The conversation includes insights on creating space for love and rewiring our brain for happiness in our love lives. In this conversation, Matthew Hussey discusses the power of rewiring your brain and taking a deep reset to appreciate the subtle beauty in life. He shares stories of individuals who took time away from dating and experienced profound clarity in recognizing their true partners. The conversation explores the balance between achievement and the deep reset, and the importance of choosing love based on happiness rather than ego. 

Matthew emphasizes the need to raise standards for how you want to feel in relationships and to be authentic in dating. He also highlights the significance of observing how people make you feel and shifting standards to focus on deeper qualities. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the importance of integrity in relationships and the upcoming Find Your Person event.

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Takeaways

• Choosing the right partner is one of the most consequential decisions we make in our lives.
• Finding love requires focusing on who we get to be rather than what we have to do.
• Barriers to finding love include lack of vulnerability, fear of rejection, and being preoccupied with securing someone rather than finding someone who makes our life better.
• Creating space for love involves letting go of old paradigms and reprogramming our approach to dating.
• Appreciating the subtle aspects of relationships and finding peace and kindness are key to finding happiness in love. Taking a deep reset and rewiring your brain can lead to profound clarity in recognizing your true partner.
• Choosing love based on happiness and how someone makes you feel is more important than ego-driven criteria.
• Raising standards for how you want to feel in relationships can lead to more authentic connections.
• Observing how people make you feel can help you attract the right kind of attention and create fulfilling relationships.

Chapters

00:00Introduction and Time Management

01:22The Importance of Choosing a Partner

03:26Barriers to Finding Love

04:53Focusing on the Right Things in Relationships

05:51The Impact of Dopamine Cycle on Dating

07:13Understanding What's Important in Love Lives

08:12Letting Go of Old Paradigms

09:08Acceptance and Growth in Relationships

10:02The Journey of Love and Acceptance

11:27Embracing Imperfections in Relationships

12:05Learning to Be Vulnerable

13:30Taking Accountability in Relationships

14:29Courage to Face Relationship Challenges

15:59Creating Space for Love

21:49Creating Your Own Dating Culture

23:01Reprogramming Our Approach to Dating

24:27Finding Peace and Kindness in Relationships

26:12Breaking the Cycle of Chaos in Dating

28:39Defining What's Important in Love Lives

30:08Creating Space for the Right Person

32:06Rewiring Our Brain for Happiness in Love

33:24Appreciating the Subtle in Relationships

33:37The Power of Rewiring Your Brain

34:23Taking a Deep Reset

35:46The Balance Between Achievement and Deep Reset

37:17The Feeling You Want to Cultivate

38:02Choosing Love Based on Ego

39:02Being Aware of How People Make You Feel

40:02Raising Standards for How You Want to Feel

41:27Choosing Love Based on Happiness

42:23Approaching Dating Authentically

43:13Attracting the Right Kind of Attention

44:12Shifting Standards to Deeper Qualities

45:43Observing How People Make You Feel

46:42Giving Up Attention to Get More

49:27The Pursuit of the Subtle

50:47Being a Stand for Positive Dialogue

51:45The Importance of Integrity in Relationships

52:41Acknowledging Matthew's Stand

53:18The Small Moments That Matter

57:13Raising Standards for Deeper Qualities

58:12Seeking Authenticity and Connection

01:00:25The Importance of Love and Choosing a Partner

01:01:07Finding Your Person Event

01:04:02Acknowledging Matthew's Presence

01:06:33The Power of Lifting the Room

01:07:07Closing Remarks

Michael Trainer has spent 30 years learning from Nobel laureates, neuroscientists, and wisdom keepers worldwide. He's the author of RESONANCE: The Art and Science of Human Connection (March 31, 2026), co-creator of Global Citizen and the Global Citizen Festival, and host of the RESONANCE podcast.

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