The Dildorks

We’ve both reviewed a LOT of sex toys, so this week we’re talking about the intricacies of sex toy reviewing: what makes a good review, how we test toys, and how readers can find reviewers whose opinions they trust.
 

How We Got Into It | Sexy Video Reviews | Testing Process | Hey Epiphora | Bad Toys | Choosing Toys | Annoying Misconceptions | “Soft Skills” | Review Format | SEO-ification | Good vs. Bad Reviews | Reviewers’ Preferences | Number of Sessions | Testing Sessions | Brands’ Reactions | Finding Ethical Reviewers | Art vs. Sales

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Edging and denial go together very well, and this week we’re talking about both: why they can be fun, why they can be annoying and difficult, and how to do them well as a top and as a bottom.
 

Eroticizing Celibacy | Bottoming vs. Topping | Punishments & “Failure” | Ruined Orgasms | Velvet Veronica | Self-Control vs. Collaboration | Edging vs. Gooning | Altered States | Disinhibition & Vulnerability | Long-Distance | Asynchrony | Long-Term Denial | Intensity | Getting Annoyed & Giving Up | Endorphins | How to Improve

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Depression can put a strain on relationships, but it doesn’t have to! This week we’re talking to our friend JoEllen Notte, an author and mental health advocate, about her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends & Family.

“Are You Mad At Me?!” | How It Came to Be | Interview Process | Pandemic Changes | Check On Your Friends | Choosing Kindness | “Not My Place” | “Just Do It” | Overlap with ADHD | Interview Self-Care | Bringing Food | Postponing Difficult Conversations | Ring Theory | Taking Breaks

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Sometimes. paradoxically, it’s fun to suffer! This week we’re talking about suffering in a kink context: why we (sometimes) like it, how to do it safely, and how it differs from plain ol’ sadomasochism.
 

Drug Shortages | Pain as Pleasure | Is Suffering Sexual? | Sex as Aftercare | Pain vs. Suffering | Emotional Suffering | Justifiably Having a Bad Time | Sensory Nightmares | Gender Conditioning | Soft Limits vs. Hard Limits | Safewords | Consensual Non-Consent | Tips for Tops | Fear & Sadism

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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It can be embarrassing (or hot! or both!) to come at the “wrong” time. This week we’re talking about inopportunely-timed orgasms, why they can be sexy as hell, and how to navigate any shame or awkwardness they might trigger.
 

Orgasm Control | Ruined Orgasms | Hormone Changes | Tampon in Science Class | Bathroom Sex | Premature Ejaculation Kink | “Try Not to Come” | Coming Untouched | Post-Orgasm Exhaustion | Coming While Giving Head | Wet Dreams | Nipple Orgasms | Vulnerability

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Roleplay is a big part of both our sex/kink lives, but what does it actually mean to play a role? This week we’re diving into the intricacies of playing a character in scenes.

Full-Time Daddy-Domming | Trivialization of Roleplay | Performance & Acting | Archetypes & Stock Characters | “What Would They Do?” | Character Creation | Humiliation & Bullying | Robots & Aliens | Lore | Character Exercises | Plot Progression | Headspaces | Breaking Character

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Happy Valentine’s Day to all who celebrate! This week we’re discussing the pros and cons of this “Hallmark holiday” and answering listener questions about Valentine’s celebrations.
 

Sex Toy Retail | How We Celebrate | Romance Aesthetic | What’s the Point? | Why the Hate? | Celebrating Solo | Judgment | Misogyny | Gendered Narratives | Anniversaries | Obligation | Mismatched Enthusiasm | Friendships | Jerkmate.com | Year-Round Romance | Everybody Loves Raymond | Early Dating | Kate’s Worst Valentine’s Day Ever

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Even though we both make sex media, we’ve both felt pressured to “sanitize” what we do from time to time. This week we discuss professionalism, personas, posting nudes on main, and other aspects of this balancing act.

“Professionalism” | Different Places & Voices | Getting Exxxplicit | Sexy vs. Educational | Developing a Voice | Hurts So Good | Boundary-Crossing | Exhibitionistic Thrill | Posting Nudes | Jerkmate.com | Sex Work Persona | Flirting Problems | SESTA/FOSTA | Payment Processor Issues

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Why are dating apps so bad?! This week, we discuss some of our issues with dating apps and (maybe) some ways to work around these problems.
 

Fake Profiles | Dopamine Hit | Gamification & Capitalism | Everyone Seems Boring | Specific vs. General | Flirty vs. Explicit | Twitter | Jerkmate.com | Holding a Conversation | Munches | Grindr Dick Pics | Consent Paradigms | Pushing Boundaries

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Billy’s partner Dee Darkholme just got top surgery, so this week, the two of them discuss the process of deciding to get it, what the actual procedure was like, and how recovery has been.
 

The Basics | Pre-Surgical Process | How to Decide / Being Non-Binary | Porn & Monetization | No Nipples | Doctors’ Assumptions | Binder vs. No Binder | Recovery Difficulties | Drains | Looking Forward | Clothes | Rope

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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