Edwin Friedman's last book, A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix, challenges us to lead differently. Here's how.

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A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman

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Whether you're a parent, pastor or president, favoritism is unhealthy. Here's the research behind it and four things you can do to interrupt the pattern.

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Do Parents Have Favorite Children? Of Course They Do. - The New York Times

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Self-differentiated leaders take responsibility for themselves (and no one else). This will increase self-discipline in a way that helps you in all aspects of life. Here are three strategies to help you do this.

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Why this type of self-discipline will make you a better leader by Jody Michael

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Edge cases don't happen often, but they are predictable. This episode unpacks what that looks like and offers five steps to help you grow as a non-anxious presence.

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Why the Best Communicators Prepare for the Edge Cases - Matt Norman

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This episode covers a systematic way to improve your life on a regular basis.

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Get a free copy of One New Habit, One Big Goal: Change Your Life in 10 Weeks

Episode 311: The Year End Review (with a Family Systems Take - Rebroadcast)

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Self-differentiation is acting in accordance with your goals and values, especially in anxious moments. This episode shows you how, as well as what to do when you don’t.

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Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety 

If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer

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The emotional intensity that comes from being super-serious can turn a challenge into a problem. Likewise, when we react automatically to the anxiety of others, it can make a bad situation worse. This episode digs into why this is the case and what you can do about it.

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Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety 

If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer

Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts–Becoming the Person You Want to Be by Marshall Goldsmith

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Recognizing emotional process will not only help you avoid getting stuck, it will enable you to persist through the inevitable sabotage that comes when you are leading change.

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Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety 

If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer

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The key to effective leadership is the ability to remain a non-anxious presence. Understanding triangles, as well as how to manage them, makes this easier.

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Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety 

If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer

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Understanding what Executive Coach Muriel M. Wilkins calls "Blockers" can help you get unstuck in your family, congregation and organization. This episode covers the final four and how to unblock them.

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⁠The Hidden Beliefs That Hold Leaders Back⁠ by Muriel M. Wilkins

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