In this episode, I’ll break down how unclear no’s and guilt-driven yes’s drain your energy, erode your relationships, and cause self-betrayal. You'll learn how to recognize when you're betraying yourself, how to set healthy boundaries with clarity and kindness, and how to make empowered choices that leave you feeling energized and connected — not exhausted and resentful.

Whether you struggle with people-pleasing, setting boundaries, or feeling guilty when you say no, this episode will give you practical tools to reclaim your energy and act in alignment with your true self.

00:00 The Consequences of Half-Hearted Decisions
02:23 The Importance of Integrity in Choices
05:41 Going All In: Embracing Your Decisions
08:19 Navigating Guilt and Resentment in Choices

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Dr. Nicholas Brüss is a psychotherapist and researcher specializing in psychedelic-assisted therapy and Internal Family Systems (IFS). He is known for blending mindfulness, compassion, and psychedelic medicine to treat trauma and other mental health conditions. 

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Nick Brüss to explore the deep, transformative potential of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and psychedelic integration work. We talk about what it really means to connect with the younger parts of ourselves—the ones we’ve exiled, ignored, or tried to outgrow—and why healing doesn’t come from thinking our way out of pain, but from being present with it.

Nick shares powerful insights on how intellectualizing can block true healing, the role intuition plays in both therapy and psychedelic experiences, and what integration actually looks like after expanded states of consciousness. We also dive into the neuroscience behind parts work, how to recognize when you're blended with a part, and what happens when those exiled parts finally feel seen.

Highlights include:
– The surprising role of intuition in clinical work
– What “integration” means and why it’s non-negotiable after any breakthrough
– Why over-intellectualizing your trauma might be your #1 block
– How psychedelic therapy complements IFS for deeper transformation
– Simple practices for identifying and unblending from younger parts
– What true self-awareness feels like—not just what it looks like

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt stuck in their head, disconnected from their body, or unsure how to turn an insight into lasting change.

00:00 Introduction to Dr. Nick Brüss and His Work
02:53 Exploring Internal Family Systems Therapy
05:47 The Journey of Self-Discovery
09:01 Understanding Parts and Their Roles
12:03 Curiosity and Self-Exploration in Therapy
14:58 The Connection Between Parts and Intuition
17:59 Navigating Emotions and Parts in Relationships
20:59 Recognizing and Engaging with Younger Parts
24:05 The Role of Somatic Awareness in Therapy
26:32 Transitioning from Psychotherapy to Coaching
26:32 The Importance of Attention in Self-Discovery
29:10 Exploring Internal Family Systems Therapy
31:52 The Importance of Feeling Over Intellectualizing
34:47 Childhood Experiences and Their Impact
39:40 Avoidance and Numbing Mechanisms
43:33 Connecting with Our Inner Parts
46:49 Transforming Relationships Through Self-Awareness
51:59 Personal Growth and New Beginnings
56:06 The Power of Psychedelics in Healing
56:35 Integration: The Key to Lasting Change
57:50 Understanding the Process of Growth
58:54 The Journey of Self-Discovery
01:01:29 Navigating Patterns and Habits
01:05:25 The Role of Psychedelics in Therapy
01:07:10 Mechanisms of Psychedelics: How They Work
01:12:02 The Importance of Integration Post-Experience
01:13:25 FDA and the Future of Psychedelic Therapy
01:20:11 The Healing Potential of Psychedelics
01:23:04 Openness and Connection in Healing
01:24:14 The Practice of Freedom and Self-Connection

Guest Resources |

@drnickbruss

https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicholas-bruss/

apracticeoffreedom.com

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#psychedelics #psychedelictherapy #intuition #mentalhealth #medication #therapy #medicine #health #internalfamilysystems #mindfulness #healing #personalgrowth #emotionalhealing #integration #ptsd

Struggling to let go of guilt? In this episode of Monday Muse, I dive into the power of self-forgiveness—why it’s essential for your mental and physical health, how it affects your relationships, and why it has to come before forgiving others. If you're ready to stop carrying the weight of past mistakes and start moving forward with clarity, compassion, and confidence, this one's for you.

00:00 The Struggle of Self-Forgiveness

04:24 First Forgiveness, Then Gratitude, Then Love

05:49 Self-Forgiveness Is The Only Forgiveness Needed

14:05 Find Your Saboteurs with this free offer

14:34 Steps to Forgive Yourself

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Joel Schafer is a personal empowerment mentor and shamanic dreaming arts teacher. His work is primarily based on Toltec knowledge, the tradition that inspired the book The Four Agreements. He teaches techniques to reclaim energy and awareness through online courses, workshops, and one-on-one sessions.

Joel and I delve into the depths of Toltec shamanism, exploring its principles, practices, and the transformative power of dreams. Joel shares his personal journey into shamanism, the significance of recapitulation, and how understanding death can lead to a more meaningful life. They discuss the deceptions present in the world, the importance of intuition, and the necessity of self-love in personal empowerment. The dialogue emphasizes the interconnectedness of all experiences and the potential for growth through challenges.

Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Toltec Shamanism

02:33 The Journey of a Shaman

05:03 Understanding the Dreaming Arts

07:29 The Nature of Consciousness and Death

10:11 Breaking Free from Materialism

12:35 The Mirror of Self-Reflection

15:14 Navigating Challenges and Triggers

17:37 The Two Minds: Natural vs. Foreign

20:04 Integrating Spirituality with Daily Life

22:40 Exploring the Lower Chakras

25:17 The Importance of Shadow Work

28:07 Understanding Impeccability vs. Discipline

29:46 The Epidemic of Self-Judgment

31:08 The Complexity of Self-Deception

32:04 Waking Up to Deceptions

34:12 The Nature of Reality and Control

35:51 The Role of Fear and Courage

39:05 Embracing Death as an Advisor

41:32 The Beauty and Terror of Existence

43:47 The Challenge of Transformation

47:11 Intuition and the Power of Feeling

50:11 The Journey of Self-Discovery

Guest Resources:

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#Toltecshamanism #personalempowerment #dreaming #recapitulation #consciousness #self-love #spiritualgrowth #intuition #death #perception

How often do we think we’re being logical… when really, we’re just emotionally hijacked? Feeling exhausted and alone all the time isn't good for anyone's health.  Learn how to regulate your emotions and choose serenity first, in this episode of the Monday Muse.

You’ll learn:
 🧠 Why emotional overload disrupts your ability to make wise decisions
 🧘‍♀️ How serenity (not more control) is the secret to reclaiming your power
🔄 How emotional patterns mimic addiction and what to do about it
🫀 Why your relationships, health, and choices are all impacted by your emotional state
🧭 Simple, practical tools to shift into self-awareness and grow from your experiences

00:00 What to do when you’re emotionally hijacked
01:20 When I lost my mind step-parenting
02:57: We are addicted to our emotions
03:50:The slogan that will change your life
05:38: The Benefits of This Practice
07:26: An Exercise to Practice for Yourself

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Steven Twohig is an American coach, author, and speaker who focuses on personal transformation and business strategy. He is the founder of Mastering Change and a proponent of "shadow work".

In this episode of The Intuition Incubator, I sit down with Steven Twohig—a master of shadow-informed depth work—to explore why we keep living out the same patterns on repeat (ugh, right?). We unpack how childhood experiences and internal constructs quietly drive our choices, our relationships, and even how we see the world.

Steven brings a grounded, no-fluff approach to shadow work, sharing practical ways to meet the parts of ourselves we’ve been avoiding—and why doing so is the key to actual, lasting transformation. We talk needs, perceptions, healing, and the hard stuff, all with the goal of helping you reconnect with your intuition and live from the inside out. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a loop you can’t quite name, this one’s for you.

Chapters | 

00:00 What you'll learn in this podcast

01:56 Stephen's Journey and the Concept of Sacred Fears

04:39 Are You Manifesting Your Own Struggles?

07:32 The Velocity of Change and Re-evaluation

11:05 Childhood Experiences and Ancestral Trauma

17:00 The Role of Relationships in Reinforcing Patterns

23:10 Turning Within: The Path to Change

29:45 Understanding Personal Responsibility in Relationships

34:29 Cognitive Loops and Shadow Work

42:45 The Four Rules of Shadow Work

48:39 The Nature of Shadow and Intuition

53:28 Embracing Our Creative Power

Guest Resources |
Steve's Book - Turning Within: Reclaiming Your Soul From Shadow 
https://www.amazon.com/Turning-Within-Reclaiming-Your-Shadow/dp/B0D4C6SPYK

https://www.instagram.com/steventwohig/?hl=en

https://www.linkedin.com/in/steventwohig/

https://masteringchange.com/

https://www.evolvingmindproject.org/

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#patterns #relationships #inner child #shadow work #personal growth #emotional healing #self-awareness #intuition #cognitive biases #depth work

Shannon Cassidy is the founder and CEO of Bridge Between, Inc., a leadership development and coaching firm. The "bridge" is a metaphor for the gap she helps her clients cross between their current state and a desired future state.

In this episode, I chat with Shannon Cassidy, about how generosity can transform leadership and workplace culture—not in some fluffy way, but in real, practical, game-changing ways. What if generosity was your greatest leadership tool?

We dig into how being generous with your feedback, your presence, and your curiosity can create deeper connection and more effective teams. If you're ready to lead with heart and results, this conversation is your permission slip.

00:00 Introduction to Generosity in Leadership
02:42 Shannon's Journey to Entrepreneurship
05:35 The Importance of Bridging Gaps
08:27 Understanding Strengths and Weaknesses
11:42 The Role of Generosity in Personal and Professional Growth
14:28 Exploring the Concept of Return on Generosity
17:29 Practical Applications of Generosity in Leadership
20:28 Feedback as a Generous Act
23:31 The Impact of Generosity on Workplace Culture
29:49 Navigating Career Transitions
31:40 The Power of Generosity
32:40 Mindfulness and Response
38:56 Grounding in Gratitude
44:31 Curiosity as a Tool for Connection

Guest Resources |
www.bridgebetween.com
https://www.youtube.com/@ShannonCassidybb

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#generosity #leadership #generousleadership #coaching #workplaceculture #selfdiscovery #feedback #kindness #curiosity #gratitude #personalgrowth #returnongenerosity #intuitionincubator

Matthew Ellsworth is the Executive Director of the Association of Washington Public Hospital Districts. He’s worn a lot of hats — political advisor, campaign strategist, nonprofit board member, credit union leader — and yet, the thread that runs through it all is curiosity.

In this episode, we discuss what happens when your success stops feeling like success? When the title, the recognition, the open doors... no longer match what your inner knowing is whispering (or screaming)? We talk about what it really means to lead — especially from the second seat — and how hard it can be to pivot when you’ve invested years (or decades) in an identity that no longer fits.

We also get into:
 💡 How to lead through intuition (not ego)
 ⚡ Why energy management is more powerful than time management
 🌱 What stress, joy, and service have in common
 🚪 And the myth of “loyalty” in the workplace

If you’ve ever been afraid to take the leap, question the path you’re on, or step into a new version of yourself — this one’s for you.

🧠✨ Because leadership isn’t just about what you do. It’s about who you are when no one’s watching.

🔗 Resources & Links
🔹 Learn more about Matthew: www.linkedin.com/in/matthewgellsworth

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Bo Eason is a former NFL safety who played for the Houston Oilers and had a brief stint with the San Francisco 49ers. After his NFL career, Eason became an actor, playwright, motivational speaker, and author. He wrote and performed a one-man play called "Runt of the Litter". He is also a leadership trainer to Fortune 500 companies.

In this episode, learn how an NFL star turned into a Broadway legend and mastered both worlds with authenticity and determination. Bo goes where few dare, discussing the importance of our predatory nature, the transformative power of storytelling, and the value (think $$) of trusting one's intuition. Bo provides practical tips for effective storytelling and encourages listeners to embrace their unique paths and struggles.

You'll hear:

• Why we should embrace our predator tendencies rather than repel them
• How being more of YOU is what the world needs
• Why you should be paid well for your services
• Tips on how to bring compelling storytelling in to grow your business

How can you bring more of YOU to the world?

Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Bo Eason's Journey

01:39 The Player vs. Fan Mentality

04:13 Trusting Your Intuition

06:53 Authenticity in Storytelling

09:24 The Nature of Humans as Predators

12:11 Engaging with Instincts and Fear

21:44 Trust Your Animalistic Instinct

21:45 Bo Takes A Pulse on The Culture Every Day

23:33 Understanding Your Value

27:19 What Authenticity In Leadership Really Is

30:41 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Insecurity

33:16 How Bo Helps People Get Out of Their Own Way

43:30 Engaging Through Storytelling

🔗 Resources & Links
https://www.linkedin.com/in/boeasonofficial

https://www.facebook.com/boeasonofficial/

https://www.instagram.com/boeason21/

https://www.youtube.com/user/mrboeason
http://BoEason.com

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Dr. Hemal Patel is known for his scientific investigation into meditation and the mind-body connection, including research into the cellular and biological changes associated with deep meditative states. He is also the lead researcher for author and speaker Dr. Joe Dispenza.

What if meditation could rewire your brain, boost resilience, and even impact your physical health at the cellular level? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Hamel Patel, a leading expert in pharmacology and health research, to explore the science behind the mind-body connection and its role in wellness, healing, and transformation.

00:00 Introduction to Dr. Hamel Patel and His Work
02:56 The Journey of Science and Spirituality
06:02 Exploring Mind-Body Connection in Health
08:59 The Impact of Meditation on Health
11:56 Researching Meditation During COVID-19
14:51 The Human Collectome and Its Insights
17:58 Discovering Proteins and Their Role in Health
20:50 The Broader Implications of Meditation Research
23:49 Innovative Approaches to Health and Healing
25:58 The Transformative Power of Intention
30:00 Belief vs. Intention in Healing
35:05 Mitochondria: The Energy Powerhouse
39:55 Intuition and Collective Consciousness
43:58 Harnessing Inner Resilience for Healing

Guest Resources |
@hemalpatelphd

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