The Conscious Couples Podcast

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the importance of being aware of the top three relationship killers and navigating around these to protect your relationship and grow with your partner. It is essential that you deal with these bugs in the garden early on or as soon as they crop up in your relationship. The hosts share examples from their past and current relationships to show you the effects of not dealing with these properly and the benefits of handling them with your partner.

Show notes:
[1:26] Episode intentions
[2:56] Arrogance is a high level of confidence without merit
[8:38] Dishonesty or lying
[11:24] Being lied to is the worst feeling
[15:30] Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[16:39] Lack of emotional regulation
[19:01] A trigger is something that pokes a fear or insecurity, causing a trauma response
[20:51] Emotional regulation requires intentional practice
[23:14] Look back at your past relationships
[28:50] Outro


Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In a healthy relationship, everything just kind of works. Sure, you might disagree from time to time or come upon other bumps in the road. Still, you generally make decisions together, openly discuss any problems that arise, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. In this episode, they talk about toxicity in a relationship and how you can identify if you have it in yours.

Relationship Talks #20: Dialing In Your Love Languages on Feb 9, 2023, 07:00 PM EST: https://bit.ly/3kOavJZ

Show notes:
[1:37] Episode intention
[2:15] Everyone has been toxic to an extent in their relationship
[5:34] Identifying toxicity in your relationship
[8:54] The essence of toxicity
[11:08] The toxicity bubbles
[13:31] Julie Kilgore, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens to the podcast consistently
[18:11] What does toxicity feel like in a relationship?
[24:45] Quick wrap-up
[29:30] Outro


Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they discuss the importance of having your relationship’s rulebook instead of following what other people say are the “shoulds and shouldn’t.” especially when you’re in a new relationship; people often share the rules that made their relationships last. Unfortunately, their rules don’t apply to every relationship because everybody is different, and everybody’s relationships run on different core values. So communicate with your partner, identify your core values and what's important for each of you, and never let anyone dictate your relationship based on what works for them.

Show notes:
[2:06] The stereotypical setup
[4:24] Don’t let your desire to create your own rulebook get doused by anyone
[7:38] Pause and reflect
[10:51] Derek Smith shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
[13:17] You can choose the meaning
[15:37] What’s the core of your relationship?
[20:09] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the different attachment styles. They describe how you develop attachment styles and share a study about them. You can have more than one attachment style and tendencies, depending on your relationship with your caregiver or caregivers when you were a child. Vulnerability plays a huge role in changing your attachment style from an insecure one to a secure attachment style. They also share the adjustments they made in their relationship by tuning in to each other's attachment styles and allowing each other to be vulnerable.

Show notes:
[1:30] Episode intentions
[2:22] The Strange Situation 1978
[6:47] The Theory of Attachment
[8:34] How we form our attachment styles
[11:17] The attachment styles and tendencies
[12:02] The Avoidant Attachment Style
[12:49] Lynn Nguyen on her Relationship Talk experience as she journeys into becoming the best person for her future partner
[16:38] The Anxious Attachment Style
[17:50] The Disorganized Attachment Style
[18:09] The Secure Attachment Style
[19:02] Where vulnerability comes in
[24:40] Outro


Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about being growth-oriented in a relationship and who is more future-focused between you and your partner. A lot of people believe that relationships are synonymous with discomfort. This is because a relationship represents a permanent sacrifice, an uncomfortable place to be in for them. But being in a growth-focused relationship allows you to grow as a person and expand your comfort zone. Getting to that point in your relationship may not be easy, but it’s not impossible. Besides, the investment will be worth it.

Relationship Talks #19: "Understanding You & Your Partner's Attachment Styles" - https://bit.ly/3PjC2y0

Show notes:
[1:24] Episode intentions
[2:00] Are you more growth-oriented than your partner?
[4:32] When neither of you is future-oriented
[6:40] When one of you is more focused on the future
[10:30] Alicia Romanowiz shares her experience with Relationship Talks
[12:59] The validate-dissipate concept
[16:27] When you and your partner are both future-oriented
[21:08] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about a higher level of goal-setting for couples. They share examples of couples who set goals together and achieved them. They also discuss how sharing your goals and dreams with your partner or friend can help make them a reality. They also add that it is okay to change your mind about your goals later on, depending on how you’ve grown since you set your goals.

Relationship Talks #19: "Understanding You & Your Partner's Attachment Styles" - https://bit.ly/3PjC2y0

Show notes:
[1:52] Episode intentions
[2:21] Examples of couples who set relationship goals
[5:58] Setting real concrete visions and goals together
[8:25] Relationship coaching
[11:15] Derek Smith shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
[12:34] Sharing your goal or dream with a partner gives it a bigger weight
[15:13] Statistics of people who set goals
[18:47] Sit down and set a goal together
[21:41] Outro


Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about a not uncommon scenario in a relationship: when you or your partner tune each other out. Successful relationships are all about healthy communication and listening to each other. However, it's not uncommon for couples to experience periods when talking to each other becomes a challenge and listening is absent. As you think about the possible causes of this ignoring behavior, be sure to consider how well you are listening and holding space for your partner as well – it's easy to blame one partner, but often, faulty communication is a two-way street.

Relationship Talks #19: "Understanding You & Your Partner's Attachment Styles" - https://bit.ly/3PjC2y0

Show notes:
[1:34] Episode intention
[2:37] The law of familiarity
[8:25] Tuning out as a stress response
[11:55] Jessica and Michael shares their experience with Emilia and Alan and Relationship Talk
[14:49] Calling out your partner when they tune you out
[23:04] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the vital signs of relationships and share their top five cup fillers. Alan describes how he put his finger on the pulse of their relationship one day. Then, they walk us through how they resolve a problem by talking and making the needed adjustment so that they meet their cup-filler requirements and get back on track.

Relationship Talks #19: "Understanding You & Your Partner's Attachment Styles" - https://bit.ly/3PjC2y0

Show notes:
[2:10] Episode intentions
[7:08] Example of good vital signs in a relationship
[9:14] Julie Kilgore, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens to the podcast consistently
[9:59] Example of top five things that determine happiness in a relationship
[14:38] Check your relationship vital signs
[18:30] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. What is your experience with fighting in a relationship? Did you grow up where fighting is constant and regular in your home, or was there no fighting at all? Fighting in a relationship may result from exposure to fights growing up. It appears like a normal part of a relationship because we have seen people in relationships fight. In this episode, they talk about how Alan grew up in a home with lots of fighting while Emilia grew up with none. They quickly discuss the top five reasons people in relationships fight and share that you, too, can have a relationship without fights, just like they do.

Relationship Talks #19: "Understanding You & Your Partner's Attachment Styles" - https://bit.ly/3PjC2y0

Show notes:
[2:26] Episode intentions
[3:16] Origin story
[6:37] Break the cycle
[9:03] Top 5 reasons why you fight
[12:51] Lynn Nguyen on her Relationship Talk experience as she journeys into becoming the best person for her future partner
[13:34] Emotional regulation
[17:05] Listening has to be a conscious effort
[21:18] Humility is the key
[24:19] Outro


Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Have you ever felt helpless in your relationship? This usually happens when your partner needs help but they are not helping themselves or when a line is crossed. In this episode, they talk about what to do when you feel helpless in your relationship. They go into setting standards for yourself in the relationship, so you know your limits and can make the right decision for yourself in the relationship.

Relationship Talks #18: "How To Not Fight in Your Relationship" on Dec. 8 at 7PM, EST - https://bit.ly/3WSxcuW

Show notes:
[1:23] Episode Intentions
[3:59] What do you do when you feel helpless in your relationship?
[7:25] You cannot do what your partner needs to do for themselves
[10:16] Conditional support
[11:51] Alicia Romanowiz shares her experience with Relationship Talks
[14:23] Overcome the helplessness
[16:46] Lead by example
[18:33] Love is conditional
[22:27] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!