Self-differentiation is about managing your own functioning. In Part 1, I cover the importance of monitoring emotional distance and unworked out relationships.

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Whether it's your family, organization or congregation, the functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family.

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⁠Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems Thinking in Psychiatry and the Sciences. 13, 2, 2018⁠ by Daniel V. Papero.

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Whether it's your family, organization or congregation, the functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family.

Show Notes:

Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems Thinking in Psychiatry and the Sciences. 13, 2, 2018 by Daniel V. Papero.

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Whether it's family or work, having discussions with people who disagree can be a challenge. This episode shows you how you can do better.

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A Non-Anxious Presence Workbook: Five Steps to Go Be Yourself (available for $9 until Midnight EST on Friday, November 29, 2024; $15 after that).

Episode 99: A Family Systems Take on Non-Violent (or Compassionate) Communication – Part 1

Episode 100: A Family Systems Take on Non-Violent (or Compassionate) Communication – Part 2

Cup of Empathy - Marianne VanDijk

NVC for People Pleasers

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The division in our world is unsustainable. If we don't do something, we're headed for disaster. Here's what you can do.

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Why We Got It So Wrong by David Brooks

David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants by Malcom Gladwell

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Whether or not you supported the winner or even live in the US, this episode can help you grow as a non-anxious leader.

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Nonviolence - The Martin Luther King, Jr. Research and Education Institute at Stanford University

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This episode is a presentation from the Family Systems Book Study that puts family systems theory in context for the non-anxious leader.

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Self-differentiation enables you to not take things personally and to foster autonomy in others. Here's how.

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If you're too serious, you will raise anxiety in the relationship systems that you lead. Here's how humor can help.

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Leaders Can Carry Too Much Truth Through Humor - Admired Leadership

How to Develop Your Most Important Asset as a Leader: Trust - The Non-Anxious Leader Blog

Little Bets: How Breakthrough Ideas Emerge from Small Discoveries by Peter Sims

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Allowing others to experience the pain and consequences of their actions (and life in general) will help them build resilience and capacity. Here's how.

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