The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family.

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Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems Thinking in Psychiatry and the Sciences. 13, 2, 2018 by Daniel V. Papero.

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According to Edwin Friedman, one of the characteristics of a chronically anxious society is the desire to seek safety instead of adventure. Non-anxious leaders seek adventure and learn to love it. Here’s how.

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The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times by Michelle Obama

A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman

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Understanding emotional process helps you to see how people deal with uncertainty and anxiety. This enables you to be less anxious and judgmental, as well as more compassionate. This episode shows you how.

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The Circle of Why by Kathleen Smith

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This example from Edwin Friedman's video on leadership through self-differentiation will help you manage anxiety in any relationship system.

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Leadership Through Self Differentiation A lecture by Edwin Friedman on YouTube

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You can’t make another person responsible. If you’re trying, you’re likely doing it wrong. Here’s why and how you can do better.

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Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman

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When you manage your anxiety by assuming you know what others are thinking, you often forgo the best possible outcomes.

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Are You Saying "No" For Others? - by Kathleen Smith Note: this is behind a paywall, but you can subscribe for $5/month (not an affiliate link).

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Understanding the concept of psychological reactance can help you avoid a conflict of wills and increase the chances that people will react positively to your leadership.

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Rebel with a Cause - Choiceology Podcast

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The triangle is the most stable form of human relationship. Learning to recognize a triangle and how to manage it is essential to being a non-anxious leader.

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Kathleen Smith, PhD, LPC

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In A Failure of Nerve, Edwin Friedman maintained that societal regression is counter evolutionary. In this episode, I unpack his five evolutionary principles of life as leadership principles.

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Anxious people want a quick fix. Non-anxious leaders know this is not the answer. Here's why, as well as how you can respond to challenge in a way that will make a difference.

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How to avoid the most seductive leadership mistake by Ed O'Malley and Julia Fabris McBride

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