Some of us simply do not know how to communicate…all we know how to do is quote Bible texts but we don’t really know how to listen! In this podcast, we discuss problems with being too Preachy, WHEN to give moral advice/guidance, HOW to be Kind not Preachy, and it’s benefits. Do us a favor and follow us on Instagram @kindnessdefined and click the link in the bio to sign up for our weekly newsletter, also titled “Kindness Speaks”! Kdh

3. Today’s TOPIC: NICE PLATITUDES TO BE CANCELED and how to replace them

4. PERSONAL EXAMPLE:

5. KEY POINTS

1. What are Platitudes?

1. A Platitude (noun) is a remark/statement that is

2. trite and often empty of meaning

3. often used as a thought-terminating cliche,

4. aimed at quelling social, emotional, or cognitive unease.

5. Platitudes have been criticized as giving a false impression of wisdom, making it easy to accept falsehoods

6. Platitude might be true, but its meaning has been lost due to its excessive use

6. EXAMPLES OF PLATITUDES TO CANCEL

1. Everything Happens for a Reason

2. Good things come to those who wait

3. Time Heals All Wounds

7. Reasons to eliminate them

1. They are not 100% spiritual principles

2. They are being NICE, often uncomfortably filling the empty quiet spaces with unhelpful words

3. NEGATES RESPONSIBILITY and SAFE SPACES TO VENT and be heard WITHOUT judging, fixing, dismissing, and

1. Principles on how to replace them with KIND STATEMENTS

1. (Say nothing) The Ministry of Presence and HELP

2. “I’m here to listen”. “What else is going on?” “What else do you feel about this situation?”

1. NOTE: You are not a therapist, but a friend. Friends don’t try to fix, we focus on supporting and encouraging them to seek out help

3. “How can I help?” NOT ‘I UNDERSTAND’

1. Consider going with them, if requested, to attend their first session, if appropriate

2. Applaud them for making an appointment

3. DO YOUR OWN WORK!

4. If you haven’t already

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What’s good, My Former Nice People!” this is Osei Daniels, hosting our next Kindness Speaks!. Welcome Back! Excited to share with you these life changing principles about Kindness!

It is great to back! This Podcast #9 of Kindness Speaks!

TODAY’S POWER QUOTE:

“Character is BOTH how you treat others and yourself with kindness”

Today’s Topic is:

3 Reasons why Being Nice is a character flaw

Just like a when we get a crack in our windshield, the longer we go without getting it fixed, the worse it gets, making driving difficult for you and to others by being a hazard on the road!

The same way that Being Nice is a character flaw. We cannot allow it to continue!

Points to Cover are:

1. Being Nice is a Subtle Form of Manipulation

1. I’m F.I.N.E, its Ok,

2. Using Flattery to get what you want

2. Truth is Avoided

1. Examples: Doing a poor job at work, recipe for dinner didn’t workout, someone

2. Not wanting to share the truth because we don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings

3. Little White Lies…“is a well-intentioned untruth”

1. In our Upcoming Webinar, we’re going to break down HOW To share potentially harmful ‘truths’ to others in a kind way

3. Being Nice stifles maturity and growth and leaves everyone the exact same

1. When we do not want to BE part of the solution, then we leave others lacking of the needed truth, that they only hear well from YOU!

2. The truth is supposed to set us free! I’m not saying we IGNORE people’s feelings and we must develop a stronger discernment for WHEN to share things, and this takes practice but I’d rather us tell each other, friends and family, the truth, so someone outside our home doesn’t have to!

I have a New Years Challenge for everyone that is listening to this. I have created 12 Kindness Personal Affirmations that I believe will help us set the tone for us personally, to focus on determined self improvement and dynamic character development! Go to KindnessDefined.com and sign up for next week’s webinar, and I’ll send you the PDF for free! I’ll also be summarizing these 12 Affirmations beginning tomorrow morning, on instagram, follow us there @kindnessdefined

Thanks for listening. NEW YEARS BLESSINGS to you and yours for 2021 and remember:

NICE PEOPLE DO FINISH LAST BUT KIND ONES RISE TO THE TOP!

Let’s Go!

POWER QUOTE:

“If You can’t BE KIND, please, be quiet”

Today’s Topic is:

Kindness, Social Media, and Christmas

Points to Cover are:

1. Take a Break (give yourself a time limit)

1. SCREEN TIME On IOS

2. Begin a New Year’s Audit of Your Social Media Accounts, Subscriptions, etc

3. Avoid Online Antagonism and stay positive

1. “If you can’t BE KIND, please, be QUIET”

4. Leverage Technology to enjoy connecting with family and friends

5. Add a few non-digital getaways for your eyes, mind, and body

1. Get outdoors!

2. Read a physical book

3. Call family and friends

My challenge is that going into the new year, 2021, you are actually refreshed, have given yourself time to re-calibrate, maybe even let go of all the stress of 2020 and make the choice to be positive and KIND to yourself so you have something MORE to give to others!

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Thanks for listening. I send each of you listening NEW YEARS BLESSINGS for 2021 and remember:

NICE PEOPLE DO FINISH LAST BUT KIND ONES RISE TO THE TOP!

Let’s Go!

Podcast #7. POWER QUOTE:

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” C.S. Lewis

Today’s Topic is:

Part 3 to our Series, Selfishness, SelfLESSness, and Kindness

Points to Cover are:

1. Eliminate Self-Centeredness

1. Being Self Centered is

2. Prioritizing our Self-Care

3. Create Spaces to Serve

My challenge is that I am good at a lot of things, because of this, a lot of people would ask me and I would always say yes…we have to learn to

Our Kindness Challenge for Today is:/Practical Suggestions

* Get organized

* If you’re unsure, say NO! Be kind to yourself and say no, then let it marinate, then go back and say you are actually available! It is SO MUCH BETTER!

It is NOT being selfish when you put yourself first!!! Check out these top five ways we are truly being kind to ourselves with our time, money, and mental space! Check out the full top ten list at www.kindnessdefined.com

We all have selfish moments but our goal is to expose what we think of being kind but are really selfish...#kindnessdefined #kindness #bekindnotnice #setboundaries #saynowithasmile #introverts #selfcare #bekindtoyourself

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