The Parenting Reframe

Inside, she explores:

→ What compensatory parenting is—and why disagreements about parenting styles push you into more extreme versions of yourself (the permissive parent becomes too passive, the harsh parent becomes too critical and controlling)

→ The real-life example: one parent over-explains, talks too much, and eventually gives in when kids protest; the other explodes with punishments that don't fit the crime—and neither is actually responding to what the child needs

→ The simple 3-step framework that works for both parenting styles: state the boundary clearly, express empathy without over-explaining, restate the boundary—then allow the child space to self-regulate

→ How to talk to your partner about co-parenting disagreements without it turning into a fight: come from a place of connection, not correction—stay child-focused, remain open, and ask "where can I give a little and where do you need to give a little?"

→ Why the more consistent and predictable your responses are as a team, the safer your child feels—and how getting on the same page transforms not just your parenting, but your partnership and your home

Resources & Links:

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (Albiona's 4-step regulation process for managing parenting disagreements)

→ Raising Lions by Joe Newman (the reset/break concept for helping kids self-regulate)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

→ Email Albiona: [email protected]

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Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's constantly butting heads with their partner about how to handle meltdowns, a couple stuck in the good cop/bad cop cycle, or anyone who feels like they're parenting alone even when their spouse or partner is right there.

Because the truth is: you don't have to parent the exact same way. You just have to stop compensating for each other and start focusing on what your child actually needs. And when you do that—when you parent as a team instead of against each other—everything shifts.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Inside, they explore:

→ Why "disrespect" is usually dysregulation—and how to respond when your teen talks back, rolls their eyes, or uses a tone you don't appreciate

→ The authority reframe: your job isn't to be right or have power—it's to carry the responsibility of de-escalating, listening, and modeling regulation (even when your teen is losing it)

→ Why connection is the foundation for good behavior, not the reward for it—and why taking away quality time when teens struggle backfires completely

→ How boundaries actually work with strong-willed teens: you can't control what they do, but you CAN control what you do—and that's where your real power lives

→ Why letting them make mistakes (even when you're terrified) builds trust and safety—because the tighter you hold on, the less you're actually able to protect them from poor choices, risky behavior, or shutting you out completely

This episode will challenge every assumption you have about what it means to parent difficult teenagers—and give you the tools to build the kind of relationship where they actually come to you when things get hard.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Dr. Cam Caswell:

→ Website: www.askdrcam.com

→ Instagram: @drcamcaswell (275K+ parent community)

→ Podcast: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam - https://www.askdrcam.com/parenting-teens-podcast

→ Parenting Teens Academy (programs and courses for parents) - https://www.askdrcam.com/offers/4LbJPqXt/checkout

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (Albiona's 4-step process)

→ Dr. Will Dobadan's book Kids These Days

→ Dr. Lisa Miller's book The Awakened Brain

→ Kirk Martin (previous guest on The Parenting Reframe)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent in the trenches with a defiant teen, a mom who feels like she's losing her kid to attitude and shut-downs, or anyone who's been told their teenager is "just going through a phase" and needs real tools instead of empty reassurance.

Because the truth is: teens aren't the problem. Our outdated beliefs about what they need from us are. And when we shift how we see them, everything changes.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Inside, she explores:

→ The key difference: emotion regulation is top-down (cognitive, in your mind) while nervous system regulation is bottom-up (visceral, in your body)

→ Why nervous system regulation must come first—it's the power source that creates space for emotional regulation (the software) to work

→ Practical tools for regulating your nervous system in the moment: 4-6 count breathing, moving away from the trigger, grounding your feet, cold water on your hands, ice cubes

→ The PARR framework mapped to regulation: Pause and Acknowledge are nervous system work, Respond and Reflect are emotion regulation work

→ Why kids regulate faster when we stay steady—they need to see the boundary held consistently to feel safe, and our calm nervous system teaches theirs how to co-regulate

This episode is packed with actionable strategies, real examples, and the kind of clarity that makes you think, "Oh, THAT'S why nothing else was working."

Resources & Links:

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ The Bundle: Four most popular courses (Getting Your Kids to Listen the First Time, Tackling Tantrums Masterclass, How to Connect with Your Strong-Willed Kids, Managing Your Reactions) + brand new bonuses including scripts for emotional dysregulation - https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/albiona-the-bundle

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair)

→ The mantra: "I am safe and so are they"

→ Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://albiona.substack.com/

→ Email Albiona: [email protected]

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's struggling with reactivity, a mom who keeps losing it in the moment, or anyone who wants to understand why they can't seem to access the "right" parenting response when they need it most.

Because the truth is: you can't think your way out of a nervous system response. You have to regulate your body first—and then everything else becomes possible.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Inside, they explore:

→ The reframe that changes everything: defiance isn't bad, it's healthy—and spicy kids don't value approval, they value impact, autonomy, and authenticity

→ Why your own unhealed childhood wounds show up in how you parent (especially when your kid reminds you of a parent you struggled with)

→ The Love List: marinating in what's beautiful about your child so you can bring a softened, warm body to the hardest parenting moments

→ The Meltdown Manifesto: Mary's step-by-step guide to surviving tantrums without losing your calm (it's more about who you need to BE than what you need to DO)

→ Why repair is just as important as the apology—and how asking "What was that like for you?" creates healing intimacy that builds lifelong connection

This episode is full of practical scripts, real talk, and the kind of wisdom that only comes from being brought to your knees by a spicy kid—and choosing to heal yourself instead of trying to fix them.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Mary Van Geffen:

→ Book: Parenting a Spicy One - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/parentingaspicyonebook

→ Instagram: @maryvangeffen (Albiona mentioned loving her daily posts)

→ 8-Week Program: Moms of Spicy Ones - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/moso 

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld (the concept of "dancing your child to their tears")

→ Raising Lions by Joe Newman (featured in a previous episode of The Parenting Reframe)

→ The concept of ACE Score (Adverse Childhood Experiences)

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair)

→ Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent in the trenches with a spicy one, a mom who's been told her kid is "too much," or anyone ready to stop pathologizing their child's fire and start doing the inner work instead.

Because the truth is: these kids aren't broken. They're just wired differently. And when we heal ourselves, we get to delight in them exactly as they are.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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Inside, Albiona explores:

→ Why it's never the strangers we're afraid of—it's the people we know and love

→ The gremlins that told her she was "too old" for TikTok and "too much" for sharing her truth (and what happened when she did it anyway)

→ Why we'll always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven—and how to establish safety from within instead

→ How resistance and fear are actually pointing you toward your next breakthrough

→ The questions to ask yourself right now: Where am I hiding? Where am I playing small? Where am I choosing safety over truth?

Albiona also shares a powerful conversation with a business owner who froze at the idea of showing her face on social media, and the breakthrough moment that followed.

This episode isn't just for creators or entrepreneurs. It's for anyone who's ever felt the pull to try something new but stopped themselves because of what others might think. It's for the person who wants to write, speak, create, ask, or simply show up more fully—but keeps choosing safety over truth.

If you've been waiting for permission to do the thing that scares you, this is it.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with someone who's been playing small, hesitating to start something new, or waiting for the "right time" to be seen in their truth.

We're all learning to push past the fear, embrace the unknown, and step into the full magic of what we're capable of.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Inside, they explore:

→ The profound realization that stopped her body from conceiving: "I'm terrified to be a mother like my mother had been"

→ How following intuitive nudges (even when they don't make logical sense) changed the entire trajectory of her life

→ Why premarital coaching at 23 was the catalyst for decades of transformative personal growth

→ The sacred travel experience in Ireland that unlocked this truth: "You are a woman whether you have a child or not"

→ How our bodies hold stress and old stories—and what it takes to release them

→ The biggest code to dismantle: "To be a good mom means you put your children first, then your spouse, then work—and you're last"

→ Why there's no "one right way" to mother (and how liberating that truth can be)

→ What self-mothering actually looks like (hint: it doesn't always require money or time—it requires permission)

→ How generational wiring convinces us we don't deserve rest, help, or prioritizing ourselves

→ The travel soccer story: what one mom's "no" taught about triggers, choices, and rewriting family values

→ Why mothering is a process we can all cultivate—whether we're raising children, building businesses, or nurturing creative work

→ How the nervous system shapes the way we show up in relationships (and why regulating it matters)

→ The power of choosing yourself—even when it feels selfish, even when it's uncomfortable

Dr. Lyons also opens up about her own regret for "leaving herself out" during her daughters' teenage years, the doctoral work that led to her book, and why she now leads immersive retreats in Mexico and Ireland to help women flex their self-mothering muscles.

This conversation will make you pause, reflect, and breathe a little deeper. It's for anyone who's ever felt torn between caring for others and caring for themselves—and ready to rewrite the code.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Dr. Gertrude Lyons:

→ Website: www.drgertrudelyons.com

→ Instagram: @rewritethemothercode

→ Instagram: @drgertrudelyons

→ Linktree: https://linktr.ee/rewritethemothercode

→ Book: Decoding the Mother Code (available wherever books are sold, including audiobook)

→ TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NZ9ZF8JKIDY

→ Substack: Rewrite the Mother Code (https://gertrudelyons.substack.com/) 

→ Podcast: Rewrite the Mother Code (https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/podcast) 

→ Oprah Daily Article by Kristen McGinnis: https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/wholeness/a68888423/self-mothering-reparenting/

→ Complimentary 30-Minute Coaching Discovery Call (for listeners): https://calendly.com/drgertrudelyons/complimentary-free-coaching-session

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ Nicole Sachs's work on nervous system regulation and pain

→ Dr. Lyons's immersive experiences and retreats in Mexico and Ireland

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a mom who's struggling to prioritize herself, a woman who's questioning her choices, or anyone learning to mother themselves first.
 

We're all unlearning the codes we inherited and discovering what it means to truly care for ourselves—so we can show up whole for everything and everyone we love.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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Inside, they explore:

→ Why "first build a better box" before thinking outside of it—and how this applies to parenting, business, and creative work

→ The liberating power of "you can have whatever you want, provided you get it for yourself"

→ How Judith's mother gave her permission to be entrepreneurial from childhood (breeding guinea pigs, collecting junk, understanding "the power of the purse")

→ Why trusting your intuition is a skill you can develop—and how it's helped Judith make decisions for 30 years

→ The Kitchen Sink Story: How being baptized over a kitchen sink on a farm led to making Pope Francis laugh

→ What it means to be a "doula for stories"—and how publishing mirrors the parenting process

→ Why releasing attachment to outcome is essential (and how to celebrate milestones along the way)

→ The village it takes to publish a book—and raise a child

→ How to hold the tension between mystery and structure, passion and pragmatism

→ Why aunts and mentors matter more than we celebrate them

→ The physical nature of intuition: goosebumps, tingles, and the 39 senses we forget we have

Judith also shares the six questions every HarperOne editor must answer before acquiring a book, her approach to "publishing for the world we want to live in," and why she paints calming animal pictures for mental health on Instagram.

This episode is for you if you're nurturing any kind of creative work—whether that's raising children, building a business, writing a book, or bringing any passion project to life. It's about permission, intuition, structure, and the art of parenting what matters most into the world.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Judith: 

→ Instagram: @judithcurr (calming animal art + occasional publishing news) 

→ HarperOne: @harperonebooks 

→ HarperCollins: www.harpercollins.com

Mentioned in This Episode: 

→ Girls Write Now: www.girlswritenow.org (mentoring organization for young writers) 

→ Pope Francis's upcoming book: Peace Be With You (February 2026) 

→ The Source by Dr. Tara Swart 

→ The Secret by Rhonda Byrne 

→ The Gut by Julia Enders 

→ Breast Advice by Dr. Liza Port

Connect with Albiona: 

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching 

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe 

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with someone who's nurturing a creative project, raising kids, or learning to trust their intuition in business and life.

We're all learning how to parent what matters—with structure, with heart, and with the courage to let it become what it's meant to be.

Until next time, 

Albiona 🤎

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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Inside, Albiona explores:

→ Why "letting go isn't the hard part—it's staying" applies to both life changes and daily parenting moments

→ The four reaction types parents default to when boundaries get tested: punisher, adjuster, panicker, and avoider

→ Why we desperately seek agreement when we set boundaries (and why we don't actually need it)

→ How to stop over-explaining to your kids—and to yourself

→ What it looks like to parent yourself back home while parenting your children forward

→ Why discomfort doesn't mean unsafe, and how to ground yourself when everything feels shaky

She also gets honest about her own journey away from perfectionism and achievement, the spaciousness she's choosing in 2026, and why slowing down has become one of her most important practices.

This episode is for you if you've ever set a boundary and then immediately wanted to take it back. If you've felt the pull to adjust, explain, or rescue your child (or yourself) from discomfort. If you know what you need to do but struggle to stay there when things get hard.

Resources & Links:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call with Albiona (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who needs permission to hold their boundaries without needing everyone's approval first.

We're all learning how to stay—in our power, in our knowing, in the slowness—even when it feels uncomfortable.

Until next time,

The Parenting Reframe Team 🤎

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Inside, Albiona explores:

• Why kids (and adults) get stuck in "right vs. wrong" thinking
• What to say when your child spirals after a choice
• Why avoiding decisions won’t help build confidence
• Why “holding boundaries” isn’t the same as shutting kids down
• How we confuse calm with control—and what to do instead
• What it looks like to guide without rescuing

She also shares stories from her own classroom teaching days and real coaching conversations with parents—and gets honest about the discomfort that comes with letting our kids struggle a little (while we stay close).

Resources & Links:

• Book a Free Discovery Call with Albiona (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching 
  She’s accepting new clients in 2026 — book before Dec 31st to lock in 2025 pricing.
• Follow Albiona on Instagram - https://instagram.com/theparentingreframe
• Join Albiona on Substack for reflections on parenting, inner growth, and nervous system tools - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com/

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a friend who needs to hear: it’s okay not to have all the answers.

We’re all learning how to parent others—and ourselves—with more grace and less shame.

Until next time,

The Parenting Reframe Team 🤎

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From surviving 9/11 to launching multiple category-defining companies, Miki shares how one day shifted her relationship with life, purpose, and doing work that actually matters.

This conversation weaves through:

• What it means to create from soft power instead of hustle culture
• How nature is the ultimate parenting teacher
• Why modern parenthood needs a new paradigm—and how HERO Diapers is leading the charge
• What she teaches her son about resilience, creativity, and emotional strength
• The 3 key questions she asks before starting any new idea
• And how she's learned that true leadership means owning your humanness

Whether you're raising a child, launching a product, or reimagining how you move through the world… this one will stay with you.

Resources & Links:

• Follow Hero Diapers on Instagram - https://instagram.com/herodiapers
• Learn more about the Hero Diaper + “New Paradigm Parenting” movement - https://herodiapers.com/
• Get Miki’s books: Do Cool Sht and Disrupt-Her* - https://www.mikiagrawal.com/books
• Follow Miki on Instagram - https://instagram.com/mikiagrawal

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Book a free discovery call (https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching) to see if 1:1 coaching is your next best step.

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