Learn more about our guest, Lexi Mulee’s mission by visiting https://www.wisemindcounselingllc.com/
Founder and clinician at WMC, where she leads with heart, purpose, and a deep commitment to the LGBTQ+ community across NY, CT, and NJ. Lexi is proud to offer Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills and services that empower individuals to navigate life’s challenges and show up as their best selves. Her work focuses on supporting those managing BPD, eating disorders, and substance use — all through the transformative lens of DBT. Lexi believes deeply in the power of these skills and is on a mission to help others believe in them too.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Boundaries
01:54 Understanding Boundaries
03:45 The Nature of Boundaries
05:46 Autonomy and Control in Boundaries
06:38 Identifying Personal Boundaries
08:36 Learning Boundaries Through Experience
12:11 Communication and Boundaries
15:46 Professional Boundaries
17:52 Modeling Boundaries in Relationships
20:52 The Impact of Boundaries on Relationships
26:06 Building Trust Through Boundaries
27:51 The Art of Soft Boundaries
28:46 The Impact of Digital Communication on Boundaries
30:55 Empathy in Face-to-Face Interactions
33:00 Navigating Boundary Setting in Person vs. Text
35:42 Overcoming Fear of Conflict in Boundary Setting
37:43 The Journey of Practicing Boundaries
40:57 Myths and Misconceptions About Boundaries
43:23 Types of Boundaries and Their Importance
52:34 Key Insights and Takeaways
🎧 Episode Description:
The Level Up Guys explore mental, emotional, and physical health to help you improve your quality of life and level up. In this episode of The Level Up Guys podcast, hosts Billy and Jarrett continue their discussion about the importance of emotional well-being by diving deep into boundaries—what they are, why they matter, and how to set them without guilt.
They’re joined by Lexi Mulee, licensed mental health counselor and founder of Wise Mind Counseling (https://www.wisemindcounselingllc.com/), who shares powerful insights into how boundaries serve as tools for self-protection, not punishment. Together, they break down common misconceptions, explore why receiving a boundary can feel like rejection, and offer strategies to set clear expectations while preserving connection.
With stories ranging from awkward work encounters to personal space violations, the episode brings humor, heart, and real-life examples to a topic that’s often misunderstood. You’ll hear how boundaries play out in professional, romantic, and family dynamics—and how practicing them builds self-trust and stronger relationships.
If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing or felt resentful after staying silent, this conversation is your permission slip to start protecting your peace.
The Level Up Guys podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Please consult a qualified professional for medical advice, and remember to do your own research.
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Resources
We love sharing resources and invite you all to level up with us. Below, you’ll find a curated list of standout reads and tools we genuinely believe are worth your time (and money). If you use the links, you’ll also be supporting the Level Up Guys podcast. Thanks for being part of the journey.
- Tony Robbins – Awaken the Giant Within
Explores how language shapes our emotions, energy, and actions. A must-read for understanding personal transformation through mindset shifts.
👉 Get it on Amazon - https://amzn.to/4dn8zPL
- Lisa Feldman Barrett – How Emotions Are Made
Breaks down the science of emotions—how they’re constructed, triggered, and felt. Perfect if you’re curious about the brain-body connection behind what we feel.
👉 Get it on Amazon - https://amzn.to/3YSnWK2
- Brené Brown – Daring Greatly
A deep dive into vulnerability, shame, guilt, and courage. Explores how embracing discomfort can lead to stronger relationships and greater personal power.
👉 Get it on Amazon - https://amzn.to/3GUEkUi
- Glennon Doyle – Untamed
Encourages radical self-discovery and authenticity. Her take on jealousy as “admiration holding its breath” hits hard—and this book expands on that beautifully.
👉 Get it on Amazon - https://amzn.to/45jTUCT
- Becky Kennedy – Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be
Grounded in emotional intelligence, this one’s not just for parents—it’s a masterclass in guilt, growth, and how to show up better for others (and yourself).
👉 Get it on Amazon - https://amzn.to/4dk66p4
- Dr. Ethan Kross – Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It
Unpacks the power of self-talk and how to create distance from unhelpful inner narratives. A practical guide to turning mental noise into clarity.
👉 Get it on Amazon - https://amzn.to/3Flf9cP
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Connect With Us
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Listen on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/by/podcast/the-level-up-guys/id1788795397
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Get to know Jarrett : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/jarrett-clayman-framingham-ma/1328337
We’d love to hear from you! Connect with us at [email protected]. Let’s level up together!
Credits
Special thanks to the amazing people behind the scenes that make the Level Up Guys podcast possible:
Producer, Moe Murillo – for steering the ship forward, keeping everything on schedule.
Connect with Moe here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mauricio-murillo-capm-csm
Music provided by Remix Live (license free)
Artwork by Billy Batten and Moe.
