The Happy Sober Girl Podcast

Y'all.  This one was a BLAST.  And, it will probably be the first of multiple episodes on social media and dating because, WOW, it comes up all the time.  So, let's talk about it.  Check out this week's episode for my first round of do's and don't's when it comes to social media and dating, AND for my take on what's "normal" before, and DURING, the relationship.

P.S. the MORAL of the story is: decide what works for you and love your reason.  But, the key there is being HONEST about your reason.  

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SO normal - in love, at work, and everywhere else, to think we JUSSSSST need that other person's support, before we DO what we want.  The problem is: if they don't get on board, we can't do what we want, so we try and change them.  I WISH I could host a podcast on changing other people, but we just... CANNOT.  It's impossible. 

So, this week, I talk you through doing the thing without their support, and loving them through the process.  

Hint: it starts with loving YOURSELF through the process.

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I've been in some grief lately.  And it's painful, but WAY less painful than rejection.  In this episode, I break down WHY that's true, and how only YOU create the rejection you feel.  If you want to do big things in your life, I'm showing you the #1 thing you can do to unpack rejection and go after what you want, so you never "have" to feel it again.

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You know when that terrible thing you try VERY hard to avoid, HAPPENS?  It almost never does, but when it does there is SO much learning to be had.  (*Bad things happen, but rarely is it the WORST thing we've spent all that time catastrophe-fantasizing about.*) We spend so much time and energy avoiding feeling like ass, but feeling like ass comes for us regardless... and we always survive it.  Imagine what we would create in this world if we stopped fearing the stuff we're GOING to feel at some point - and just WENT for it.

Give this week's episode a listen to find out how!

Last week left me with NO spoons, as a coach of mine often says.  I went through one of the hardest things I've ever had to go through, and I SKIPPED a week of recording this podcast (gasp!).  No, but seriously... for a perfectionist like me, it felt uncomfortable, to say the least.  This week's episode is about having your own back EVEN when you decide not to show up, and making the powerful decision to explain yourself OR not.  When we feel called to apologize, or explain, it's from a desire to get someone else on board with our choices.  This week, I invite you to always be the first one on board with yourself so you never need someone else to get on board with you (which always brings us closer to other people, NOT further away!).  

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That's right.  You heard me.  You can want to do things differently moving forward, and even apologize IF that's part of your truth, and ALSO decide that you're not going to think your feelings were or ARE wrong, ever again.  This week, I'm inviting you to be ALL of your humanity, in the "good" and the "bad" and everything in between.  

If you're thinking coaching means never feeling like ass, I hate to tell you that's just impossible.  Coaching offers a better understanding of WHY we feel like ass, so that we feel empowered to CHOOSE something else when and IF we want to.  

If you're feeling stuck - this is a good one to get you UN-stuck.  Check it out!

We have ALL been there.  We're ready to end it, but we're thinking: maybe this IS as good as it gets for me.  We look at our patterns and think that either we're fundamentally flawed OR we TURN partners into people we DON'T like.  We think - the next person will just be the SAME, so let's just make this work.  

But SPOILER: the best you can do will never, and should never, feel like shit.  In fact, if it feels like shit on the way there, it will feel like shit when you GET there... wherever that is.  Listen on to find out how to break your patterns.  It may not be easy, but it's a lot simpler than you think. 

We ALL do it - we try to make sure that what went wrong in our last relationship doesn't happen again.  BUT while we're using all that energy to find NOT-our-ex-boyfriend, we miss a lot about the current person and what may or MAY NOT be working about him.  

Instead of focusing on the lessons from your past, I'm teaching you this week how to evaluate YOUR behavior so that you can always trust yourself to respond how you want to, instead of needing to AVOID certain "problem people."  

Curious?  Listen for ALL the details!

LISTEN: "bad behavior" is just a thought, and you can totally just decide it's "good."  But this week, I talk about two instances of normalizing behavior - in relationships with others AND in relationship with myself - that didn't work for me.  

How do you know when it's behavior that doesn't work VS. behavior you should TRY to see differently?  I've got the answers in this week's episode.  NO judgment.  We've all normalized behavior we don't like, but now it's time to redefine normal... on our OWN terms. 

When we love someone, but we know the relationship isn't right for us - walking away can feel very hard and very PAINFUL.  But we don't walk away, instead we try to make it work, because we're worried about what walking away might mean about us: the fate of our romantic future, and the track record of our past.  

What if we won't EVER be able to make a relationship work?  What if we're just stuck with the possibility of loving someone and NOT being able to find common ground?  

I'm taking apart ALL the reasons why you think you SHOULD try and make it work, breaking down what it really MEANS to love someone who wants different things, and ENCOURAGING you to walk away when it's not working.  

You won't want to miss it.