Child focus or the Family Projection Process is one of Murray Bowen's eight concepts of Family Systems Theory. Here are five research backed insights that can help you as a parent and/or a leader.

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Child Focus and the Family Unit: A Comparison of Families with Higher and Lower Child Symptomology by Phillip Klever

Family Projection Process — The Bowen Center for the Study of the Family

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The political, cultural and theological divisions continue to widen. A non-anxious leader understands why AND how to respond.

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The Center for Family Process

Only My Opinion Counts: Myside Bias by Jamie Hale, M.S.

The Bias That Divides Us: The Science and Politics of Myside Thinking by Keith E. Stanovich

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Phillip Klever studied the impact of intergenerational emotional connection on families of origin. Here's what he found and what it means to you.

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Cutoff: The challenge of the parent/child relationship by John Bell, MDiv.

Extended Family Relationships: A Comparison of High and Low Symptom Families by Phillip Klever

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When others anxiously provoke you, one strategy is "don't argue, don't agree." This episode explains "Gray Rocking" and how it can work for you.

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‘Gray rocking’ is a way to deal with difficult people. Here’s how it works. - The Washington Post

Gray Rocking (Definition + Examples) - Practical Psychology

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This episode explores what "Fogging" is and how you can use it in anxious situations.

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When I Say No, I Feel Guilty by Manuel J. Smith

The Fogging Technique - Assertiveness Skills Articles

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This episode continues with an explanation of Positive Intelligence and covers the three strategies to increase your PQ so you can be a non-anxious presence.

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Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential AND HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOURS by Shirzad Chamine

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Positive Intelligence is a practical approach to help you be your best through self-regulation and self-differentiation. This two-part series explains what it is and how it can help you.

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Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential AND HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOURS by Shirzad Chamine

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Observing the patterns in a system, not just the behavior of individuals, can help you to better self-differentiate. Here's how.

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When the Family Tightens Up - by Kathleen Smith

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Self-differentiation means that you are able to manage your own anxiety without involving others. This episode unpacks what this does (and doesn't) look like.

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Being the Captain of Your Own Ship by Kathleen Smith

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Courage is the strength to act in the face of fear, uncertainty, or adversity. This episode covers the final four types of everyday courage and how they relate to self-differentiation.

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6 Ways to Practice Everyday Courage by Alex Budak

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