Unquestionable Calvin - From Religion to Conspiracies to Reality

DIVORCED: Christianity and Conspiracies

My guest today is Calvin Smith, whom you may recognize from his YouTube channel Unquestionable Calvin. Calvin was exposed to both Christianity and supernatural ideas from an early age. Eventually he rejected Christianity but firmly believed multiple conspiracy theories, even attempting to build a career around them. In this episode, Calvin shares his journey from Religion to Conspiracies to Reality.

 FIND CALVIN:

TikTok.com/UnquestionableCalvin

Instagram.com/UnquestionableCalvin

YouTube.com/UnquestionableCal

Linktr.ee/CalvinSmith

Facebook.com/UnquestionableCalvin

Janice Selbie's Best-selling book Divorcing Religion: A Memoir and Survival Handbook is now available in the USA https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DP78TZZF and CANADA https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0DP78TZZF

Tickets are now available for the ONLINE Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture conference, happening May 24-25, 2025! Get yours now: https://www.shamelesssexuality.org/

Religious Trauma Survivor Support Group is happening on Tuesdays at 5pm Pacific and Thursdays at 6pm Eastern (starting April 17). Don’t miss this opportunity to connect with others for healing and support: 

https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Need help on your journey of healing from Religious Trauma? Book a free 20-minute consultation with Janice here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

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The Divorcing Religion Podcast is for entertainment purposes only. If you need help with your mental health, please consult a qualified, secular, mental health clinician.

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Kristin Cherry Jackson, LMFTA - Sex & Intimacy

Divorced: Purity Culture

CW: Frank discussion about sex

Kristin Cherry Jackson is a licensed psychotherapist (LMFTA) focusing on sex, relationship, and trauma therapy in Washington state. A purity culture refugee herself, Kristin is painfully familiar with the many ways that growing up with restrictive messages around sex, gender, and sexual orientation can leave lasting impacts. 

Kristin specializes in helping survivors of sexual and religious trauma to heal, clarify their values around relationships, and own their desire and pleasure. She is speaking at the Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture online conference on the topic of Confronting Coercion: Freeing Yourself from Sexual Obligation Messages.

FIND KRISTIN:

IntimaTherapy: www.intimatherapy.com/healing-from-purity-culture

Instagram: www.instagram.com/intima_therapy

FIND JANICE:

• Janice Selbie's Best-selling book Divorcing Religion: A Memoir and Survival Handbook is now available in the USA https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DP78TZZF and CANADA https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0DP78TZZF
• Tickets are now available for the ONLINE Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture conference, happening May 24-25, 2025! Get yours now: https://www.shamelesssexuality.org/
• Religious Trauma Survivor Support Group is happening on Tuesdays at 5pm Pacific and Thursdays at 6pm Eastern (starting April 17). Don’t miss this opportunity to connect with others for healing and support: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services
• Need help on your journey of healing from Religious Trauma? Book a free 20-minute consultation with Janice here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Follow Janice and Divorcing Religion on Social Media:

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisecounsellor/

Subscribe to the audio-only version here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-podcast

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Tessi Muskrat, M.A. - Free To Explore: Sexuality After Purity Culture

Divorced: Evangelical Purity Culture

 A native woman of Cherokee and Irish descent, Tessi Ynada Muskrat holds a master’s degree in counseling psychology and is a doctoral student researcher at the University of Missouri. Co-founder of the international Purity Culture Research Collective (PCRC), Tessi’s research centers the voices of those who have experienced sexual and gender-based trauma in religious contexts. Additionally, Tessi works as a post-traumatic growth coach, companioning those who have experienced religious or purity culture trauma on their journey to health and thriving. 

 In this conversation, Tessi shares about going from life on a shame-free commune to being deeply indoctrinated by purity culture teachings - and eventually, discovering her own sexuality. 

FIND TESSI: https://www.puritycultureoutcomes.com/

FIND JANICE:

• Janice Selbie's Best-selling book Divorcing Religion: A Memoir and Survival Handbook is now available in the USA https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DP78TZZF and CANADA https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0DP78TZZF
• Tickets are now available for the ONLINE Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture conference, happening May 24-25, 2025! Get yours now: https://www.shamelesssexuality.org/
• Religious Trauma Survivor Support Group is happening on Tuesdays at 5pm Pacific and Thursdays at 6pm Eastern (starting April 17). Don’t miss this opportunity to connect with others for healing and support: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services
• Need help on your journey of healing from Religious Trauma? Book a free 20-minute consultation with Janice here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Follow Janice and Divorcing Religion on Social Media:

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BlueSky: @janiceselbie.bsky.social

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DivorcingReligion

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@janiceselbie

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisecounsellor/

Subscribe to the audio-only version here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-podcast

The Divorcing Religion Podcast is for entertainment purposes only. If you need help with your mental health, please consult a qualified, secular, mental health clinician.

Podcast by Porthos Media
Copyright 2025
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Patti & Nancy, Apostate Sisters - Life After a Doomsday Cult

DIVORCED: Worldwide Church of God
 
CW: Mature themes
 
Today I’m excited to interview Patti and Nancy, who recently interviewed me on their popular APOSTATE SISTERS YouTube channel! Patti and Nancy are sisters deconstructing their upbringing in the Worldwide Church of God Christian doomsday cult. The sisters note that the cult stifled their critical thinking and warped their sense of autonomy.

They decided to start their YT channel to unpack the impacts of high-control religion, from bodily autonomy to mental health, and share their healing journey with humor and honesty.
 
FIND the APOSTATE SISTERS:
 YT:  https://www.youtube.com/@ApostateSisters
 IG: https://www.instagram.com/apostatesisters/
 You can find the Apostate Sisters on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, and BlueSky.
   
Janice Selbie's Best-selling book Divorcing Religion: A Memoir and Survival Handbook is now available in the USA https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DP78TZZF and CANADA https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0DP78TZZF

Tickets are now available for the Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture conference, happening LIVE in Seattle May 23-25, 2025! Get yours now: www.shamelesssexuality.org

Religious Trauma Survivor Support Group happens on Tuesdays at 5 pm Pacific. Don’t miss this opportunity to connect with others for healing and support: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Need help on your journey of healing from Religious Trauma? Book a free 20-minute consultation with Janice here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Sign up now for Janice's online Divorcing Religion Workshop starting March 2nd: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-syndrome-workshop

Follow Janice and Divorcing Religion on Social Media:

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisecounsellor/

Subscribe to the audio-only version here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-podcast

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Copyright 2025
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Quantas Ginn, MBA, MS, LMFT-S, CST (he/him) - Sex Therapy for Purity Culture Survivors
  
My guest today is Quantas Ginn. Quantas is a Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT) professor teaching courses on Human Sexuality and MFT theories. His research interests include interracial relationships, perinatal parenting, and the intersection of religion and sexuality.
 
 Quantas also operates a private practice as a marriage, couples, and family therapist, and also as a Certified sex therapist. He works with individuals and couples on a variety of issues, including communication, conflict management, and sexual intimacy. 
 
I’m delighted that Quantas will also be joining us at the online Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture Conference this May, where he will be talking about “Embracing Your Sexy Self, Literally and Figuratively.”
 FIND QUANTAS: https://www.quantasginntherapy.com/ 
FIND JANICE SELBIE:

Janice Selbie's Best-selling book Divorcing Religion: A Memoir and Survival Handbook is now available in the USA https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DP78TZZF and CANADA https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0DP78TZZF

Tickets are now available for the Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture conference, happening ONLINE May 24-25, 2025! Get yours now: www.shamelesssexuality.org
Religious Trauma Survivor Support Groups happen on Tuesdays at 5 pm Pacific and Thursdays at 6 pm Eastern. Don’t miss this opportunity to connect with others for healing and support: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Need help on your journey of healing from Religious Trauma? Book a free 20-minute consultation with Janice here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services
Follow Janice and Divorcing Religion on Social Media:

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@janiceselbie

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisecounsellor/

Subscribe to the audio-only version here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-podcast

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Copyright 2025
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Dr. Kayden Vargas (they/he) - From Conservative Christian to Nonbinary Psychologist

TW: Brief references to CSA 

Dr. Kayden Vargas (they/he) is a trans nonbinary poet, parent, and psychologist located in the traditional homelands of the Yakama Nation. Their poetry revolves around themes of small-town living, bicultural/bilingual/biracial life, trauma healing, and trans identity. Their clinical specialties include gender affirming healthcare, eating disorders, religious trauma, and queer psychosocial development. 

Kayden also works as an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Heritage University, a small not-for-profit university that is both a Hispanic-Serving-Institution and Native American Non-Tribal Serving institution, located in Toppenish, WA. 

Dr. Vargas will be joining me at the Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture online conference this May, on the topic of: Healing Beyond the Binary: Transgender expansiveness, sexualities, and overcoming religious residue.

FIND Dr. VARGAS: https://www.vccdrkmv.com/

FIND JANICE SELBIE:

• Janice Selbie's Best-selling book Divorcing Religion: A Memoir and Survival Handbook is now available in the USA https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DP78TZZF and CANADA https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0DP78TZZF
• Tickets are now available for the Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture conference, happening ONLINE May 24-25, 2025! Get yours now: www.shamelesssexuality.org
• Religious Trauma Survivor Support Groups happen on Tuesdays at 5 pm Pacific and Thursdays at 6 pm Eastern. Don’t miss this opportunity to connect with others for healing and support: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services
• Need help on your journey of healing from Religious Trauma? Book a free 20-minute consultation with Janice here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Follow Janice and Divorcing Religion on Social Media:

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisecounsellor/

Subscribe to the audio-only version here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-podcast

The Divorcing Religion Podcast is for entertainment purposes only. If you need help with your mental health, please consult a qualified, secular, mental health clinician.

Podcast by Porthos Media
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Glenda Jordan - Powerful Polyamory

DIVORCED: Southern Baptist Christianity

My guest today is a model, artist, and entertainer - and she will be speaking at the Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture event in Seattle this May! Glenda Jordan lives in Las Vegas these days but grew up on a farm south of Nashville, Tennessee - where she was indoctrinated into the Southern Baptist faith from birth. 

After deconstructing religion in college, Glenda became involved in activism for various causes. Joining the third-wave intersectional feminist movement, Glenda believes that liberation from the patriarchy and the destructive influence of misogynistic faiths are inexorably linked. 

Focusing on atheistic feminism and sex positivity, Glenda is an active volunteer with RfR and other non-profit organizations and her local queer kink communities. 

FIND GLENDA:

www.glendajordan.net

https://www.instagram.com/calliopehoop/

https://www.facebook.com/glenda.f.jordan

Janice Selbie's Best-selling book Divorcing Religion: A Memoir and Survival Handbook is now available in the USA https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DP78TZZF and CANADA https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0DP78TZZF

Tickets are now available for the Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture conference, happening LIVE in Seattle May 23-25, 2025! Get yours now: www.shamelesssexuality.org

Religious Trauma Survivor Support Group happens on Tuesdays at 5 pm Pacific. Don’t miss this opportunity to connect with others for healing and support: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Need help on your journey of healing from Religious Trauma? Book a free 20-minute consultation with Janice here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Sign up now for Janice's online Divorcing Religion Workshop starting March 2nd: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-syndrome-workshop

Follow Janice and Divorcing Religion on Social Media:

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@janiceselbie

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisecounsellor/

Subscribe to the audio-only version here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-podcast

The Divorcing Religion Podcast is for entertainment purposes only. If you need help with your mental health, please consult a qualified, secular, mental health clinician.

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Jeremy de Tolly - Liberate Your Voice

My guest today is rock and roll musician, and heart-centered communication coach, Jeremy de Tolly. Jeremy works with those who have deeply shut-down voices, whose voices often became blocked starting in their childhoods. He understands the significance that parenting, school, and culture can have on our voices, and that, to return a voice to health, we need to address the expression aspects of these issues specifically. 

 This led Jeremy to develop the Radiant Voices material and methodologies that he teaches now, both as a private vocal transformation coach and in his signature course, Awaken Your Radiant Voice. The focus of Jeremy’s work is to empower clients to go from not trusting their voice to feeling safe and confident about expressing their magic in the world. 

FIND JEREMY: 

www.jeremydetolly.com

instagram.com/jeremydetolly

Janice Selbie's Best-selling book Divorcing Religion: A Memoir and Survival Handbook is now available in the USA https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DP78TZZF and CANADA https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0DP78TZZF

Tickets are now available for the Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture conference, happening LIVE in Seattle May 23-25, 2025! Get yours now: www.shamelesssexuality.org

Religious Trauma Survivor Support Group happens on Tuesdays at 5 pm Pacific. Don’t miss this opportunity to connect with others for healing and support: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Need help on your journey of healing from Religious Trauma? Book a free 20-minute consultation with Janice here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Sign up now for Janice's online Divorcing Religion Workshop starting March 2nd: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-syndrome-workshop

Follow Janice and Divorcing Religion on Social Media:

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DivorcingReligion

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@janiceselbie

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisecounsellor/

Subscribe to the audio-only version here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-podcast

The Divorcing Religion Podcast is for entertainment purposes only. If you need help with your mental health, please consult a qualified, secular, mental health clinician.

Podcast by Porthos Media
Copyright 2025
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Lauren Elise Rogers - Sex Ed for You!

DIVORCED: Fundamentalist Christianity

CW: Frank discussions of s3x

Lauren Elise Rogers is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach. She is the founder of Sex Ed for You, where she provides clear, compassionate, and comprehensive guidance on intimacy, relationships, and sexual health. 

After being raised in a high-control religion and getting married at 21, Lauren fought her way out to become the person she needed most. Her desire to understand her relational missteps – like her decade-long marriage to her daughter's gay father – led her to become a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. 

In this episode, Lauren shares her journey and how she uses what she’s learned to help others navigate complex topics like long-term partnerships, consensual non-monogamy, life transitions, purity culture, and LGBTQIA+ issues.

FIND LAUREN

Website: www.sexedforyou.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexedforyou

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/

Janice Selbie's Best-selling book Divorcing Religion: A Memoir and Survival Handbook is now available in the USA https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DP78TZZF and CANADA https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0DP78TZZF

Tickets are now available for the Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture conference, happening LIVE in Seattle May 23-25, 2025! Get yours now: https://www.shamelesssexuality.org/

Religious Trauma Survivor Support Group is happening on Tuesdays at 5pm Pacific. Don’t miss this opportunity to connect with others for healing and support: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Need help on your journey of healing from Religious Trauma? Book a free 20-minute consultation with Janice here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Sign up now for Janice's online Divorcing Religion Workshop starting March 2nd: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-syndrome-workshop

Follow Janice and Divorcing Religion on Social Media:

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DivorcingReligion

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@janiceselbie

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisecounsellor/

Subscribe to the audio-only version here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-podcast

The Divorcing Religion Podcast is for entertainment purposes only. If you need help with your mental health, please consult a qualified, secular, mental health clinician.

Podcast by Porthos Media
Copyright 2025
www.porthosmedia.net

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Dr. Josie McSkimming - Gutsy Girls

DIVORCED: Christianity

Today’s guest is Dr. Josie McSkimming, who joins us from Australia. She has previously been a guest on the Divorcing Religion Podcast and was also a speaker at CORT2023. 

Dr. McSkimming is a clinical social worker with more than 35 years experience – and personal experience with religious trauma. When I learned that she’d published a book about her life, I wanted to read it right away. Her book is called GUTSY GIRLS: Love, Poetry, and Sisterhood.

Josie grew up in the shadow of her oldest sister Dorothy, who was one of Australia’s most charismatic and courageous literary figures. Josie watched Dot become an award-winning iconic poet, but theirs was a family of complex dynamics. 

In today’s episode we discuss life with a volatile parent, sibling rivalry, codependence, seeking escape from family problems, and the grief and loss that accompany religious trauma.

FIND Dr. McSKIMMING:

https://www.uqp.com.au/books/gutsy-girls (also available at Amazon.com)

https://mcskimming.com.au/

FIND JANICE SELBIE:

Janice Selbie's Best-selling book Divorcing Religion: A Memoir and Survival Handbook is now available in the USA https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DP78TZZF and CANADA https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0DP78TZZF

Registration is now open for the Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture conference, happening LIVE in Seattle May 23-25, 2025! Get your ticket now: https://www.shamelesssexuality.org/

Religious Trauma Syndrome Support Group happens on Tuesdays at 5 pm Pacific. Don’t miss this opportunity to connect with others for healing and support: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Need help on your journey of healing from Religious Trauma? Book a free 20-minute consultation with Janice here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/services

Sign up now for Janice's online Divorcing Religion Workshop starting March 2nd: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-syndrome-workshop

Follow Janice and Divorcing Religion on Social Media:

Threads: [email protected]

BlueSky: @janiceselbie.bsky.social

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DivorcingReligion

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@janiceselbie

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisecounsellor/

Subscribe to the audio-only version here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-podcast

The Divorcing Religion Podcast is for entertainment purposes only. If you need help with your mental health, please consult a qualified, secular, mental health clinician.

Podcast by Porthos Media
Copyright 2025
www.porthosmedia.net

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