The Dr CK Bray Show

EPISODE 341 It’s a feeling. The car salesman seemed a bit sketchy. You had a bad feeling about your friend’s new girlfriend. Something just feels so right about your new job offer. Each of us are guided by intuition. You make many decisions and first impressions based on an emotional feeling. Dr. Bray gives insight on whether you should trust these feelings in decision making, and if it is possible to sharpen your intuition.

EPISODE 340  Do you know what your core values are?  Drawing from Steven Hayes insight on values, Dr. Bray discusses how values can generate real meaning and purpose and help you to avoid the hedonic treadmill.  From naming your heroes to recognizing hard times in your life, Dr. Bray gives questions that you can use to assess what your core values are.

EPISODE 339 Experts predicted that with many employees working from home that HR issues would decrease.  But gossip, politics, and angry employees have persisted through the pandemic.  Learn more about what is going on with HR during the covid crisis.  This week Dr. Bray also discusses the benefits of reading.  Every week there are hundreds of new books released, how do you decide which books are worth reading.  Dr. Bray shares the best way to speed read a business book.  He has mastered the process as he reads at least two books a week.

EPISODE 338 In this week's episode of the Dr. Bray show, Dr. Bray shares the story of a recent attack he experienced while at a local convenience store to grab a drink.  (Yes, everyone keeps telling him to stop drinking soda). On a more serious note, Dr. Bray also answers a listener's question about how to move forward post-pandemic and the best way to examine her life. You do not want to miss this episode!

EPISODE 337 Every individual will experience a major disruption and transition, as we have all learned in 2020. This year we shared a common "lifequake" of profound change, which caused us to change how we view life and the expectations of what our life was "supposed" to be. Dr. Bray shares thoughts, stories, and ideas on why the linear life we once knew has now changed, and the average time a life transition can take. Thanks to Bruce Feiler (council of Dads) and his research into transitions that was used in this podcast. Bruce also wrote about transition in Psychology Today Magazine May 2020.

EPISODE 336 The media loves to hype the overnight success. The individual who had a fantastic idea and turned that idea into a million-dollar business in six months. This scenario is rarely the truth and spreads a harmful message to the truth of personal growth and development. There are laws that govern personal growth and development that are just as immutable as the laws governing the universe. These laws can be no more circumvented than the force of gravity. Dr. Bray discusses the truth of success, personal development, and excellence. Dr. Bray also talks about your brain and hobbies. Many of you have started a hobby or two during quarantine, and Dr. Bray shares insights into why this has positive long-term effects on your brain health. He also shares some hobbies that have made a comeback. If you have questions you would like Dr. Bray to answer on the podcast email your questions to [email protected]. Thanks to Brett and Kate McKay from the Art of Manliness (AOM) for the best written article on the fallacy of hacks and shortcuts. Their article is titled, "There is no other way."

EPISODE 335 If you were an athlete looking to go pro or a musician wanting to be world-class, Anders Ericsson would be the one to speak to. The Swedish psychologist pioneered research that helps us better understand the art of expertise. You have likely heard of his research in “Outliers” by Malcolm Gladwell, which encouraged people to engage in 10,000 hours of deliberate practice to improve a skill. With the passing of such a brilliant mind just last month, this podcast highlights the research and legacy of Anders Ericsson. 

EPISODE 334 Our early ancestors were forced to develop a strong sense of cognitive caution to keep them out of danger. This fight or flight trait that once kept cavemen and women alive can now have a negative impact on our lives. While our survival is no longer a daily concern, our emotional and mental health is in threat. Much of our suffering can be linked to our minds and how we think and react to everyday stressors. In today's podcast, Dr. Bray will share how to control our emotional and mental reactions better when things aren't going well.

EPISODE 332 Conversations at work don't always consist of work-related topics. We talk about our weekends, what we plan to do for our upcoming vacation and our favorite netflix series. Unfortunately, at times our conversations go to areas that don't belong in the workplace. Because your coworker's divorce is better than any real housewives episode, this isn't a topic for the workplace. These topics can have negative repercussions on your career. On today's podcast Dr. Bray discusses eight topics that we need to avoid in the workplace.

EPISODE 332 Unlike other emotions, anger is seductive. While sadness or loneliness are not emotions we like to feel, sometimes anger feels good. We have all had moments where everything comes to a head and we lose our temper. Today’s podcast is about how to harness anger in ways that are beneficial for us and others, while avoiding anger’s poisonous side effects.