The bottlenecks in your life can have a detrimental impact on your personal and professional life, especially your most personal relationships.
You’re probably out there raising your hand and saying I am tired of this bottleneck; I'm tired of feeling stuck. I know better. Why am I not doing better?
I guarantee that staying bottlenecks only creates more frustration.
It's vital that you recognize these bottlenecks to keep them from hindering your growth.
So how can you recalibrate your measuring stick and reassess YOUR operating patterns to overcome these bottlenecks to live a more fulfilled life?
It all depends on your Enneagram type.
Today on "Lead with the Enneagram," we'll explore the importance of understanding your Enneagram type, identifying your motivations and fears, and then using this knowledge to address and overcome bottlenecks in your life.
I'll share the bottlenecks specific to each Enneagram type and the detrimental impact of these bottlenecks on each type's growth patterns. Plus, I'll share how I helped a client of mine identify where she might be bottlenecking herself when it comes to dating and how she was able to get back out there into the dating world again.
Listen in to learn the importance of understanding your Enneagram type in addressing and overcoming bottlenecks and how you can shift your mindset and take action to align with YOUR desires.
Discovering the Enneagram 12 years ago has allowed me to guide millions on their journey. I can help you too! First and foremost, you need to know your correct Enneagram type. My customized blueprint will give you the right information. If you want a personalized approach, apply to work with me for PRIVATE VIP 1:1 Coaching, or learn more at Tracy O'Malley.com in the work with me section.
What You Will Learn
How to navigate personal and professional bottlenecks and integrate the Enneagram framework for accelerated transformation
How each Enneagram type can experience bottlenecks and challenges
The value of understanding the fears and motivations behind each Enneagram type's bottleneck
The Role of Compassion, empathy, and Self-awareness in overcoming bottlenecks
Why embracing self-compassion is the key for 1s to overcome their perfectionism
The key for 2s to break free from their over giving and people-pleasing patterns
How 3s can shift their focus from their external achievements to inner fulfillment
The one thing that can help 4s overcome envy and celebrate their own journey
How 5s can step out of the analysis paralysis that is holding them back and act
The first step for type 6s is to be able to release their incessant questioning and build trust in their decision-making capabilities
How 7s can find fulfillment to embrace what truly excites you
The key for type 8s is to embrace their vulnerability so they can cultivate a circle of trusted individuals (and their love relationships)
How Enneagram 9s can break free from their fear of rocking the boat to pursue their personal growth The key to evaluating relationships and support systems that may contribute to (or hinder) YOUR personal growth
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The core focus on an Enneagram 9 is harmony, which sounds like a really good thing. And it is.
But the problem arises when an Adaptive Peacemaker chooses harmony in the moment to the detriment of their Future Self.
Before attending my in-person Enneagram retreat, Alexandria Keahi experienced this exact challenge, staying quiet to avoid conflict and ignoring her own dreams to accommodate others.
So, what does it look like when a self-preservation 9 chooses herself?
On this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, Alexandria explains how the focus on harmony associated with being a 9 was playing out in her life and why she swept things under the rug to keep the peace.
Alexandria shares the response she’s getting from friends and family now that she’s doing things for herself and describes how stepping into her own internal harmony is bringing her more peace and less anxiety.
Listen in for insight on how integrating the Enneagram is inspiring Alexandria to pursue a longstanding dream and learn how those of us who love and lead 9s can support them in stepping into the light! What You Will Learn
Why Alexandria thought she was a social 4 but turned out to be a self-preservation 9
How Alexandria identifies with the focus on harmony associated with being an Enneagram 9
How Alexandria’s self-preservation instinctual type plays out in her life
Alexandria’s struggle around creating temporary harmony to the detriment of her Future Self
How Alexandria leans into her 1 and 8 wings to avoid sweeping things under the rug in her professional life (and why it’s more difficult for her to do that in her personal life)
The response Alexandria is getting from friends and family now that she’s doing things for herself
Why it’s crucial for a 9-4-5 tritype like Alexandria to be aware of their tendency to withdraw
How stepping into her own internal harmony is bringing Alexandria more peace and joy
Alexandria’s advice to fellow Enneagram 9s who are afraid to step into the light
How people who love and lead Enneagram 9s can encourage them to use their voice
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How do you react when you hear the buzzword ‘culture’?
If you’re tempted to roll your eyes, it’s probably because much of what we see online and in the workplace around culture is contrived.
So, how do we build a genuinely strong culture in our teams—at home and at work?
On this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, I discuss the power of building a strong culture, describing what differentiates a manufactured culture from one with genuine vulnerability and understanding.
I explore how the Enneagram gives us a framework for building culture, explaining how the tool exposes cracks in company culture and why strategy won’t work if your team can’t appreciate their differences.
Listen in for insight on making your team feel seen, heard, understood and valued—and learn how to build a bulletproof culture on your team using the blueprint of the Enneagram.
What You Will Learn
The power of building a strong culture with your team (at work and at home)
What differentiates a manufactured culture from one with genuine vulnerability
How the Enneagram gives us the framework for building a bulletproof culture
My role in helping teams expose the cracks in their culture during periods of growth
The Enneagram breakdown of the team I worked with this past weekend
How to pause when you’re tempted to respond to triggers or protect your own fears
How making your team feel seen, heard and understood transforms relationships
The ROI of integrating the Enneagram to build a strong business culture
Why strategy doesn’t work in the absence of a strong culture on your team
How our differences can be our greatest strength OR the thing that takes us out
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On any personal growth journey, it’s a real challenge to use new tools when you’re in crisis.
And even the best coaches in the world can’t help you if you whip out the shame stick every time things don’t go your way.
So, what IS the secret to responding with grace in challenging circumstances?
On this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, I explain why self-compassion is the key to personal growth, describing how it allows us to be kind in the face of our suffering and personal failings.
I discuss why self-compassion is the greatest gift the Enneagram has given me, sharing how I was able to respond with compassion when people posted hateful comments about my recent podcast appearance.
Listen in to understand the three elements of self-compassion and find out why even Tony Robbins can’t help you live your best life if you don’t have compassion for yourself!
What You Will Learn
Why self-compassion is a crucial piece of personal growth and recovery
How to differentiate compassion from judgement or enabling
Why we find it easier to show compassion towards others rather than ourselves
How self-compassion allows us to be kind in the face of our personal failings
Why self-compassion is the greatest gift the Enneagram has given me
How the Enneagram helped me have compassion for people who posted hateful comments about my recent podcast appearance
The 3 elements of self-compassion and what it looks like to have compassion for yourself
How to cultivate self-kindness versus self-judgement
The isolation we experience when we feel like we’re the only one suffering
How to discern mindfulness from overidentification with your emotions
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Pillow Talks Podcast
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Do you know if you are accurately typed on the Enneagram?
In a world where online quizzes are shockingly inaccurate 65 to 70% of the time, it's time to shed light on the complexities of mistyping and why it happens so frequently.
Because if you're seeking to harness the Enneagram's transformative potential, proper typing is the vital first step, paving the way for a profound understanding of ourselves and others and unlocking the door to self-growth and discovery.
In this episode of the "Lead With The Enneagram" podcast, we'll discuss the importance of being accurately typed on the Enneagram and why online typing systems so often fail.
We'll explore the impact of our life experiences on our Enneagram expression, the numerous variations within Enneagram types (levels of health, triad types, and instincts), which contribute to individual differences even within the same type—which is why you can have two sevens right next to each other, and they can look very different.
In my work, I often see Eights mistyping as Sixes, Nines mistyping as Fours, Ones mistyping as Sixes, and more. Join me as we explore the most mistyped types (if you are a high-achieving woman listening in, pay special attention to this part of the show) and delve into the reasons behind these misconceptions, uncovering the nuances that set these types apart despite their outward similarities. Listen in for an insightful discussion on mistyping as I provide practical guidance on getting accurately typed for more profound self-awareness and personal growth.
If you want to harness the FULL power of the Enneagram, you must be accurately typed. There are two ways you can do it, you can grab your own Enneagram Blueprint from my website, or you can do an individual or partner session where I guide you through it what it all means! To learn more, visit Tracy O'Malley.com, the work with me section TODAY!
What You Will Learn
What human complexity, varied experiences, and personal growth have to do with mistyping on the Enneagram
The importance of the motives and fears behind behaviors when determining Enneagram types
The most commonly mistyped Enneagram types
The differences between similar-looking Enneagram types and how their core desires differ
Why Eights are often mistyped as Sixes and how their motives differ
Why Nines are often mistyped as Fours and how their motives differ
Why many Fives mistype themselves as Nines and how their motives differ
Why many Ones mistype as Sixes, and the reasons
The key reason Threes so often mistype as Eights and Ones, and vice versa
How Twos and Nines typing is often wrong, and the different motivations for each
The critical differences between Sevens and Fours and why they are sometimes mistyped
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A great responsibility comes with leadership and impact-making, whether in your personal relationships with your children or your professional relationships as an entrepreneur.
But we often find that what we put out into the world isn't always received as we had hoped, leading to a breakdown in communication or, worse, people withdrawing from us.
Eleven years ago, when I was learning about the Enneagram, the most significant aha moment I had was recognizing how other Enneagram types might receive me.
So, what's the most important thing you need to know about your Enneagram type for more self-awareness, effective communication, and better personal and professional relationships?
In this episode of "Lead With The Enneagram," we're exploring the different motivations and needs of each Enneagram type, offering a deeper understanding of their unique strengths and challenges. From the Enneagram Ones' high standards to the Enneagram Nines' goal of peace and harmony, I'll walk you through how the way each type interacts might be perceived by other Enneagram types and the steps each of us can take to overcome potential pitfalls and be more effective in our personal and professional relationships.
Listen in for deep insight into your type and to learn how to navigate and enhance your relationships with individuals of different Enneagram types by understanding their perspectives and adapting your communication style accordingly.
Accurate typing is essential in the Enneagram, and most of the time, online assessments are inaccurate. That’s why I developed the Enneagram Blueprint, along with personalized sessions and workshops to help you gain a deeper understanding of who YOU really are. To find out more, visit TracyO'Malley.com TODAY!
What You Will Learn
The #1-way Enneagram Ones can maintain their integrity and high standards without coming across as judgmental or hard to please.
How Enneagram 2s can leverage their gift of being great connectors and relationship builders while being mindful of appearing fake or needy
How Enneagram 3s can learn to balance their drive for success with authenticity in their closest relationships
The path for Enneagram 4s to use their creative expression in meaningful connections with others How Enneagram 5s can avoid coming across as cold and closed off and use their wellspring of wisdom to support their loved ones.
The key for Enneagram 6s to be able to balance their need for certainty with building trust
How the Enthusiastic Visionaries (7s) can channel their boundless energy and creativity to communicate their ideas effectively
How Enneagram 8s can harness their intensity in a way that fosters intimacy and effective leadership How 9s can sidestep their need for temporary harmony and exercise their intuitive voice for greater impact
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Can the Enneagram help you navigate real-life changes and facilitate understanding (and even a sense of calm) when the rubber meets the road in real-life situations?
You bet it can.
But how?
If you've been following along, you know I'm going through a radical change in my life right now.
My nest is empty as both of my children have moved out on their own. It's such an exciting time, and although we're all anticipating this next stage in our growth and our relationships, it hasn't been without its challenges.
In this episode of "Lead with the Enneagram," I want to share a bit of a behind-the-scenes look at my personal story that illustrates how understanding and integrating the Enneagram has helped me navigate this tumultuous time.
In a challenging situation involving my Enneagram Two son's extended overseas trip and travel complications, I'll show you how the Enneagram helped me manage my emotions, and avoid projecting fears.
I'll also walk you through how to unlock the secrets of the Tritype in the Enneagram system and harness all three centers of intelligence to navigate life more gracefully and effectively.
Listen in for a real-life example of how the Enneagram empowers me to navigate conflict, foster personal growth, and maintain harmony amidst change.
Accurate typing is essential in the Enneagram, as online assessments can be inaccurate. I offer the Enneagram Blueprint, which is 95% accurate, and personalized sessions and workshops to help individuals gain a deeper understanding of their type and the Enneagram system. To find out more, visit TracyO'Malley.com TODAY!
What You Will Learn
How knowledge of the Enneagram can help navigate conflict and foster rapid personal growth Applying Enneagram insights can help manage emotions and prevent projection onto others
How respecting the Enneagram types of others allows for better support and communication
What the Tritype concept is in the Enneagram and how it can help you understand how you and others operate in all three centers of intelligence: feeling, instinctual, and thinking
How understanding our Tritype and the different centers of intelligence can help us navigate challenging situations more effectively (and prevent our fears and motives from getting out of hand) How the Enneagram allows us to understand ourselves and others on a deeper level
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Enneagram 9s in the entrepreneurial space usually know they're made for more. But their quest for harmony creates an internal conflict.
To be a successful entrepreneur, you have to be a little bold and polarizing. And the Adaptive Peacemaker’s instinct is to give that a hard pass.
So, what can 9s do to step into their power and find peace in the disruption?
Bernadette Marciniak is the creator of Sol House Media, a brand videography and photography business serving entrepreneurs who empower and create impact.
On this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, Bernadette explains why she was playing small and hiding behind her camera when we met at a mastermind retreat.
I walk you through the characteristics of Bernadette’s 9-3-7 Tritype, The Ambassador, and she describes how understanding herself at a deeper level makes her more comfortable in the spotlight.
Listen in to understand how embracing her 9-ness gives Bernadette even more compassion for her clients and learn how an Adaptive Peacemaker can disrupt things in a healthy way—for the greater good of us all.
What You Will Learn
What about being an Adaptive Peacemaker didn’t please Bernadette at first
How 9s are engaging, accepting and non-judgmental and bring peace to all of us
How Bernadette felt when I called her out for playing small
Bernadette’s struggle with feeling less-than in spaces with other high-achieving female entrepreneurs How Bernadette’s 9-3-7 Tritype (The Ambassador) shows others what’s possible
How integrating the Enneagram into her life helps Bernadette disrupt things in a healthy way
How understanding herself at a deeper level makes Bernadette more comfortable in the spotlight
Why exploring her 9-ness gives Bernadette even more compassion for clients
Why being an entrepreneur doesn’t come naturally for a 9 and what Bernadette is doing to take a bold stand in her business
Who Bernadette serves through her brand videography/photography business
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Investing is a field that can often feel overwhelming and even intimidating, especially for women who may feel like they're entering a male-dominated space.
However, on today's episode of "Lead with the Enneagram," we're joined by two guests who didn't let that stop them. In fact, they have made it their mission to help others learn about investing while also positively impacting their communities.
Andrea Cwik and Rachel Grunn from Good Good Investing are business partners and friends. They discuss how they learned about the Enneagram, why they love it so much, and how they use it to make their business partnership work to find success in the world of investing.
Rachel is an Enneagram One with black-and-white thinking, which can be challenging in investing. Andrea was hesitant about the Enneagram but interested in understanding her partner better. They share how the Enneagram helped them communicate effectively, leave their egos aside, and step out of their comfort zones to build a successful partnership.
Listen in to discover how the Enneagram can help individuals understand their tendencies and adapt to new behaviors to reach success in business partnerships and investing. Also, find out how Good Good Investing is breaking down barriers in commercial real estate, making it accessible to everyone, and learn more about the remarkable work for communities and individuals.
If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts. And reach out with any follow-up questions or comments via DM on Instagram. You can also find additional resources on my website at TracyOMalley.com.
What You Will Learn
How the Enneagram can help individuals understand their tendencies and adapt to new behaviors to reach success
The benefits of understanding each other's Enneagram types
How complementary Enneagram types can make for a successful business partnership
The key to overcoming conflict in your partnerships for better understanding, healthier relationships, and better communication
How to step aside from your core Enneagram type and lean into your growth number to find success in the world of investing
Why communication (and follow-up) is essential for maintaining good relationships with investors Connect with Rachel and Andrea
Good Good Investing
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"When you understand the dynamics of your custom framework, managing stress in the healthiest way is super possible."
Stress affects each of us differently, depending on our Enneagram type. Sometimes we swing from one extreme to the other, feeling like everything is flowing beautifully one moment and everything is falling apart the next.
Stress can also rob us of the beautiful parts of life or lead to burnout, relationship issues, and illness.
And each Enneagram type has their own, unique stressors.
So how can you manage your stress in a way that's right for YOUR Type?
In this episode of "Lead with the Enneagram," I'll walk you through the unique triggers that bring on stress for each Enneagram type and how you can use Enneagram as a compass so you can handle stress in a more positive way.
Listen in as I share the best methods for each Enneagram type to deal with the stress in their lives and how the ones who love them can help by taking the emotional charge out of stressful situations and promoting self-compassion. Plus, why it's vital to understand the dynamics of your custom Enneagram framework to manage stress from a healthier perspective and move through it faster.
If you're interested in exploring your Enneagram type and gaining valuable insights into stress management, my Enneagram Blueprint is a must-have. To access the assessment, visit TracyO'Malley.com TODAY!
What You Will Learn
How Enneagram 1s can manage stress and counteract inner critic and shame spiral
The #1 thing that stresses Enneagram 2 out and how to use self-care to break out of a stress cycle How Enneagram 3s can manage stress by reverse engineering the situation and then tap into their playful and creative side
How an Enneagram 4s urge to withdraw when stressed can lead to depression
Why Enneagram 5s become distractible and may exhibit escapism when under extreme stress
How to help your Enneagram 6 stop researching and worrying about every potential disaster when they are under stress
How getting outdoors or getting away can help an Enneagram 7 deal with stress and keep them from becoming too impulsive
Why it's essential to be clear, direct, and especially understanding with your loved one 8 when they are under stress
Enneagram 9s need to take time for themselves to imagine, contemplate and explore when they are facing a difficult situation
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