTHvmApW_C15TsFBa0GSZr/view 

Show notes:
[1:31] Episode intentions
[2:06] Alan talked about the recent Relationship Talks
[5:02] Men tend to be more emotionally immature than women
[5:57] The root cause of drama
[7:02] The Triad of Emotional Maturity
[8:27] Signs of emotional immaturity
[15:19] Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
[16:24] Visual of the Triad of Emotional Maturity
[17:53] The Scientist
[19:09] The Buddha
[22:24] The Chameleon
[24:43] Emotional intelligence, regulation, and adaptability
[26:04] What it feels like when you're around emotionally mature people
[34:18] Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about how conflicts in lifestyle preferences can be a major issue for couples. Do you let the little things build up in your relationship? Regarding lifestyle conflicts, it's important to talk openly and honestly with your partner. Instead of allowing resentment to grow, take the time to voice what you want and need in the relationship. Make sure to stay respectful and open-minded while having these conversations. It takes two people working together, and being honest and vulnerable with each other, to align their preferences or come to a compromise.

Show notes:
[2:51] Are you letting little things build up?
[4:17] Conflict in the lifestyle preferences
[8:49] Communicating what you want or don't want to bring into the relationship
[9:17] Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
[10:58] Struggling to be vulnerable
[12:23] Where are you out of alignment?
[16:30] Whose lifestyle is stronger at the moment?
[18:28] Let it start now before it becomes a big thing
[21:08] Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about how your attachment style controls you and affects your life. They share their attachment styles and examples of the different attachment styles, that they talked about in Episode #49 - What Is Your Attachment Style. They talk about understanding yourself so you can improve your attachment style. Attachment styles are not rigid, but you first need to identify yours in order to address the cause behind it and make a change. Understanding each other's attachment styles helps you stay connected in your relationship and avoid misunderstandings.

Related episode that you ideally should listen to before this episode:  Episode #49 - What Is Your Attachment Style - https://apple.co/3m05XB0

Digital Asset:  The Different Attachment Styles - https://bit.ly/3McEerr 

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[1:37] Episode intentions
[3:14] Understand yourself to improve yourself
[6:29] The four attachment styles
[8:45] We can get stretched and pulled out of our original form or attachment style
[11:58] Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks
[14:03] Emilia shares being vulnerable with her mom
[17:02] Wanting to shield yourself from an emotional experience
[19:30] We can decide to shift to a secure attachment style
[26:42] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #22 on Apr 13, 2023 07:00 PM EST: "How to Have a Drama Free Relationship":  http://bit.ly/3JPAzxf

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Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about what causes fighting in a relationship. They zero in on where the disconnect happens. They discuss that it is critical to consider both your preferred type of listener and your partner's preferred type of listening style in your relationship. You might want to use various listening styles depending on whether you are in a growth paradigm or a relationship paradigm.

Show notes:
[1:50] Episode intentions
[2:40] Relationship paradigm vs growth paradigm
[6:45] Not feeling heard, seen, understood, or supported by your partner
[9:34] Three different listener types
[13:00] What listening style do you prefer?
[14:00] Jessica and Michael shares their experience with Emilia and Alan and the Relationship Talk
[16:12] What is your partner's listening style?
[17:18] Preferred listening style when in a growth or relationship paradigm
[18:36] How much do you feel seen or heard in your relationship?
[24:38] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #22 on Apr 13, 2023 07:00 PM EST: "How to Have a Drama Free Relationship":  http://bit.ly/3JPAzxf

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Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about financial literacy and setting financial goals. The main analogy they use is team sports, specifically soccer, wherein the players work together, collaborate, and plan for the game in order to score goals. They also discuss why so many are not financially literate and the steps to know more about handling money and possibly earning more.

Show notes:
[2:28] Collaborating on your financial goals like players do in team sports
[9:40] Only one in three adults is financially literate
[12:05] Lucas and Antonie talk about...
[16:10] Alan's analogy
[18:28] The benefits of being more financially literate
[19:30] What is your money story? What is your relationship with money?
[23:08] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about how we can sometimes bring our past into our current relationships. Unintentionally, we may take our past out on our partner because we have been conditioned to anticipate things to play out a certain way, and we react accordingly. They share how important it is to heal from our past hurts and to regulate our emotions, so we do not unfairly treat our current partners.

Show notes:
[1:16] Episode intentions
[4:10] Alan shares a good example of not taking your past out on your partner
[7:27] You have to break the cycle yourself
[9:53] Sherysse Morris, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
[11:50] Choose not to bring your past into your current relationship
[15:40] What would have happened if Emilia took her past out on Alan
[19:50] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about being vulnerable and open with your partner so you can identify the paradigm that each of you follows. They also share examples of the paradigms and their differences and the effects on the couple and their relationship.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[1:26] Relationship paradigm vs growth paradigm
[7:47] Listen to Jason and Lisa Blackstock’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
[11:00] Fixed mindset
[14:09] Growth paradigm and goals
[15:52] Ask yourself and your partner these questions
[19:33] Growth is the goal
[23:02] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about identifying when you are in a conditional love cycle. They discuss how sometimes you can’t see that the relationship you're in is holding you back from flourishing. Maybe you're afraid to do some things because your action will cause your partner to get angry, hurt you, or leave you. This fear should not exist in a healthy relationship with someone who genuinely wants the best for you.

Show notes:
[2:32] What is a conditional love cycle?
[8:36] Face the fear
[10:15] Patterns of fear
[10:58] Alicia Romanowiz shares her experience with Relationship Talks
[13:36] Sometimes, you have to punch the bully in the face
[16:53] Fear masks itself in love
[22:59] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about what’s the go-to action or reaction when a crisis happens in a relationship, how you treat each other during that time, and how you treat each other after. They also share such a time in their relationship and how they resolved and got through it together.

Show notes:
[1:58] Alan and Emilia’s challenge
[5:07] How they took action
[10:24] Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[13:39] The aftermath
[15:18] How well do you treat your partner during a challenging time?
[21:17] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss how to determine if your partner needs therapy and how to give them a loving nudge in the right direction. They cover the touchy subject of men being more hesitant about going into therapy and what holds them back. They share the reasons for therapy and the benefits you gain when you finally decide to get a therapist.

Show notes:
[3:22] Men and therapy
[7:37] There is an increasing number of people going to therapy
[10:27] Emilia noticed Alan had a reservation about going to therapy
[13:34] Listen to what Sarah Pringle has to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[15:49] Being in therapy does not always mean you have mental issues
[18:52] Afraid of what might be uncovered
[21:06] Reprocess your past from a new awareness
[22:35] Everyone could benefit from therapy
[23:51] Therapy opens a whole new world for you
[28:03] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!