Fear can dominate us whether we’re aware of it or not. And it’s tied to our emotions, so it can’t be unraveled on an intellectual level. To see what’s behind it, we must drop our defenses, shun the mental compartmentalization of feelings that our subconscious patterning wants… and feel it. Doing so may lead to the dark night of the soul, a place of true transformation. It ain’t pretty, though, and most people avoid it at all costs. Numbing and distracting are much easier, but they never result in true change.

How do you call upon this fear and get to the journey of the dark night of the soul? Triggers. Opening yourself up and asking to be triggered is a blessing because it will show up in the areas where you need to confront your fears. Think of a trigger, if you feel it somewhere in your body—there is fear. I welcome them because each time it’s an opportunity to take a new and different action, or at least just feel. Do you ever avoid certain people or situations because you know it’ll bring up all sorts of uncomfortable feelings? Perhaps you would have to confront something about yourself that you’re unwilling to. Diving head-first into those situations leads to that place of transformation and healing.

You have to go through the eye of the storm to see the truth and release yourself from your previous perceptions and beliefs. It’s a path to self-actualization. If you truly want freedom from your fears, go get emotionally triggered and surrender to it. I suggest taking baby steps, and I’ll talk you through it.