The Dildorks

This week Bex interviews Kate about her other creative outlet besides writing about sex: writing songs (including songs about sex!). We discuss the songwriting process and how it relates to kink, porn, and sex education, as well as what it’s like to write and perform vulnerable songs about one’s own sexuality.
 

History | Pop Performers | Songwriting Process | Changes in Process | Choosing Subjects | Spring Awakening | Simmering | Tinder Swindler | Genre & Tone | Skill-Building | Happiness | Songs About Sex | Nuance | A Song A Week Challenge | Favorites | Political Songs | Future Ideas | Sex Doll

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Bex’s partner Ashe recently celebrated 6 months on testosterone, and Bex has been on it for 5 years – so this week the two of them sat down to chat about their experiences on T.
 

Previous T Episode | Method of Delivery | Ritual & Service | Body Hair | Deciding to Start | Impostor Syndrome | Body Modification | Surprising Effects | Voice Changes | Stumbling Upon Progress | Bottom Growth | Arousal & Orgasm | Cleaning | Refractory Period | Arousal Non-Concordance

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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We’re talking about masturbation again this week! Tune in to hear us answer listener questions about solo sex.
 

Donate to Your Local Abortion Fund | Sex Strikes | Keeping It Interesting | Being Watched | Masturbation is Better | Public Places | Touching Your Own Clit | Curious Partner | Age-Appropriate Education | Household Upgrades

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Happy Masturbation Month! This week we’re answering complex questions from listeners about the logistics and ethics of masturbation.

Grumpy About Masturbating | Exploratory Approach | Lube on Dicks | Is It Cheating? | Insecurities | Pics of Exes | Telling Them | Condoms | Daily Challenge

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Ever enjoyed spending money on someone, or being spoiled by someone? This week we’re discussing financial domination: why it’s hot, how to do it (with or without actual cash), and what kinks it pairs well with.

Why Is It Hot? | Tangibility | Humiliation & Ripoffs | Guilt | Keeping Up Appearances | Professionals vs. Amateurs | Boundaries | Budgeting | Cuckolding | Ideal Items | Bimboification | Freedom & Relaxation | Findom on the Cheap | Negotiation

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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A very happy 4/20 to all who celebrate! Once again this year, we’re celebrating by doing “Highpotheticals,” i.e. getting high and answering your weirdest, wildest hypothetical questions about sex and dating.

It’s Tradition! | Last Prisoner Project | Strains | Cis Men’s Feelings | Sex Work Budget | Orgasms on Command | Sexiest Pokémon | Any Location | Number of Fingers | Universal Kink | Crush List | Mainstream Celebrities | Small Orifices

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week, we’re so excited to be talking to sex-positive singer/songwriter Rachel Lark, who we’ve both adored for many years! We chat about her new rock musical, the vulnerability of writing explicit songs, getting over sexual shame, and more.
 

Coming Soon: A New Rock Musical | Internal Family Systems | Arousal vs. Patriarchy | Pleasure vs. Ethics | Shame | Sex-Positive Family | Vulnerability | Specificity vs. Relatability | Musical Influences | Kink | Consent | Vibrator Manuals

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week we’re diving deeper into the topic of sex parties: how to break the ice, handle conflicts, communicate what you are and aren’t up for, and more.

Surprise Orgy | Overcoming Awkwardness | Soothing Anxiety | Games | Establishing Rules | Consent | Making Introductions | Dealing with Harassers | Communicating Boundaries | Attendance Restrictions | Hal Dente Drag | Differentiating Your Event

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Throwing a great play party is a surprisingly complex task. This week we’re discussing the ins and outs (so to speak) of planning a fantastic sex party.
 

Social Anxiety | How to Find Parties | Inclusivity | Number of Attendees | Host’s Responsibilities | Designated Roles | Beducated | Location | Music | Food | Intoxicants | Should the Host Play? | Themes

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Sexual ethics is always an interesting subject, so this week we’re weighing in on ethical dilemmas, like sex with a coworker, faking orgasms, and having a sexual history with your therapist.
 

Coworker Sex | Faking Enthusiasm | Beducated | Friend/Therapist | Lying About Orgasms | Lying About Pleasure

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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