This was a listener requested topic. Boundaries form the basis of all our relationships, be they with family, work colleagues or romantic partners. Boundaries even matter if you're travelling on public transport! In this episode Armele Philpotts explains how anger is a really useful tool to alert us to a boundary being crossed. How to make boundaries, what they tell us about ourselves, and how to keep them. 
Armele is a psychotherapist in private practice who specialises in healthy relationships and the effects of trauma. Her website is at:  https://apcounselling.wordpress.com/
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This is the final episode in Series 7. It's about birth trauma and I speak with journalist, author and CEO of The BTA, Kim Thomas.
We talk about what birth trauma is, what can cause it (we do not go into graphic detail), how it can manifest and how to get help. We discuss the difference between Post Natal Depression and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder brought on by birth trauma. We also discuss the impact of birth trauma on birthing partners.
May 2024 update: Parliamentary report.
Some organisations we talk about in the episode:
The Birth Trauma Association.
Kim Thomas's book on PTSD and Birth Trauma. Masic: https://masic.org.uk/about-masic/ Magnolia midwives: https://www.instagram.com/magnoliamidwives/?hl=en Doula UK: https://doula.org.uk Tommy's: https://www.tommys.org Nice Guidelines: https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists: https://www.rcog.org.uk https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/postnatal-depression-and-perinatal-mental-health/useful-contacts/
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Produced by Hester Cant.
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Birth Trauma with Kim Thomas, journalist and CEO of The Birth Trauma Association

Interviewing Ryan Bennett-Clarke for my Guardian column - about something else entirely - we got talking about envy. And what he had to say fair blew my mind.
What is envy? How does it differ from jealously? Where does it come from and how does it manifest? If you've ever left a person feeling like little bits of you have been taken away, well envy may be the answer. We talk about how envy feels, why people get jealous or envious, how it's on the rise with social media; and we also talk about some nifty ways to 'interrupt' envy. How to answer back to those barbs. I found this one of the most thought-provoking episodes I've ever done and I have to admit I looked at certain people in a different way. Dare I say this is life-changing? I think it might be.
Ryan Bennett-Clarke, né Marjoram is a UKCP accredited psychotherapist. He has written two papers for The Journal of Psychodynamic Practice:
The Insidious Dance of Love and Hate: An examination of Envy and Greed in the Stalker-Victim Dynamic: Part One - Theory https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14753634.2022.2039880 
The Insidious Dance of Love and Hate: An examination of Envy and Greed in the Stalker-Victim Dynamic: Part Two - Clinical Application
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14753634.2022.2039881  
and you can read more about Ryan here:


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Envy with psychotherapist Ryan Bennett-Clarke

Although unresolved grief can hit us at any stage in our lives, this episode specifically talks about childhood bereavement and the impact it can have on adulthood. My guest is UKCP and BACP registered psychotherapist and researcher Mandy Gosling who, as we shall hear, has personal experience of early bereavement.
An early bereavement can lodge - if not processed - and be carried into adult hood, manifesting as inability to hold down jobs or relationships, feelings of loneliness or depression (of course you can feel all these things without having been bereaved). Mandy talks about her personal experiences, how they impacted and how we can help children process grief and if that's now you as an adult, what you might consider doing to lighten your psychological load.
You can learn more about Mandy and her work here: www.abcgrief.co.uk or www.mandygosling.co.uk 
Some useful bereavement websites:
https://www.winstonswish.org
https://www.childbereavementuk.org
https://www.cruse.org.uk


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Unresolved Grief (adults bereaved in childhood) with psychotherapist Mandy Gosling

Dr Stephen Blumenthal returns (catch him in Series 2 talking about Intimacy and Trust in Series 5) and this time we're talking about shame. What it is, how it differs to humiliation and embarrassment or even guilt. Shame can make people act differently - either because they are avoiding shame or trying to cover up the shame they already feel. Where does shame come from? And why is some shame useful to society?
If you’d like to learn more about Dr Blumenthal and his work you can do so at https://stephenblumenthal.com.

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Shame with clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr Stephen Blumenthal

Professor Lucy Easthope is a UK expert and advisor on emergency planning and disaster recover. A world authority on recovery and disaster planning and its aftermath. She’s Professor of Practice of Risk and Hazard at the university of Durham and a professor in Mass Fatalities at the university of Bath.
Lucy studied law at university and has a masters in disaster management and a pHD in medicine.
In 2022 Lucy published a best selling book that talks a lot about her work and a little about her life called When the Dust Settles, Searching for Hope after disaster. It’s a must read and one that I recommend to all who will listen. If anyone knows about planning it’s Lucy and in this episode we talk about how she takes her incredible experience into every day life. Can we ever plan too much? Why is planning a good idea but how we should also leave a little room for spontaneity. Perhaps. And one of the most important take aways for me - look after the planner in the family
You can find her website here: http://whatevernext.info/

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The Importance of Knowing and Keeping boundaries with psychotherapist Armele Philpotts

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