The Jiu-Jitsu Mindset

Host Pete Deeley welcomes Coral Belt Professor Dave Meyer to The Jiu Jitsu Mindset, noting Meyer's Ageless Warrior Lab podcast and his animal welfare work. Meyer explains he began ujitsu jat age six, making it inseparable from his identity, and says martial arts discipline and strategy improved his effectiveness in animal welfare, where he raised $160 million. He connects martial arts ethos—being "the help," defending the weak, and controlling ego—to his choice to advocate for animals, reinforced by his religious upbringing's "repair the world" ethic. Meyer discusses prioritizing time (including choosing not to have a TV), a pivotal wake-up from a cousin's tragic death, and why Jiu Jitsu learning requires partners and constant failure. He argues competition is optional but valuable for stress, learning, and adrenal response, shares memorable matches (including a superfight with Fabio Santos), mentions mentoring Brian Johnson's Seattle school, and briefly recounts playing pop-rock in late-1980s LA.

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

01:24 Life Without Jiu Jitsu

04:29 Warrior Ethos and Animal Welfare

08:47 Discipline Time and Focus

13:56 Mortality Wake Up Call

16:40 How Jiu Jitsu Learning Works

20:26 Competition for Everyone

24:09 Adrenaline Stress and Realism

26:06 What Winning Really Means

27:00 Winning Versus Growth

27:50 Competition As Stress Training

28:36 Most Memorable Match

29:55 Black Belt Heartbreak

30:55 Fabio Santos Superfight

33:27 Hot Mat Chaos

35:08 Brazil Trip And Medal

36:01 Mentoring Brian Johnson

38:20 Rock And Roll Years

42:10 LA Talent Clusters

45:22 Martial Arts Mecca LA

47:09 Superhero Name And Podcast

Professor Dr. Jason Shields on Jiu Jitsu, Meditation, Trauma, and Competition

Host Pete Deeley welcomes Professor Dr. Jason Shields to The Jiu Jitsu Mindset. Dr. Shields describes how Jiu Jitsu uniquely taught him resilience through losing, regaining control, and finding a "home" community, plus the tap as maximal threat with maximal safety. He explains his hyperfocus was cultivated through long-term inner work after severe childhood trauma from his Vietnam-veteran father's PTSD and his mother's healing path via transcendental meditation and supportive communities; he shares a key lesson of finding a thought-free witnessing space to self-regulate. Dr. Shields recounts discovering Jiu-Jitsu on YouTube, starting a club in Norway, and approaching training as a sport with physical preparation. He argues competition can be a powerful mirror and growth catalyst, shares a memorable Italy tournament after his mother's death, and tells how coaching Marit Gabrielsen helped her overcome a trauma-based freeze response through jiu-jitsu.

00:00 Welcome and Sponsor Plug

00:49 Meet Dr. Jason Shields

02:18 What Jujitsu Gave Me

04:39 Hyperfocus and Presence

06:01 Childhood Trauma Origins

08:42 Meditation and Self-Regulation

14:01 Trauma Perspective and Growth

17:20 Discovering Jujitsu on YouTube

20:22 Starting a Club in Norway

22:08 Training Like an Athlete

25:36 Jiu Jitsu as Chaos Partner

27:14 Size Mismatch Realities

28:12 Competition Mindset

29:40 Why Compete at All

31:28 Belts by Winning Worlds

33:55 Tournament Stress Benefits

36:55 Rome Tribute Tournament

42:13 Healing Trauma Through Jiu Jitsu

49:13 Love You Man Persona

50:02 Where to Find Him

50:55 Gratitude and Closing

Rafael Lovato Jr. on Timeless Jiu-Jitsu, Competition, and Overcoming Adversity

Host Pete Deeley welcomes Professor Rafael Lovato Jr. to discuss passion, discipline, and growth through jiu-jitsu. Lovato reflects that, had he not pursued martial arts, he might have followed music or fitness, influenced by his father, a professional organist and martial artist. They explore links between music, engineering, and jiu-jitsu as arts involving creativity, structure, and problem solving, and Lovato emphasizes open-minded learning across martial arts. Lovato explains how training built resilience during a medical diagnosis received while preparing for a Bellator title fight, and highlights the importance of community support. He argues jiu-jitsu can be started at any age, remains endlessly learnable, and that competition helps reveal "truth," develop presence, and drive preparation. He shares memorable moments, including an MMA title fight and a 2008 Pan final escape, then explains his "timeless" approach—pressure-based, efficient jiu-jitsu that ages well—along with ways to connect via TimelessJitsu.com, LovatoJr.com, camps, retreats, and mobility work.

00:00 Welcome

00:49 Meet Rafael Lovato Jr

01:48 Alternate Life Paths

04:06 Music and Jiu Jitsu Link

06:12 Open Minded Martial Arts

07:32 Health Scare Resilience

11:35 Purpose Beyond Winning

12:42 Why Start Jiu Jitsu Anytime

16:09 Lifelong Student Mindset

18:36 Competition for Everyone

22:41 Preparation Pressure Presence

25:30 Measuring Competition Growth

26:58 Honesty Prevents Injuries

27:12 Most Memorable Fights

29:10 Fatherhood Fuels Fire

30:14 Breaking the Underdog Mindset

31:52 MMA Title Second Gear

32:43 Triangle Escape Breakthrough

35:52 Competition as Life Touchstone

38:43 Timeless Jiu Jitsu Mission

42:00 Style That Ages Well

44:12 How to Train as Masters

45:20 Programs Camps and Retreats

46:25 Mobility Retreat in Montana

48:24 Final Thanks and Wrap Up

Professor Steve Maxwell on Wrestling, Early Gracie Jiu-Jitsu, Challenge Matches, and Training for Longevity

Host Pete Deeley interviews Professor Steve Maxwell on Jiujitsu Mindset about how wrestling and strength training shaped his life, his early lifting roots near York Barbell, and how wrestling built conditioning, toughness, and skills that carried into jiu-jitsu. Maxwell describes training in the early Gracie Academy era with Rorion, Royce, Rickson, and others, emphasizing self-defense, distance management, takedowns, and principles ("invisible jiu-jitsu") versus today's sport-focused trends. He recounts early seminars in Philadelphia, challenge matches, and a 42-minute fight as a purple belt against a larger NCAA Division III wrestling champion that ended in an arm-triangle choke. Maxwell discusses teaching quality, business realities of running schools, his joint and shoulder issues (blaming kettlebell snatches), and offers longevity advice: tap early, avoid ego and competition injuries, use slow bodyweight/isometrics, partial hangs, breath work, and seek appropriate training partners.

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

01:34 Strength Training Roots

02:46 Wrestling Mindset Edge

06:20 Old School BJJ vs Sport

09:10 Philly Gym and Gracie Visits

14:43 Gracie Lineage Stories

19:45 Challenge Match Era

21:42 42 Minute Wrestler Fight

27:59 BJJ Origins and Judo Shift

31:22 Learning to Teach Like Gracie

32:01 Master Teacher Praise

32:26 Motor Learning Meets Jiu Jitsu

32:59 Learning Through Translation

33:30 Invisible Jiu Jitsu Principles

35:24 Why Many Schools Struggle

37:04 Business Lessons From Bernie

39:03 Playing the Long Game

40:58 Leverage Over Athleticism

42:51 Void Belt System Explained

45:39 Old Man Game Mindset

46:02 Shoulder Pain And Kettlebells

47:23 Hanging And Copper Protocol

51:29 Slow Strength Training

53:38 Superhero Name And Father Story

55:45 Black Belt History And Coral Belt

57:23 Playful Learning And Breathwork

01:00:56 Final Training Plans Goodbye

Professor Jack Taufer on Jiu-Jitsu Learning, Longevity, and "Invisible" Mechanics

Host Pete Deeley welcomes Professor Jack Taufer to The Jiu Jitsu Mindset and asks how Jiu Jitsu has shaped his life since starting at 15 in 1995, compared with paths like skateboarding, basketball, woodworking influences from his late father, or a possible finance career. They discuss jiu-jitsu as technical and physics-based yet expressed differently by each person, how skateboarding contributed balance, and how learning differs from other sports through constant adaptation to an opponent. Taufer describes visualization, changes in training media from VHS to YouTube, and his view that competition can accelerate progress but isn't necessary. He shares memorable rolls with Rickson Gracie, "invisible jiu-jitsu" mechanics like posture, weight distribution, and training with eyes closed, plus stories about confidence gains in students and gym culture enforcing safety and respect.

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

00:48 Life Without Jiu Jitsu

02:48 Engineering Meets Art

05:43 Gymnastics and Skate Roots

08:10 How We Learn Jiu Jitsu

12:31 Visualization and Video Era

15:39 Competition and Stress Tests

19:12 Why People Train

23:33 Most Memorable Rolls

26:18 The 40 Minute War

28:06 Wrestler Surprise Roll

28:28 Invisible Jiu Jitsu Explained

31:06 Physics Behind Pressure

33:47 Eyes Closed Connection

37:00 Longevity And Purpose

41:48 Jiu Jitsu Beyond Self Defense

46:55 Early Gym Reality Check

49:46 Confidence Through Technique

53:05 Superhero Name Farewell

CHRIS HAUETER

6th Degree Black Belt

6th degree Black Belt and member of the dirty dozen (the first 12 non-Brazilian black belts). Chris was the first American to submit a Brazilian in competition, the first American to compete as a black belt at the Mundials in Brazil and he continues to travel the world spreading his Jiu Jitsu philosophy of think street, train sport and practice art.

He is also known for his golden rules of grappling, coining the term combat base as the base with one knee up and one knee down, and saying, "It is not about who is good, but who is left. It's time on the mat. You will be somewhere in ten years, you might as well be a black belt too. Just don't quit."

Show Notes:

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

00:31 Gi and Shirt Memories

03:24 Dream Academy Vision

05:59 Life Without Jiu Jitsu

08:36 Flow State and The Zone

11:23 Fear and Honest Training

14:03 Combat Sports Compared

15:43 Guard as Jiu Jitsu Core

19:01 Community and Lost Knowledge

21:51 Competition and Ego Fear

26:25 Who Should Compete

27:10 Competing For Fun

27:54 Training To Learn

29:18 Aging And Injuries

29:42 Rehab Role Models

31:26 Combat Based Updates

32:16 Graphic Novel Vision

35:02 Tech Genius Myth

36:24 Primal Nature Explained

38:44 Real Violence Memories

42:56 Jiu Jitsu Changes Lives

44:34 Spiritual Invisible Jiu Jitsu

47:05 Learning Like Calculus

48:59 Superhero Ethics

51:42 Hero Journey Wrap Up

Tait Fletcher on Jiu-Jitsu, Truth, Persistence, and Healing

Pete Deeley interviews Professor Tait Fletcher about how combat sports shaped his life and character. Fletcher traces his path from Dog Brothers stick fighting to early Jiu Jitsu training in the 1990s, learning from figures including Arlan Sanford, Amal Easton, later also receiving a black belt from Eddie Bravo. He describes competing widely, fighting in MMA, training with notable fighters, and appearing on The Ultimate Fighter Season 3, emphasizing Eddie Bravo's systematic coaching. The conversation focuses on jiu-jitsu as a source of truth, humility, community, and accelerated learning, stating that teammates improve together through generosity rather than ego. Fletcher discusses plateaus, staying the course, finding joy in training, and how a severe head injury in 2019 led him to rely on Jiu Jitsu, discipline, curiosity, and community to recover and re-engage with life, advocating responsibility, eliminating complaints, and consistent action toward one's destiny.

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:50 Why Combat Sports

02:04 Dog Brothers to Groundwork

03:54 Early BJJ and First Coaches

05:08 Competition and Breakthroughs

06:16 Black Belts and LA Move

09:55 Jiu Jitsu Shaves Time

11:02 Truth and Gym Culture

15:57 Ego Checks and Mentors

25:09 Injury Recovery and Resilience

28:24 Curiosity and Healing Forward

30:45 Act Reflect Repeat

32:04 Life Is A Beta Test

32:26 Jiu Jitsu Finds The Path

33:02 The Artist Roadmap

35:32 Create For Yourself

36:37 Stay Ready For Opportunity

37:42 Curiosity Meets Faith

40:16 Suffer Well In Training

44:37 Resist Complaining

47:18 Move A Muscle

49:02 Everyone Is An Artist

53:20 Jiu Jitsu And Presence

55:29 Grandparent Presence Lessons

01:00:46 Gratitude And Goodbye

Host Pete Deeley interviews Professor Scott Burr on how jiu-jitsu shaped his life by enforcing radical accountability, honesty, and responsibility for results. Burr describes coming from a traditional Korean striking art through MMA into Jiu-Jitsu, valuing its endless depth and continuous intellectual challenge, similar to writing. He explains his learning style as principle-driven, needing clear parameters and an overview before rapid improvement, and notes turning points like suddenly applying armbar concepts. Professor Burr discusses adding judo later to improve getting fights to the ground, and reflects on a painful but instructive amateur MMA loss that included a quick guillotine and revealed training blind spots. He says he learned most from strong, inexperienced opponents and details transformative training with Rickson Gracie, shifting from logic-based technique to sensitivity and a new "operating system."

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

00:51 Life Without Jiu Jitsu

02:26 Radical Accountability

05:03 How He Found Jiu Jitsu

06:10 Endless Rabbit Holes

08:33 Work Ethic Over Talent

10:38 Principles First Learning

12:40 Judo and Takedown Gaps

16:50 Overwhelm and True North

17:41 Traumatic Fight Lessons

20:19 Training Room Blind Spots

21:29 Memorable Rolls Question

22:31 Learning From Tough Rounds

22:54 MMA Reality Check

24:17 Strong Guy Lessons

25:45 Why Control Matters

27:16 Training With Hixson

29:06 New Operating System

32:52 Prereqs And Timing

34:34 Beyond Logic To Sensitivity

38:03 Invisible Jiu Jitsu

39:07 Stories And Signoff

Jiu-Jitsu as a Force Multiplier

Ownership, Awareness, and Leadership with Clay Cox, a Black Belt under the legendary Rickson Gracie.

Host Pete Deeley opens by recounting being submitted at a well-run Phoenix tournament and promotes JiujitsuMindset.com, Submission Coffee, and the Jiujitsu Mindset Online Academy kids class before interviewing Clay, a long-time jiu-jitsu practitioner and business leader. Clay describes starting jiu-jitsu at 19, his disciplined military-family upbringing, and a tech career path from early internet work to MCI, Verizon Wireless, Google, and leading a major business unit supporting data-center infrastructure for major tech companies. They discuss how jiu-jitsu translates to business through emotional intelligence, situational awareness, timing, humility, and "ownership," plus cultivating adaptability and learning through pressure. Clay shares a memorable de-escalation incident at Universal on Christmas Eve, and a story of helping a bullied, nonverbal youth succeed in a submission-only tournament with controlled gentleness. Clay's nickname "Shamu" comes from Carlos Enrique Elias "Caique"

00:00 Welcome and Tournament Story

01:09 Meet Clay and Jiu Jitsu Impact

03:37 Tech Career Journey

06:47 Jiu Jitsu in Business

09:06 Ownership and Awareness

15:32 Learning Mindset and Resilience

22:25 Competition and Hunger

27:54 Educated Instincts for Safety

31:00 Raising Boys on the Mat

32:04 Coaches as Father Figures

33:59 Leadership and Black Belt Responsibility

34:59 Universal Bar Confrontation

43:28 Deescalation and Life Lessons

45:45 Protecting Daughters and Restraint

49:27 Jiu Jitsu Changes Lives

52:17 Tournament Breakthrough Story

54:55 Jiu Jitsu as Meditation

56:07 The Shmoo Nickname

58:20 Final Thanks and Wrap Up

Coach Donavin Britt on Building Las Vegas Combat Academy, Mental Toughness, and Protecting Gym Culture

Host Pete Deeley interviews Coach Donavin Britt on The Jiu Jitsu Mindset, discussing Britt's path from apprenticing under instructor Roger Donofrio into becoming a Krav Maga and self-defense-first gym owner who later added jiu-jitsu and MMA. He describes earning high-level training under figures including Sgt. Major Nir Maman (as the first American certified instructor), Darren Levine, and John Whitman, and discusses the importance of standards, mental toughness, and having a purpose bigger than oneself. Britt addresses misconceptions and quality-control issues in Krav Maga, his motivation to compete in jiu-jitsu (including winning at NAGA while representing Krav Maga on his rashguard), and how sparring and competition serve as stress tests while differing from real self-defense. He recounts a memorable fight from the 1990s loss-prevention work in Oakland involving a drug-impaired suspect who required a rear-naked choke to stop, using it to emphasize the need for a varied skill set. Britt also strongly condemns misconduct in martial arts settings, details removing a student with a troubling history involving women to protect members, and argues men and coaches must "guard the mat" and enforce clear consequences to keep women safe. He shares a transformative student story about a teenager, Angel, who was assaulted and regained confidence through training and sparring, connecting it to mentorship, accountability, and coaching built on consistent care and firm parameters. The episode ends with Deeley inviting Britt to return for further discussion.

00:00 Welcome Back + Coffee & Kids Program Plug

00:33 Meet Coach Donavin Britt

01:36 Life Without Martial Arts? From Student to Instructor via Apprenticeship

02:29 How Krav Maga Instructors Are Really Made (Not a Weekend Cert)

03:53 2008 Crash, Failed Smoothie Franchise, and Betting the Last $500 on a Gym

06:26 Building Las Vegas Combat Academy: Growth, Identity, and the 'Krav Guy' Label

08:38 Crossing Into Jiu-Jitsu: Competing at NAGA and Repping Krav on the Gi

13:36 Iron Will & Legacy: Training for Something Bigger Than Yourself

14:21 Work Ethic Roots: Poverty, Family Pressure, and Grandfather's Alaska Story

19:22 How Martial Arts Learning Differs: Physicality, Emotion, and Self-Defense Intent

22:44 Calling Out Toxic Gym Culture: Protecting Women and 'Guarding the Mat'

27:49 Gym Dating Drama: Standards, Respect, and Zero Tolerance for Fights

29:06 Most Memorable Fight: Loss Prevention Brawls in 90s Oakland

33:53 Competition vs Real Violence: Why Sparring Matters (and Its Limits)

37:58 "It's Just Pain": Teaching Kids Hurt vs Injured & Fighting vs Self-Defense

40:21 Cross-Training and Combat Sports Programming That Improves Self-Defense

42:48 Student Transformation Story: Angel's Sparring Breakthrough

49:52 Coaching, Accountability, and the "Rules of the Tribe" (Maximum Effort)

53:48 Final Thoughts: Self-Help Through Martial Arts & Closing the Conversation