The Kinky Tavern

CW: trauma play, mental health

Please be advised that this episode contains discussions of BDSM, kink, trauma, and mental health topics that may be sensitive or triggering for some listeners. If you are not in a place to handle this kind of content right now, please prioritize your well-being and feel free to join us for a future episode. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, please call 911 or seek immediate help. If you need support related to trauma, mental health, or kink-related concerns, please don’t hesitate to reach out to resources such as the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 or visit https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ for free, confidential support. Take care of yourself, and thank you for listening.

Episode Summary: This week, Talis (they/them), a kink educator and founder of Beyond Taboo, joins Mx Dizzy and Marquis Pup Rekkr on The Kinky Tavern Podcast to share their journey into BDSM, trauma healing, and community outreach. With over 15 years of experience, Talis discusses their goal to create structured, accessible, trauma-informed education that emphasizes consent and vetting, moving beyond media stereotypes.

They highlight their work developing military-inspired models to help newcomers explore kink safely and their focus on integrating psychology, spirituality, and trauma work for healing and self-actualization. Talis promotes community involvement in research and education, encouraging volunteers to help fill gaps in understanding kink and neurodivergence and working to be a resource for the community to get connected with those doing the work. Sharing personal stories, including upcoming collaborative trauma projects, they express enthusiasm for future webinars, research, and efforts to demystify BDSM responsibly. 

Resources for this episode (not necessarily a recommendation or positive review of the information within):

• beyondtaboo.me 

• Beyond Taboo Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/beyond_taboo_mentor/ 

• Beyond Taboo Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/574135808957570 

• Beyond Taboo Discord Group - https://discord.com/invite/rymuk9wp78 

• Beyond Taboo Fetlife -  https://fetlife.com/BTMentor

• TASHRA - https://www.tashra.org/

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• LinkTree

• Discord Server

• Fetlife

• Instagram

• Facebook

• Bluesky

• Threads

• Mx Dizzy’s Socials

• Amazon Wishlist

• Fetlife

• Facebook

• TikTok

• Marquis Pup Rekkr’s Socials

• Amazon Wishlist

• Fetlife

• Facebook

• Instagram

Support our efforts to promote education, discussion, and awareness in the kink, BDSM, and Leather communities:  

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• PayPal: @mxdizzytkt

• Venmo: @thekinkytavern

CW: weight loss, weight loss surgery, medical trauma, eating disorders, anorexia

Today’s episode, by the nature of its topic, will be covering some more triggering content. If you are not in a place to handle this kind of discussion right now, please take care of yourself and join us for our next episode! If you are experiencing a mental health emergency please call 911. If you need help or assistance with your struggles in trauma or mental health, please don’t hesitate to reach out to The Mental Health Hotline at 866-903-3787 or visit https://mentalhealthhotline.org/ for access to more free, confidential mental health hotlines and chats. 

Episode Summary: This week, Mx Dizzy (they/them) and Marquis Pup Rekkr (he/they) kick off Season 4 with updates from the past year during their hiatus—covering a big move, a major surgery, and much more. They also share upcoming plans for the podcast, including posting schedules, content upgrades, and two upcoming classes that Mx Dizzy didn’t realize would already be done by the time that we posted! 

Resources for this episode (not necessarily a recommendation or positive review of the information within):

• https://linktr.ee/TheKinkyTavern

⁠Check out The Kinky Tavern’s socials and more!⁠ 

If you have questions about kink, BDSM, or the Leather community, send them to us on any platform. If your question is featured in an episode, you’ll get a shout-out (unless you prefer to stay anonymous).

• LinkTree

• Discord Server

• Fetlife

• Instagram

• Facebook

• Bluesky

• Threads

• Mx Dizzy’s Socials

• Amazon Wishlist

• Fetlife

• Facebook

• TikTok

• Marquis Pup Rekkr’s Socials

• Amazon Wishlist

• Fetlife

• Facebook

• Instagram

Support our efforts to promote education, discussion, and awareness in the kink, BDSM, and Leather communities:  

• ⁠Amazon Wishlist⁠

• Amazon Wishlist - Library version

• ⁠Patreon⁠

• Cashapp: $EmmDizzy

• PayPal: @MagickalEm 

• Venmo: @thekinkytavern 

CW: transphobia, homophobia, living in the world as someone in the LGBTQPIA2S+ community 

Today’s episode, by the nature of its topic, will be covering some more triggering content. If you are not in a place to handle this kind of discussion right now, please take care of yourself and join us for our next episode! If you are experiencing a mental health emergency please call 911. If you need help or assistance with your struggles in trauma or mental health, please don’t hesitate to reach out to The Mental Health Hotline at 866-903-3787 or visit https://mentalhealthhotline.org/ for access to more free, confidential mental health hotlines and chats. 

Episode Summary: This week, Mx Dizzy and Marquis Pup Rekkr sit down with Van (they/elle), the founder and organizer of the Do Something: Identity(ies) aka DSI conference, an international virtual conference which “centers and celebrates the most erased realities in the LGBTQPIA2S+ community.” The 2nd DSI conference will take place May 31st, 2024. On top of this conference, Van has also facilitated both an interactive book and a documentary on the same areas of focus! Join us to learn about Van and the DSI conference, the “Exploring my Identity(ies)” interactive book, the Do Something documentary, and more!

Resources for this episode (not necessarily a recommendation or positive review of the information within):

A Big Thank You to our Patrons:

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Episode Summary: In the realms of kink and BDSM, we talk about Power Exchange a lot, but what does that actually mean? Does it realistically cover the transaction happening within your dynamic? This week, Mx Dizzy and Marquis Pup Rekkr are sitting down with our good friend, Master Devyn Stone to talk about their ideas on Power Exchange and how the term Authority Transfer fits their desires and dynamic so much better. What’s the difference? What does Power Exchange mean? What about Authority Transfer? We discuss that and so much more in this exciting episode with Master Devyn Stone. 

Resources for this episode (not necessarily a recommendation or positive review of the information within):

A Big Thank You to our Patrons:

Join our ⁠Discord⁠ server! Includes discussion, input for episodes, and education opportunities! It’s a great place to chat about sex, kink, bdsm, or whatever! You can ask questions, find out what the next episodes will be about, suggest topics, and just chat with us!

⁠Check out The Kinky Tavern’s socials and more!⁠ If you have any questions about the kink, BDSM, or Leather public, please send them to us on whatever platform you have access to. If you ask a question and it is featured in an episode, you will get a shout-out for that account unless you request to be anonymous.

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CW: marijuana and it’s use within kink and sex

Today’s episode, by the nature of its topic, will be covering some more triggering content. If you are not in a place to handle this kind of discussion right now, please take care of yourself and join us for our next episode! If you are experiencing a mental health emergency please call 911. If you need help or assistance with your struggles in trauma or mental health, please don’t hesitate to reach out to The Mental Health Hotline at 866-903-3787 or visit https://mentalhealthhotline.org/ for access to more free, confidential mental health hotlines and chats. 

Episode Summary: This week, Mx Dizzy and Marquis Pup Rekkr discuss the intersection of Cannabis and kink. Diving into it’s relationship with consent, the ways in which it can affect the user, and ways that it is commonly used within kink and sex. Find out why high sex is so good, how to approach consent when cannabis is involved, and how to make it sexy! 

Resources for this episode (not necessarily a recommendation or positive review of the information within):

A Big Thank You to our Patrons:

Join our ⁠Discord⁠ server! Includes discussion, input for episodes, and education opportunities! It’s a great place to chat about sex, kink, bdsm, or whatever! You can ask questions, find out what the next episodes will be about, suggest topics, and just chat with us!

⁠Check out The Kinky Tavern’s socials and more!⁠ If you have any questions about the kink, BDSM, or Leather public, please send them to us on whatever platform you have access to. If you ask a question and it is featured in an episode, you will get a shout-out for that account unless you request to be anonymous.

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Episode Summary: This week, Mx Dizzy and Marquis Pup Rekkr discuss the idea and practice of Training in the kink and BDSM world.  We delve deeper into the complexities of power dynamics, consent negotiations, and skill development within kink and BDSM. Whether you're a seasoned practitioner seeking new insights or a curious enthusiast eager to expand your understanding, join us as we navigate the intricate realms of training in kink and BDSM.

Resources for this episode (not necessarily a recommendation or positive review of the information within):

A Big Thank You to our Patrons:

Join our ⁠Discord⁠ server! Includes discussion, input for episodes, and education opportunities! It’s a great place to chat about sex, kink, bdsm, or whatever! You can ask questions, find out what the next episodes will be about, suggest topics, and just chat with us!

⁠Check out The Kinky Tavern’s socials and more!⁠ If you have any questions about the kink, BDSM, or Leather public, please send them to us on whatever platform you have access to. If you ask a question and it is featured in an episode, you will get a shout-out for that account unless you request to be anonymous.

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Episode Summary: This week, Mx Dizzy and Marquis Pup Rekkr are sitting down with our good friend, Master Devyn Stone to talk about the exciting educational opportunities coming up! Devyn is the founder of Pragmatically Kinking, an organization which offers virtual classes, panels, and presentations up to 6 times every month covering topics about kink, BDSM, Leather, the psychology thereof and dynamic within, and more. Pragmatically Kinking (PK) also hosts a yearly virtual convention, THRIVE, which thus far has been possible to host at no cost to attendees beyond tips and donations they’d like to bestow upon presenters they especially connect with or appreciate. Join us this week to find out about PK, THRIVE, and more of Master Devyn Stone’s educational opportunities!

Resources for this episode (not necessarily a recommendation or positive review of the information within):

A Big Thank You to our Patrons:

Join our ⁠Discord⁠ server! Includes discussion, input for episodes, and education opportunities! It’s a great place to chat about sex, kink, bdsm, or whatever! You can ask questions, find out what the next episodes will be about, suggest topics, and just chat with us!

⁠Check out The Kinky Tavern’s socials and more!⁠ If you have any questions about the kink, BDSM, or Leather public, please send them to us on whatever platform you have access to. If you ask a question and it is featured in an episode, you will get a shout-out for that account unless you request to be anonymous.

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Episode Summary: This week, we’re talking about Messy Play! Sploshing, WAM, Wet and Messy; whatever you call it, getting down and dirty as a kink ccan be lots of fun! Join us this week as Mx. Dizzy and Pup Marquis Rekkr talk about messy play! What is it? How does it show up in the world? Why are people interested in it? How can one participate? What kinds of substances can be used? This episode answers those questions and more!

Resources for this episode (not necessarily a recommendation or positive review of the information within):

A Big Thank You to our Patrons:

Join our ⁠Discord⁠ server! Includes discussion, input for episodes, and education opportunities! It’s a great place to chat about sex, kink, bdsm, or whatever! You can ask questions, find out what the next episodes will be about, suggest topics, and just chat with us!

⁠Check out The Kinky Tavern’s socials and more!⁠ If you have any questions about the kink, BDSM, or Leather public, please send them to us on whatever platform you have access to. If you ask a question and it is featured in an episode, you will get a shout-out for that account unless you request to be anonymous.

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Episode Summary: Get ready, because this week's episode is something we enjoyed doing last time and got good feedback on The Kinky Tavern Podcast: Reddit reactions! Join us on the Reddit Rainbow as Mx. Dizzy and Pup Marquis Rekkr react to stories from subreddits such as r/AITAH, r/sextips, r/bdsm, and r/NSFW_Switch_Community. We’ll read the post and give our perspectives, ideas, and advice based on our experience and knowledge. 

Resources for this episode (not necessarily a recommendation or positive review of the information within):

A Big Thank You to our Patrons:

Join our ⁠Discord⁠ server! Includes discussion, input for episodes, and education opportunities! It’s a great place to chat about sex, kink, bdsm, or whatever! You can ask questions, find out what the next episodes will be about, suggest topics, and just chat with us!

⁠Check out The Kinky Tavern’s socials and more!⁠ If you have any questions about the kink, BDSM, or Leather public, please send them to us on whatever platform you have access to. If you ask a question and it is featured in an episode, you will get a shout-out for that account unless you request to be anonymous.

Support the podcast and our efforts to bring education, discussion, and awareness to the kink, BDSM, and Leather public!

Episode Summary: Get ready, because this week's episode is something we enjoyed doing last time and got good feedback on The Kinky Tavern Podcast: Reddit reactions! Join us on the Reddit Rainbow as Mx. Dizzy and Pup Marquis Rekkr react to stories from subreddits such as r/AITAH, r/sextips, r/bdsm, and r/NSFW_Switch_Community. We’ll read the post and give our perspectives, ideas, and advice based on our experience and knowledge. 

Resources for this episode (not necessarily a recommendation or positive review of the information within):

A Big Thank You to our Patrons:

Join our ⁠Discord⁠ server! Includes discussion, input for episodes, and education opportunities! It’s a great place to chat about sex, kink, bdsm, or whatever! You can ask questions, find out what the next episodes will be about, suggest topics, and just chat with us!

⁠Check out The Kinky Tavern’s socials and more!⁠ If you have any questions about the kink, BDSM, or Leather public, please send them to us on whatever platform you have access to. If you ask a question and it is featured in an episode, you will get a shout-out for that account unless you request to be anonymous.

Support the podcast and our efforts to bring education, discussion, and awareness to the kink, BDSM, and Leather public!