We're so used to thinking of "getting help" as a way to fix the problem that we have, so that we can stop being one way, and make ourselves a different way.  But, what if the way you already are is perfect and we're just coaching to work with your natural tendencies and rhythms and explore what's possible FROM there?  It might seem like semantics, but it changes everything about HOW we approach self help and self improvement. 

Learn all the how-to's in this week's episode.  

I hear you - "BUT HOW can I date without booze?  It's literally what gets me through."  Listen - you don't have to QUIT drinking, but I just want you to notice what you put up with because you know you'll have a drink in your hand.  Maybe, just maybe, NOT putting up with it is the better option.  

Check out this week's episode on MY journey with alcohol and what you're missing when you drink to cope with (the horror of) dating.

We're so used to looking for what we want out there in the world, when don't have a clear sense of WHO we are and what we bring to it.  Once we find our brand, we CREATE the exact space for what we are IN the world.  We make what we want... so we never have to wait, or search furiously, to find it!

Check out this week's episode for ALL the details on how to do the uncomfortable, but life-changing, work of becoming the BIGGEST version of you, so you can enjoy your space in this life as MUCH as possible. 

When we're at our WITS end in a relationship because of a future problem, it's ALWAYS a present problem that we just don't want to pay attention to.  SURE, you can leave over whatever YOU want... always... but if he's the LOVE of your life, how is it possible to waste time with him?  How is it possible that the future is a problem when your present is perfect?  Listen to find out whether it's time to call it quits, or time to be honest about why you're tripping up over the future when the present is the only thing we EVER really have. 

I'll be honest - I feel a bit far from this pain.  It doesn't irk me anymore when people ask if I am SURE that what I want in love is out there.  Truthfully, no one asks me this anymore.  But they USED to ... when I thought maybe I was being too picky.  

But this week, a follower on IG asked me if I was SURE there was a market for folks who want to be happy single, and I remembered what y'all feel like when "challengers" want to ask about your certainty.  YOU create it.  You never have to answer to them.  And you always get to decide on what you want, even if naysayers think you should be settling for something else.  

How?  Listen for all my tips!

When I was NOT happy single, I thought the FACT that I was single was proof that there was this one area of my life I was getting wrong, but wanted to get right.  When we shift into believing that the single is PROOF that we're getting it right, though, we're much more likely to find love that lasts.  For me, caring way more about what HE was thinking about me, instead of what I was thinking about ME or HIM, was the recipe for disaster.  Hence, the title ... Giving Fewer F*cks.  Counterintuitive as it may seem, when we slow down and consider what WE want from a place of it being OKAY if it doesn't work out, our chances of finding love GROW.  Find out HOW inside this episode.

Okay, so I love this concept but it's also... made up.  I think there is a "coupled is normal, single is not" culture out there, but you always get to choose to opt in, or not.  And when single doesn't feel like a problem you need to solve, you're much more likely to find a love that lasts.  Also, when single isn't a problem, you get to enjoy your life until you meet your person, which is a great plus as well.  Dive into this episode for your freedom from Toxic Couple Culture - so fun.  Enjoy!

After last week, people wanted to know: Rachel, are you going to stay single forever?  Is this your new plan?  My LIPS are sealed and here's why:  whether you WANT to be single or NOT, getting HAPPY single is a must do for your best life.  You will TANK your relationships (trust me, I've done it) if you're too afraid to be single to be yourself OR you're too afraid to be single to trust.  

In this episode we cover why everyone needs this skill, the actual HOW TO's of getting happy single, and how you don't need to HATE single life in order to desire a partner.  

So fun!

I'm not suggesting that you never look for love with another person.  But I AM suggesting that we've all been socialized within a belief system that coupled is better than single, and that we should solve the problem of being single as soon as possible.  People spend years in relationships that don't work, or hustle so hard to find "the one," they miss out on the enjoyment of their own lives in the process.  
 
 I'm here to offer you another way: where single isn't a problem, and you get to enjoy your life right now.