What does it mean to have “high standards” or to be “too picky” in the realms of dating and sex? This week we’re talking about standards, boundaries, “leagues,” dealbreakers, and more.

Male Attention | Horrors of Singledom | Self-Judgment | Gender Differences | “Leagues” | Rejection | Insecurities | Chemistry | Wanting vs. Being Wanted | Monogamy vs. Polyamory | Friend of a Friend Matchmaking | Bad Standards | What ARE “Standards”? | Attractions Changing | Good Standards | Setting Standards | Preference vs. Fetishization

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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There are a ton of ways that size differences can be eroticized, from age play to giantess porn to vore fantasies. This week, we share our thoughts and feelings on various forms of size kink.
 

Littleness vs. Age Play | Vore | Eating & Swallowing | Cannibalism (7:52–11:40) | Giantesses | Tinies | Toy Story | Human Size Variations | Kissing | Height Preferences | Gender | CNC | How to Emphasize Size

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week we’re joined by Addison Finch, the artist who created our new logo! We talk with him about how the art came together, plus his work as a tattoo artist.

Dildo Nerds | New Logo | Listened to Every Episode | Fifty Shades | Favorite Part | Separate Personas | Piercing | Tattooing | Alt Culture | Traditions vs. Colonialism | Flash Art | Kinky Tattooing

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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Definition | Deciding to Get Married | Hierarchical vs. Non-Hierarchical | Polysecure by Jessica Fern | Escalator Without Hierarchy | Polywise by Jessica Fern | Differing Compatibilities | Friendships vs. Romance | Dean Spade Essay | Building Your Own Escalator | Professional & Creative Partnerships | Social Media | Collars | Money

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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Is porn addiction real? Is the NoFap community just a bunch of chastity fetishists? Are men okay? This week Kate chats with Kris Taylor, an academic from New Zealand who has studied porn addiction discourse and the NoFap movement, about all of the above and more.
 

Origin Story | Masculinity | New or Old? | NoFap Research | Homoeroticism in NoFap | Women on NoFap | Giving Pleasure | Eroticizing Self-Denial | Dust Breeding | Barriers & Tension | Sexual Fantasy | Male Pleasure | Flure App | Porn Dependency | “No Porn” Rule | Fantastical Fantasies | Vibrators | A Cyborg Manifesto | Solitary Sex | Making Sex | Female Orgasm | Queer & Trans People | Future Research Directions

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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Humor is a big component of our sex and kink, but it’s not always appropriate during scenes. This week we talk about how and when to deploy humor to improve your flirting, domming, or subbing.

Vibrators Dying | Improv Crushes | Take an Improv Class | The Excitement of Humor | Collaboration | Repetition | Tension & Release | Too Much Laughing? | Read the Room | Nothosaur Toys | Breath Play | Nerves & Anxiety | Aftercare | On the Same Page | Making a Top Laugh | Humiliation Play | Funny Kink Scenes | Commit to the Bit

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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Watching porn while in a relationship can be more contentious than watching it while single; this week, we theorize on why that is, and answer listener questions about watching porn with partners.
 

Is OnlyFans Cheating? | Economics | Insecurities & Anxieties | What Porn is For | Extreme Tastes | Watching Porn During Oral | Nothosaur Toys | Sharing Passwords | Porn Stars’ Appearance | Queer Porn with Straight Partners

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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With Valentine’s Day having just passed, this week we tried to figure out what “romance” actually is.

Consistency | Autism & Aromanticism | Love, Inc. | Romantic Attraction | Friendship | New Relationship Energy | Media Love | Nothosaur Toys | What’s Romantic To You? | Reciprocity | Examples of Romance | Surprise | Spontaneous Kisses | Thinking of You | Vulnerability | Sex Games | Remembering Preferences

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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What happens when a sex toy reviewer quits using vibrators? This week Kate and her spouse mb discuss her recent break from using vibes, the reasons for it, and the results of the experiment.

Why? | Vibrator Habituation | Research Questions | Sensitivity | Orgasm Threshold | Orgasm Intensity | Tools | Quitting? | Slowing Down | Sex Ed | How Long It Takes | Manual Stimulation | Hand Weakness | Mental Aspect | Flure | Readjusting | Withdrawal | Polyamory Clause | Natural/Intimate | Alcohol | Internal Spots | Libido & Satisfaction | New Techniques | Mood | Big Nut

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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We’re answering listener questions on sex toys this week – and sharing some of our snarky takes about certain sex toy brands.

Meeting People Where They’re At | Butt Plugs for Long-Term Wear | Njoy Pure Plug | Fun Factory Bootie | Lube for Silicone Anal Toys | Sliquid Silk | Sliquid Sassy | Sutil Rich | Sliquid Organics Gel | Should I Buy More Toys? | Magic Wand Rechargeable | Njoy Pure Wand | VixSkin Toys | Best Orgasms | VixSkin Outlaw | Eroscillator | Fucking Sculptures Double Trouble | Pressure-Wave Toys | Lelo Sila | Womanizer Premium 2 | Satisfyer Pro 2 | Toys for AMAB People | Lovense Edge 2 | Trans Affirming Wear | Ana Valens Article | Fun Factory Manta | Hot Octopuss Pulse | Micropenis Dildo | Uberrime Dildo Tip | Toy Cleaner | DivaWash | Songs About Sex Toys | Rachel Lark Song | “Bad Sex” Song | Lelo | Dick Tux | Owning a Sex Shop

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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