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22  - MENS ISSUES WITH INTIMACY - THE HARDER SHAFT PODCAST with Joe-y Busuttil & Greg Riely

Men may also experience difficulties achieving intimacy because of a lack of 'emotional vocabulary'. Men often feel less able to express the way they are feeling than women, and may feel uncomfortable with discussions about emotions. However, it is important to remember it is a skill, and as such can be learned.

It is common that when someone is experiencing a disturbance in their emotional and mental health, they may not demonstrate as much affection as they would at other times. Some mental health examples include depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, or even obsessive compulsive disorder.

Many factors can contribute to men's decreased interest in sex. In my own research, the three most commonly endorsed issues that men described as decreasing their desire were sexual rejection, lack of emotional connection with their partners, and physical ailments or health issues.

Men who express their emotions are often seen as weak. Because of that, many men neglect to show their emotions because they're afraid of the repercussions. However, suppressing emotions and feelings can be incredibly detrimental to a man's mental health.

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JOE BUSUTTIL

MENS COACH/ COUNSELLOR

www.equator-hypnotherapymelbourne.com

INSTAGRAM:

@the_shaft_experience

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YOUTUBE:

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21 -WHEN THINGS DON'T GO TO PLAN  - THE HARDER SHAFT PODCAST with Joe-y Busuttil & Adam Cox.

Give yourself some guidance when things don't go as planned. Avoid extreme assumptions, allow yourself a moment to regroup, accept that perfection is not the goal, remind yourself that your job is to problem-solve and don't be afraid to seek help. What helps you to remain calm when the unexpected happens?

Some things we don't have the ability to plan with precise enough certainty to make the plan of any actual value. Truth be told, even the greatest, most thought-out plans have a chance of failing or becoming useless due to a change in circumstances. But there's no need to worry.

It's natural to get upset when things don't go as planned, because not knowing what to expect and not feeling in control can be stressful. However, it can be helpful to keep an open mind, focus on finding solutions, and work on being more flexible.

ADAM COX:the gay coach

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Adam Cox is a trainer, mentor and coach for single gay men.

He helps single gay men BECOME the dream man that they are seeking, helping them confidently own their worth, love the man in the mirror, speak

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JOE BUSUTTIL

MENS COACH/ COUNSELLOR

www.equator-hypnotherapymelbourne.com

INSTAGRAM:

@the_shaft_experience

FACEBOOK:

THE SHAFT EXPERIENCE-SEXUAL HEALTH

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the HARDER SHAFT podcast:

https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/thesecretmensbusiness

Available on all PODCAST PLATFORMS-

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YOUTUBE:

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20 - SEXUAL JUDGEMENT & SHAMING  - THE HARDER SHAFT PODCAST with Joe-y Busuttil & Lisa Torney

We have collectively grown highly attuned to the problems associated with a lack of shame around sex: with a decadent culture in which it seems that everything goes, where the atmosphere is often overly explicit and where some people get badly hurt by the unwanted and aggressive attentions of others.

It could seem – therefore – a little odd, even indulgent, to bring up the problem of sexual shame, that is, to discuss the intense mental suffering generated by embarrassment about our desires and bodies, by a feeling of not being physically acceptable and by a self-disgust and terror at the idea of our sexual thoughts being found out and judged. These can seem like issues that no one could sincerely have worried about since the waning of the age of top hats or at least the revolutions of the 1960s. The dangers around sex appear to lie squarely at the other, shame-less end of the spectrum.

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JOE BUSUTTIL

MENS COACH/ COUNSELLOR

www.equator-hypnotherapymelbourne.com

INSTAGRAM:

@the_shaft_experience

FACEBOOK:

THE SHAFT EXPERIENCE-SEXUAL HEALTH

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the HARDER SHAFT podcast:

https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/thesecretmensbusiness

Available on all PODCAST PLATFORMS-

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YOUTUBE:

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HISTORICAL EVENTS THAT IMPACTED MANKIND - THE HARDER SHAFT PODCAST with Joe-y Busuttil

What is considered a historical event?Historical refers to an authentic event that once occurred at some point in history, and is fact and/or evidence-based. For instance, the Diary of Anne Frank is a historical text (while World War II is both a historical and historic event).

History gives us the opportunity to learn from others' past mistakes. It helps us understand the many reasons why people may behave the way they do. As a result, it helps us become more impartial as decision-makers..

Historical events must be written or recorded. Historical events entails past happenings. Historical events mainly involve man.

What are 5 characteristics of history?History is not a list of facts, facts must be interpreted by people. ...History is not about the past- it is about the relationship between the past and the present. ...History is not only what happened, but what did not happen. ...History is not exclusive, but inclusive. ...We must study not only events, but conditions.

These are ten events from the twentieth and twenty-first century that changed the world in a very significant way. It includes the sparks which started major wars and revolutions – affecting the lives of millions of people across the globe.

Major events that changed the world

Start of World War I – June 1914.Russian Revolution – October 1917Start of World War II – September 1939Pearl Harbour – and entry of the US into WWII – Dec. 1941Atomic Bomb dropped on Hiroshima, Aug 1945Indian Independence – Aug 1947Establishment of Maoist China, 1949The assassination of John F Kennedy, 1963Fall of the Berlin Wall 1989.9/11 September attacksCovid-19 Pandemic, March 2020

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JOE BUSUTTIL

MENS COACH/ COUNSELLOR

www.equator-hypnotherapymelbourne.com

INSTAGRAM:

@the_shaft_experience

FACEBOOK:

THE SHAFT EXPERIENCE-SEXUAL HEALTH

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the HARDER SHAFT podcast:

https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/thesecretmensbusiness

Available on all PODCAST PLATFORMS-

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YOUTUBE:

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WOMAN SHARE THEIR OPINION ON MEN  - THE HARDER SHAFT PODCAST with Joe-y Busuttil 

In today's episode we chat to women and ask  them what they think of men, 

Why is gender equality important?

What do Women Actually Want from a partner? 

How do men Muck Up First Impressions? 

How do you feel Being Called A ‘Good Girl’, 'Darling', 'Sweetie', 'Babe', etc.? Why? 

What are the Double Standards woman face in their sex lives? 

What do you think are some of men’s biggest insecurities?

Why do you think men care so much about physical imperfections in a woman (wrinkles, cellulite, love handles, and all that)?

Do you have any bad situations you have experienced with a man ? Advice to men ?

"At a bookstore one day, I couldn’t buy an erotic novel because there was a man at the counter.'

I SEE MAN AS A STAR, a direction, an orientation, the point of origin, and the place where all time ends.

I look upon Man as a butterfly surveying a flowerbed, tasting, testing, or as a hawk crouched in the high weeds on a roadbank glaring at automobiles speeding by. I see Man as a hummingbird, a moment’s radiance which hovers unscheduled, vanishing in half a heartbeat.

I reach for Man’s hand the same way I struggled for my father’s hand, when we used to survey laid-by fields, grown over with the brambles of blackberry groves, harboring dens of copperheads.

I look up to Man, as I did to my father, the first Man I dared to trust and to love. Men are not like him.

I care for Man, as I now care for my mother, wintering, crippled by time, tested by storm.

I see Man as all the light I lack. Life is not as bright nor fruitful without him. I see Man, seeing, strip away all his trappings of stage dressings, dismiss his barnstormings and his posturings, referee his war games.

I see Man as the child I suckle, a kitten with eyes half-opened, a fever that seizes me when midnight comes.

I see in him the best and the worst qualities of myself. In the wake of many loves, many men and two children, I see Man as an omen of tomorrow’s coming terror, a lethal disease, a disguised born enemy, a danger to ward off like a rattlesnake or a pack of mad dogs.

Like Lord Byron, the second man I dared to love, I can neither live with you nor without you.

And so I keep on, loving you, Man, even when faith and trust are rust. I go on living, looking, learning you, learning your loves, your fears, your despairs, your wild-bird heart.

I see Man as a poem to be sung, an afghan to be crocheted, an awry picture to be straightened, a field to be sown. I see Man as a secret art to be mastered, made, because I see in him all the tapestries we can weave together.

I see Man as my brother, lover, friend, parent, priest, son, sire because my Mother, the Great Mother, made him so. I do not always agree with Her, but She DOES know best.

Lastly, I see Man as the persimmon tree in the northern field sees all the young birds in spring, all the flocks of wild geese migrating south overhead, leaving me, periodically, seasonally, forever abandoning me to winter winds and snowdrifts over the running cedars, always coming back. So, apropos of Count Dracula, I see Man, and say, as the good Count said in greeting Jonathan Harker, “Welcome the traveller, speed the parting guest.”

Some day, with some Man, I am going to share Emerson: “Nothing that is good and fair grows alone.”

I see Man as a co-prisoner in an alien wasteland, because we are both more than we know and less than we could ever imagine. I see Man and would tell him what I have written, seen, been, dreamed, lived, died, reworked, prayed; but we do not speak the same language, no longer share the heart’s tongue.

So I see Man. And I go talk to the Moon.

Mariposa (Virginia Love Long)

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JOE BUSUTTILMENS COACH/ COUNSELLORthesecretmensbusiness@gmail.comwww.equator-hypnotherapymelbourne.com

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a.i & SEX - THE HARDER SHAFT PODCAST with Joe-y Busuttil

A human brain is capable of considering the immediate situation, understanding the emotions involved, and then making a decision about how to react. We possess this quality of divergent thinking, which can be enhanced with meditation. A human mind is very powerful, it can look at a problem and imagine various permutations and combinations, before zeroing down on the best possible resolution.

Machines are incapable of this, because they operate on logic-based programming which only executes tasks based on commands preprogrammed by humans. They consider all the logical consequences and probabilities. What they fail to account for, is the unpredictability of human emotion.

But that’s no reason to quit being ambitious about AI possibilities. On the contrary, we should be thinking of new ways in which AI can make our lives better and easier.

If the internet was built for sex, it's logical to assume that chatbots were created to be sex chatbots as well. Chatbots are artificial intelligence-powered interfaces that simulate human-to-human communication.

The majority of individuals have used a chatbot on the internet, usually in the form of virtual customer care personnel. Sex chatbots, on the other hand, are intended for flirty or sexual conversation. Users can use a  sex chatbot to make requests, fantasize, and practice nasty conversation.

In this episode we interview two a.i. chatbots and ask them QUESTIONS about sex. Do they know more than us. Henry and Andrea really take on this task with excitement.

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JOE BUSUTTILMENS COACH/ COUNSELLORthesecretmensbusiness@gmail.comwww.equator-hypnotherapymelbourne.com

INSTAGRAM:@the_shaft_experie nce

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the HARDER SHAFT podcast:https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/thesecretmensbusiness

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YOUTUBE:THE SHAFT EXPERIENCE - MENS SEXUAL HEALTH https://www.youtube.com/c/TheSHAFTExperienceMENSSexualHealthsuppor

COCK SIZE - THE HARDER SHAFT PODCAST with Joe-y Busuttil & Lawrence Akers

To the average man, his penis is his most important possession. From the time he is born he is fascinated by it and it becomes his best friend. A penis is tied to a man's self-esteem and is a definition of his manhood.

Many men, however, question the size of their penis, especially the length. Although they may experience anxiety about the size and appearance of their penises at some time in their life, for most of them these feelings will pass, but for others it can be persistent and disabling.

This anxiety can sometimes lead to avoidance of sexual relationships or fear of attending the gym or sports events where other men might see them naked and make them feel ashamed.

The porn industry has contributed to this obsession by featuring only above-average sized men who are filmed from flattering angles. Many boys who are receiving most of their sex education these days by looking at porn, are getting the wrong message.

Anxiety can lead some men to turn to companies that claim they have treatments and remedies to lengthen the size of the penis. There are pills that contain herbs from around the world, hormone therapies with testosterone or steroids, magnetic or electrical devices to stimulate penis growth, penile suction devices and penis stretchers.

No quality evidence has been yet published to show if any of these treatments actually produce a sustained increase in penis size.

LAWRENCE AKERS:RELEASE HYPNOSISwww.releasehypnosis.com.auT: 0403 821 807E: [email protected]

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JOE BUSUTTILMENS COACH/ COUNSELLORthesecretmensbusiness@gmail.comwww.equator-hypnotherapymelbourne.com

INSTAGRAM:@the_shaft_experie nce

FACEBOOK:THE SHAFT EXPERIENCE-SEXUAL HEALTHwww.facebook.com/groups/secretmensbusiness01/

the HARDER SHAFT podcast:https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/thesecretmensbusiness

Available on all PODCAST PLATFORMS-iTunesSpotifyDeezerGoogle ManagerAmazom MusicPodomatic

YOUTUBE:THE SHAFT EXPERIENCE - MENS SEXUAL HEALTH https://www.youtube.com/c/TheSHAFTExperienceMENSSexualHealthsuppor

WHY MEN CHEAT - THE HARDER SHAFT PODCAST with Joe-y Busuttil & Adam Cox

Men often underestimate the emotional ramifications of their actions. Women often underestimate the shallowness of men.

Men cheat more than women. While this may come as cold comfort to women scorned, it is important to note that, psychologically speaking, most men don’t engage in cheating with the same intention as women. Male cheaters, specifically repeat cheaters, tend to be opportunistic and capable of emotional compartmentalization. So, why do married men cheat?

Healthy men who occasionally cheat on their partners are not pathological. While chronic cheaters pursue infidelity because of deep-rooted attachment disorders and sex addictions, healthier men cheat out of immaturity. 

Most men fall somewhere in the middle between being absolutely faithful and having cheated once, realizing it was immature and learning from it,

Most men don’t need to cheat to understand the hurt it may cause to their partner — that can be accomplished through  comuncation about trust, intimacy, and opportunities for temptation as they arise.

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ADAM COX:

(the gay coach)

Facebook-www.facebook.com/adamgcox

Instagram-www.instagram.com/thecoxcoach

Adam Cox is a trainer, mentor and coach for single gay men.With over 9,000 hours under his belt and 19 years experience in the training and coaching space, Adam successfully leads men through profound personal transformation.

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JOE BUSUTTILMENS COACH/ COUNSELLORthesecretmensbusiness@gmail.comwww.equator-hypnotherapymelbourne.com

INSTAGRAM:@the_shaft_experie nce

FACEBOOK:THE SHAFT EXPERIENCE-SEXUAL HEALTHwww.facebook.com/groups/secretmensbusiness01/

the HARDER SHAFT podcast:https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/thesecretmensbusiness

Available on all PODCAST PLATFORMS-iTunesSpotifyDeezerGoogle ManagerAmazom MusicPodomatic

YOUTUBE:THE SHAFT EXPERIENCE - MENS SEXUAL HEALTH https://www.youtube.com/c/TheSHAFTExperienceMENSSexualHealthsuppor

THE DARK SIDE OF SEX - THE HARDER SHAFT PODCAST with Joe-y Busuttil.

On this episode of the HARDER SHAFT podcast we discuss THE DARK SIDE OF SEX with co host Grant Shepherd.  

Sexual energy is a great magnifier. It will expand whatever it is mixed with.

This means that when your sexual energy becomes strong and connected to the heart or the universe, that force of primal energy can work as profound rocket fuel for healing and awakening, both personally and collectively.

What if the power is used consciously or unconsciously to manipulate rather than connect to a higher power?

Or, let’s put it this way: what if we develop our sexual power without doing the work of bringing our unconscious patterns to awareness?

The danger in doing it this way is that the boost of power will magnify our blind spots, distortions, and manipulatio  —the power games, the separation, the ego bullsh*t. We might begin to use our sexual energy to get validation from outside of ourselves and play with our increased power to do so.

It might seem pretty obvious to some that we have to balance our expansion of power with our deep work on the parts of ourselves lurking in the shadows.

Grant Shepherd:Meditation and Conscious Sexuality [email protected]

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This  special episode of  the HARDER SHAFT podcast we  chat to two self. identified SEX ADDICTS,

Compulsive sexual behavior is a condition in which an individual cannot manage their sexual behavior. Persistent sexual thoughts interfere with their ability to work, maintain relationships, and complete their daily activities.

People with compulsive sexual behavior may fixate on different sexual practices. Some people might experience an overwhelming urge to masturbate, while others may feel a compulsion to engage in sexual intercourse with several different partners a day.

This variation makes the condition harder to define.

Activities that can sometimes have a link with compulsive sexual behavior include:

compulsive masturbationmultiple affairs, sexual partners, and one night standspersistent use of pornographypracticing unsafe sexcybersexmeeting with sex workersBehaviors and attitudes may include:

an inability to contain sexual urgesdetachment, meaning that the sexual activity does not emotionally satisfy the individualstrong feelings of attraction to others alongside continually being in love and starting new romances, often leading to a string of relationshipsfeelings of guilt and shamegiving up social, work-related, or recreational activities to pursue sexual stimulationIf you are curious if you have a sexual addiction, ask yourself the following questions. Each of these may indicate that your problem may be more significant than you realize it is. Are you trying to hide your behaviors? Do you experience mood swings in regards to sex?Has your partner mentioned you seem to be more controlling regarding intimacy?Do you have obsessive thoughts about pornography or sexual activity? Have you noticed you feel defensive when questioned about your sexual behaviors? Do you need to view pornography in order to have a sexual response when you're intimate with your partner? Do you expect your sexual experience to match those you view? If so, do you feel a lack of desire to be physically intimate? Have you been isolating from or avoiding your loved ones?Do you remain at the office, etc. so you can view porn or engage in other sexual behaviors without interruption? If you answered yes, you might have an addiction. As a result, it may be the perfect time to reach out for professional help.

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JOE BUSUTTIL

MENS COACH/ COUNSELLOR

www.equator-hypnotherapymelbourne.com

INSTAGRAM:

@the_shaft_experience

FACEBOOK:

THE SHAFT EXPERIENCE-MENS SEXUAL HEALTH

www.facebook.com/groups/secretmensbusiness01/