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When we treat gossip as an “excusable sin,” we ignore the corrosive power it has in our lives and relationships. In this conversation, Melissa Kruger and Courtney Doctor talk about why we’re so drawn to gossip, how to avoid it, and how to repent of it when you fail. They discuss some telltale phrases that are red flags for gossip, how to turn the conversation to something else, and when and how it’s right to confess gossip. Listen in as Courtney and Melissa spill the tea on gossip.
 

Related Content:

• How to Shut Down Gossip
• Let’s Talk: Fighting Sin
• Taming the Tongue: How the Gospel Transforms Our Talk

Discussion Questions:

1. How did the verses shared expand your understanding of what gossip is and how it’s harmful?

2. How have you experienced the repercussions or damage of gossip?

3. What recent opportunities have you had to use healing, life-giving words? When have there been opportunities for your words to be potentially damaging?

4. In what situations are you most prone to engage in gossip? What motivations might be driving this desire?

5. What redirection strategies would be helpful for you to have in mind as you try to guard your conversations against gossip?

6. What things unite your current friendships? How do they affect the quality of those relationships?

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Melissa Kruger and Courtney Doctor talk with Jen Wilkin about how to make decisions regarding good opportunities in light of our finiteness. They talk about why quitting is sometimes wise, how to think about decisions that will affect your family, and why it’s better to think of God's will as a field rather than a maze.

Recommended Resources

• Leadership on the Line by Ronald A. Heifetz and Martin Linsky
• Precious Remedies Against Satan's Devices by Thomas Brooks

Related Content

• Should I Prioritize Family or Work? Neither.
• The Busy Christian Family 
• 6 Lessons for Tending Your Time

Discussion Questions 

1. What is your attitude toward change? Are you more prone to embrace or resist changes in your life?
2. Who has God positioned in your life to help you process significant transitions or decisions?
3. What could a regular practice of “taking the temperature” of your current commitments look like? How can you assess the way they’re affecting your relationships with the Lord and others?
4. In what ways are your current commitments influencing the amount and quality of time you spend with the Lord?
5. Describe a time when you’ve decided to commit to a “sacrificial yes,” “necessary no,” or “not right now.” How has God used that experience to teach you about stewarding time?
6. What attributes of God do you need to be reminded of as you make decisions about commitments in this season of life?

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Melissa and Courtney talk with Mark Vroegop about the gap moments of our lives when we have to wait. They discuss why waiting is so frustrating, what it means to wait on the Lord, what the Bible says about waiting, and how to recognize the sinful patterns we should avoid in times of waiting. No one likes to wait, but waiting is where we learn to walk by faith and where God does some of his best work in our lives!

Discussion Questions: 

1. How are you currently experiencing waiting?

2. What expectations are you bringing to that situation, and how might those be shaping your thoughts and actions?

3. How has God used past seasons of waiting as “fertilizer” to strengthen your faith?

4. How does knowing that God both commends and commands waiting change your perspective as you wait?

5. Of the 3 A’s mentioned (anger, anxiety, apathy), which are you most prone to feel in your “gap times”?

6. Which attributes of God are most comforting or helpful for you to be reminded of in your “gap times”?

7. Which biblical example of waiting was most meaningful to you? What other encouraging examples come to mind?

Resources Mentioned:

• Waiting Isn’t a Waste by Mark Vroegop

Related Resources:

• How God Uses Our Waiting
• Hope for Waiting Hearts
• God’s People Are a Waiting People
• Seasons of Waiting: Walking by Faith When Dreams Are Delayed by Betsy Childs Howard

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Recommended Resources

• Chosen Together (TGC25 keynote by John Piper on Ephesians 1:3–14)
• In View of God’s Mercies by Courtney Doctor (Bible study book)

Related Content

• How to Organize and Orchestrate a Bible Study
• 3 Questions to Ask When Choosing a Bible Study
• Four Types of Questions NOT to Ask in Your Small Group Bible Study
• Need a Fall Women’s Bible Study? Try One of These.

Rubric Questions for Choosing a Group Bible Study:

• Does this study require me to have my Bible open?
• Are the questions rooted in the text?
• Does this study account for various learning styles?
• Is it accessible to the women I'm leading?
• Does it speak to a current need in our church?

Five Levels of Communication:

1. Small Talk

2. Facts

3. Opinions and Ideas

4. Feelings

5. Deep Emotion

Discussion Questions

1. Which book of the Bible could you study over and over without ever getting tired of it?

2. What unique aspects of doing Bible study within the local church have you experienced?

3. When have you been part of studies that were aligned with what was happening in other areas of the church? What benefits did you experience from that alignment? What opportunities exist for future alignment?

4. What locations do you usually study in (home or church)? What benefits could come from hosting your group in different settings?

5. How prone is your study group to using “Christianese”? How can you be more intentional about using language that would make unbelieving friends comfortable joining your discussion?

6. How has prioritizing time in God’s Word and in prayer helped you love others better?

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Melissa Kruger talks with her friends Hunter Beless and Laura Wifler about the role social media has played in their lives, both positive and negative. They talk about temptations that can arise from social media—from neglecting other good pursuits to inspiring covetousness. They discuss why it can be helpful to take breaks and what red flags they look for in their own lives that show social media is doing them more harm than good.

Recommended Resources:

• Journeywomen podcast
• Titus: Displaying the Gospel of Grace

Related Content:

• Social Sanity in an Insta World
• The Danger of Self-Soothing Through Social Media
• Why I’m Staying on Social Media
• The Disaster and Delight of Social Media

Discussion Questions:

1. What one word would best describe your current relationship with social media?

2. What benefits or positive experiences have you had from engaging with social media?

3. In what ways does your social media consumption feed comparison or discontentment in your life?

4. What would it look like to engage with social media in ways that glorify God and allow you to love others well? What would you start and stop doing?

5. What practices or boundaries could you put in place to be a wise consumer of online content?

6. Have you ever taken a break (or considered taking a break) from social media? What was the experience like?

7. How can your discussion partners pray for you as you consider how to engage with social media in healthy, God-honoring ways?

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Melissa Kruger and Courtney Doctor talk with Vanessa Hawkins about the Bible’s trustworthiness. They discuss why things like apparent inconsistencies and many different authors can actually point to the truth of the Christian Scriptures.They recommend resources to help listeners become familiar with biblical genre and the overarching narrative of the Bible to better understand how Scripture fits together.

Recommended Resources:

• How to Read the Bible for All Its Worth by Gordon Fee and Douglas Stuart
• Surviving Religion 101 by Michael Kruger
• Canon Fodder
• The Whole Story of the Bible in 16 Verses by Chris Bruno
• From Garden to Glory by Courtney Doctor
• From Beginning to Forever by Elizabeth Woodson
• Nancy Guthrie

Related Content:

• The Biblical Canon
• Why You Can Trust Your Bible
• How to Face Apparent Contradictions in the Bible
• Gen Z’s Questions About Christianity: The Bible’s Authority

Discussion Questions:

1. What questions or doubts about the Bible’s reliability have you encountered from others or wrestled with yourself? 
2. What has been challenging about addressing those questions or concerns?
3. How is the nature of eyewitness testimony helpful in increasing our confidence in the Bible’s accuracy?
4. What consistencies within the Bible amaze you and grow your trust in God and his Word? Where do you see the beauty, harmony, and power of his Word displayed?
5. How does being familiar with the Bible’s overarching narrative help us read and understand it better? What steps can you take to increase your understanding of this narrative or to help others become more familiar with it?
6. What other details in this episode were surprising or served as helpful reminders of why we can trust God’s Word?

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We’re sharing this episode of our Gospelbound podcast as a bonus episode for Deep Dish listeners because we know you love to read! In it, Melissa Kruger and Collin Hansen talk about what’s on their own summer reading list and share recommendations of other books they believe our listeners will enjoy. We hope this conversation will lead you to books that are edifying and enjoyable. Happy reading!

Collin's Summer Reading List

• Godric by Frederick Buechner
• The Fate of the Day by Rick Atkinson
• The Space Trilogy by C. S. Lewis 

Melissa's Summer Reading List

• Homecoming by Kate Morton
• The Lord's Work in the Lord's Way and No Little People by Francis A. Schaeffer 
• The Expulsive Power of a New Affection by Thomas Chalmers

For the full list of book recommendations mentioned in this episode, visit our website.

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Courtney Doctor talks with Whitney Pipkin and Wendy Alsup, two of her friends who have known deep grief. They talk about why grief can be so surprising, why God allows it, and how to talk to a friend who is grieving (hint: it’s better to listen). Whitney talks about why we shouldn’t rush through grief; it’s appropriate to rage against death! Wendy says that we can see our grief as our resistance to the effects of the Fall. Listen to this episode and be comforted that even if grief feels strange and disorienting, you are not alone. 

Recommended Resources:

• We Shall All Be Changed by Whitney Pipkin
• Companions in Suffering: Comfort for Times of Loss and Loneliness by Wendy Alsup

Related Content:

• What I Misunderstood About Grief
• Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy by Mark Vroegop
• Grief Is Not an Enemy of Faith

Discussion Questions:

1. What personal experiences with loss have you (or those close to you) had? Or in what ways do you relate to feeling “immune” from loss?
2. How has experiencing suffering or loss changed you or your outlook on life?
3. How can believers grieve in ways that acknowledge the need to lament as well as maintain hope?
4. In what ways did this episode challenge you to be a better companion to someone walking through a season of suffering?
5. What Scriptures have comforted or ministered to you in hard seasons?
6. How did this conversation help you consider gratitude alongside grief and loss?

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Melissa Kruger and Courtney Doctor respond to questions submitted by listeners such as what advice they have for newlyweds, how women can thoughtfully have relationships with their pastors and elders, their go-to verses for lonely times, and last but not least, their favorite pizza toppings!

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Recommended Resources:

• Parenting with Hope
• The Lord’s Work in the Lord’s Way
• “‘Tis So Sweet to Trust in Jesus”

Related Content:

• TGC Q&A Podcast
• Let’s Talk: Your Questions, Answered!

Questions Discussed:

• What’s a good way to get constructive criticism on Bible teaching without falling into people pleasing?
• What are some practical ways to teach a teen to read and study the Word without her feeling forced?
• How did you know it was time to go to seminary? What advice would you give women considering seminary?
• How do you grow relationships with pastors and elders as a female church member?
• What practical tips can you give on asking questions that get conversations going and reach the heart?
• I’m getting married this fall to a wonderfully godly man. Do you have advice or encouragement for newlyweds?
• What has helped you grow in affection for the Lord?
• What are your go-to verses for lonely seasons of life?
• What are your favorite pizza toppings?

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Melissa Kruger and Courtney Doctor talk about how to seek out the counsel of wise friends and how to respond well when friends seek your counsel. They discuss how to ask good questions, how to deliver a gentle rebuke when necessary, how to follow up on requests for accountability, and how to point someone to Scripture without treating it like a Bible Band-Aid. Listen prayerfully to prepare yourself for opportunities that arise to bear one another’s burdens.

Recommended Resources:

• I’m Praying for You by Nancy Guthrie
• Count It All Joy by Helen Roseveare

Related Content:

• 7 Things to Say to a Hurting Loved One
• Why Mentoring Is Better Than Asking Alexa
• The Neglected Ministry of Asking Questions

Discussion Questions:

1. Considering examples of people who have supported you in difficult seasons, what qualities do you appreciate most in them?

2. In what ways have you struggled to balance extending both grace and truth in your own “kitchen-table counseling”?

3. How can we ensure any necessary rebukes we deliver are given with gentleness?

4. What helps you determine whether someone is “safe” to confess a burden or sin to?

5. In what ways could you make yourself a more approachable and available source of counsel for those who need your support?

6. How can your discussion partners pray for you as you point others to God in difficult situations?

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