The Mom Psychologist Show

I know for many of us parents, having "the talk" with our kids can feel daunting.

❓Where do we begin?

❓What do we say?

❓How do we avoid scaring them? ❓Are we giving out too much information? Not enough?

Generally speaking, sex education and conversations about sex and private parts often begins with your child's normal curiosity about their bodies.

Here's some best practices when it comes to these conversations:

✔Follow their lead. Let your child set the pace on what they learn.

✔Answer their questions openly and honestly but also simply and matter-of-factly.

✔Be sure to only answer THEIR question

✔Be careful not to create shame around their questions or bodies in general.

In this episode, I share:

➡How to best respond depending on your child's age/stage ➡How to respond to common questions like, how are babies made?!

➡My favorite children's books for teaching about sex, private parts, body consent and safety and more! List of

Check out my Amazon Storefront @themompsychologist for a list of recommended books. 

[Check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop]

[TRY NEW SPHERE – Code DRJAZMINE gets you 20% off your first month! Go to http://themompsychologist.com/newsphere to learn more!] Should Kids Go To Online School? Pros and Cons of Online School for Toddlers & Preschoolers So we started online preschool about a year ago and my preschoolers (ages 4 and 5) have been at their current online school for the past 9 months so I thought I'd film an update on our experience so far with online learning. The girls currently attend New Sphere, which is an online school program for toddlers and preschoolers (ages 2-6).

 Learning how to ride a bike without training wheels a is huge developmental milestone.

I’ll never forget the day my mom taught me how to ride a bike. I remember how confident and accomplished I felt when I finally got it down.

Well, we recently taught my 5-year old how to ride a bike without training wheels and I want to share with you what it was like for us and practical tips for curbing our own anxiety as parents so we don’t pass it on to our kids!

In this week's episode, I share:

✅ When to teach your kids to ride a bike without training wheels

✅ Things to know before you start

✅ Things to teach kids before you start including what safety rules to teach

✅ Step by step how we taught our daughter

✅ Tips for managing child and parent anxiety

PS: Be sure to take my free 2-min quiz to find out your parenting style and tips for better connection and cooperation! Link in my bio or go to www.themomopsychologist.com/quiz

Aggression is overwhelming, confusing, and triggering... Am I right?

Oftentimes, when kids feel overwhelmed and can't find the words to communicate their feelings and get their needs met, they resort to aggression (whether that's hitting, kicking, biting, throwing, etc).  

During the toddler and preschool years, this is especially common because at this age they:   

-Lack the communication skills. -Are easily overwhelmed and frustrated.

-Are incredibly impulsive. They are about the here and now and rarely plan ahead.

-Self focused and have a hard time stepping outside of themselves to see how their behavior will impact others.

-Have a healthy need for power, control and independence. Given their age and abilities, though, they are often not able to do what they want to do.    

In this week's episode, I share 3 secrets to preventing and taming childhood aggression!  

Now keep in mind, secret # 3 might look different if you have a young toddler who is not yet communicative. You can still tell the story for them, establish clear boundaries (e.g., "Hitting hurts.") and help teach them the words to get their needs met, though, so don't skip these steps!

//Watch my free discipline workshop to learn how to get more cooperation without yelling ➡ http://www.themompsychologist.com/workshop //

Discipline is hard especially if you're trying to be a positive parent and you're trying not to yell, punish or bribe your kids into cooperation.  

You might often wonder... 

💭"Am I being mean?" 

💭"Am I being too inflexible?" 

💭"Am I being too permissive?" 

💭"How do I set limits so they listen without hurting our relationship?!" 

 If so, this episode is for you! 

In general, discipline takes  

An understanding of what your child can/can't do from a developmental perspective  

Connection before, during, and after setting limits  

Regulation of our emotions (and our child's)  

Clear instructions  

Thought out boundaries/consequences 

In this episode, I'll share 3 common mistakes parents make when disciplining!

Surprise! I'm pregnant with baby #3! 🎉

It feels like I've been keeping this secret for FOREVER so I'm so excited to share it with you guys!

In this week's episode, I catch you up to how my pregnancy is going so far including my honest emotional reaction to being a mom of 3 and how I've been feeling physically. I also share how we told our daughters + how they are feeling about being big sisters.

Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

Few things are more triggering than seeing your kids fight nonstop with each other. And when there's aggression involved, our brains go into emergency mode and want to make it stop right NOW.

And rightfully so. Our main job is to keep our kids safe and aggression towards others is a threat to safety.

There's so much to say about sibling conflict but in today's episode, I want to talk specifically about the dynamic where an older sibling (I'm imagining toddler or preschool age) becomes aggressive towards their younger sibling (an infant, young toddler).

How do we respond? What's the best way to intervene in these situations? Let's discuss.

➡Register for my upcoming live intensive workshop on June 2 at 12 PM PST on How to Reduce Sibling (and Peer) Rivalry & Foster Connection

You will learn how to navigate:
✔Sibling rivalry & jealousy
✔Sibling & peer aggression and arguments
✔Toy battles and sharing
✔How to promote positive sibling and peer relationships

You’ll also get to participate in a Q&A and receive handouts to help guide and remind you of what to do during moments of conflict.

And for everyone who registers for the class, you’ll have UNLIMITED access to the class recording!

Go the http://www.themompsychologist.com/siblingclass

The toddler years are full of so many transitions. From bottles to cups, pacifiers to other comfort items, cribs to toddler beds, and diapers to underwear - it’s a lot of transition and it can feel stressful for both kids and parents. You might be wondering — Which one comes first? Is it pacifiers, toddler beds, or potty training?! What’s the best order? How do I minimize the tears and make it as smooth as possible? In this episode, I share exactly what order to do all these transitions in and why! DOWNLOAD MY FREE POTTY TRAINING CHECKLISTS for a complete list of signs to look out for, potty training essentials, and how to mentally prepare yourself and your child for potty training: https://themompsychologist.com/pottychecklists

I know in the parenting world, it's easy to focus on the areas we need to grow and the areas our children need to grow. But today, I want to share signs you are GROWING as a parent. I know it's easy to focus only on the areas where we need to improve (discipline, validating feelings, boundaries, etc) that it's so easy to lose sight of our WINS. I'm a huge fan of celebrating our wins as parents because if we start to pay attention to them, the wins start to stack up! All of a sudden, we're WINNING! In this week's episode, I dive into the 6 signs you're growing as a parent and breaking generational cycles! JOIN THE MOM SISTERHOOD FOR PARENT COACHING & COMMUNITY! http://themompsychologist.com/sisterhood

Are you feeling burned out and miserable as a mom? Do you feel like life is passing you by while you sludge from one pointless task to another? Maybe you've started to regret becoming a mom because you miss your old life before when you could sleep in, be more spontaneous, and relish in your own desires and needs without having to constantly consider another's. Then, once you realize you're having these thoughts, here comes the MOM GUILT. "I'm such a bad mom! I can't believe I miss my life before kids. I love my kids. Why am I thinking like this?!" If you can relate, please know I see you + you're soooo not alone! This week, I'm bringing another episode of Ask Dr. Jaz where you ask questions and I offer my thoughts. And a fellow mom from our community, bravely shared that she doesn't enjoy motherhood and often regrets her old life. Come hear my advice for Emma (and all moms out there) struggling to find JOY in motherhood! PS: Be sure to take my free 2-min quiz to find out your parenting style and tips for better connection and cooperation! Link in my bio or go to www.themomopsychologist.com/quiz