The Pepetoe Podcast

2025 was the Year of the Snake, and if this year felt unbearably heavy, this episode will help it make sense.

In this episode, I talk about shedding. Not habits or goals, but identities. The versions of ourselves we’ve been carrying because they felt necessary, familiar, or safe, even when they no longer fit. I reflect on what it means to release what’s heavy and false, to sit in the discomfort of loss, and to trust that what remains is real.

This episode is a heavy one, but it is needed. I know so many people have struggled this year in ways they didn’t expect, and this conversation is about naming that struggle without romanticising it. About understanding why this year demanded so much of us, and why the exhaustion, grief, and confusion weren’t personal failures, they were part of the shedding.

We also look ahead to 2026, the Year of the Horse: a year of movement, momentum, and quiet confidence. A year where clarity returns, doors open, and we begin walking in a direction that finally feels like ours.

If 2025 stripped you back, this episode is here to remind you: it wasn’t for nothing. What fell away made room for what’s next 🤍

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I love you guys, and THANK you for being part of this wild, painful, but also exciting Pepetoe journey in 2025. I couldn't have made it to this day without EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU!

In this Pepetoe episode, we’re diving into something painfully human and way more common than we admit: the deep-rooted yearning to be liked.

I talk through my own experience of growing up as the “overachiever,” the person who built her entire sense of worth on grades, goals, and gold stars, and how that made the idea of someone disliking me feel like a personal catastrophe. From school drama to friendship fallouts, from rumours I still don’t have answers for to that sinking feeling of being left out of something everyone else seems to know… we’re unpacking all of it.

This episode explores why not being liked stings so much, the psychology behind belonging, and the messy truth about external validation. I also talk through the way criticism shapes our identity, how uncertainty fuels anxiety, and why we start believing what others say about us before we believe ourselves.

But more importantly, we get into the real heart of it: learning to exist without needing permission. Learning to be someone you actually believe in. Understanding that your character isn’t up for community vote, and your worth isn’t determined by who claps for you and who doesn’t.

If you’ve ever felt crushed by someone’s opinion, confused by friendship drift, or desperate to figure out what you “did wrong,” this episode is for you. It’s raw, it’s reflective, it’s very Pepetoe, and it’s a reminder that you don’t need to be universally liked to be deeply valuable.

Breakups are messy, emotional, and sometimes isolating. It’s easy to want to retreat, cancel plans, and sit with the sadness — and that’s valid. But it’s also important to remember: you’re allowed good days too.

In this episode, I talk about why continuing to socialise after a breakup matters for your mental health, your growth, and your sense of self. From leaning on friends to showing up for yourself even when it’s hard, I share personal experiences and reflections on how balance, connection, and small joys can help you heal.

This episode isn’t about pretending everything’s fine — it’s about navigating heartbreak honestly, giving yourself permission to feel, and remembering that healing comes in waves. Some days will suck, some days will surprise you, and both are part of the process.

In this episode, I’m talking about something I never thought I’d have to unpack publicly: what it feels like when someone you thought was your closest friend completely lets you down during the hardest moment of your life.

This isn’t about blaming or bashing anyone — it’s about sitting with the shock, the disappointment, and the realisation that the people you expect to hold you up sometimes disappear… or worse, talk about you instead of talking to you. I’m sharing the emotional side of friendship fallout: the awkwardness, the distance, the rumours, the assumptions, and the heartbreak of realising someone who should have been your safe place wasn’t there at all.

We’re getting into boundaries, honesty, feeling alone, why some friendships don’t survive certain seasons, and how to protect your peace when people’s silence hurts more than the original situation ever did.

If you’ve ever felt let down or blindsided by someone you loved like a sister — this episode is for you ❤️

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This episode is about owning your mistakes – the kind that hurt people, cost you relationships, and left you questioning who you are – and still choosing to heal anyway.

I talk about what it really means to sit with regret, take accountability, and still allow yourself moments of joy. Healing on your own isn’t about pretending you didn’t mess up; it’s about forgiving yourself enough to grow from it.

Because you can hold guilt and grace at the same time. You can be the person who hurt someone and the person learning to be better.

If you’ve ever felt like your mistakes define you, this one’s for you 🤍

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Today I'm sharing a big update with you all on my recovery journey. A full circle moment. Going back to the hobbies I used to enjoy, the passions that used to excite me, before my ED took over. I'm learning that I can go back to those things, because my eating disorder doesn't get to take that away from me anymore. From playing hockey again, to writing, to dancing in the landing. Those things I couldn't do for so long because I couldn't. An eating disorder takes away not only your health or freedom to eat what you want, but also your sparkle, your passions, your creativty – your hobbies. I'm doing this not only for the person I am now, but for that girl who couldn't for so many years, and for the girl before who had those joys ripped away from her so suddenly.

This is your sign to reclaim your life. Take back what's yours. Forgive yourself for allowing that ED to take over (because it's not your fault). Start living life again for YOU.

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It's been a MONTH since I last chatted to you guys... and a lot has been happening. Some highs, and some lows, but all in all we're getting there! Here's a little "updates" podcast, explaining to you guys what's been going on in my life, from my recovery journey and getting the help I need, to spending more time with family and friends, and looking forward to the annual "September refresh" (which I'm sorry I'm starting it now... I NEED autumn to come sooner, as I am currently sat here sweating my ass off in a matching trackies set because I want the autumn air and cosy season nowww!!)

As always hit me up on my social if you want a chat or to recommend me some episode ideas!

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In this episode, I’m diving into the messy, uncomfortable, but necessary topic of accountability. I talk about why it’s so hard for some of us to own up to our mistakes—especially when shame, fear, or ego gets in the way—and why real growth only happens when we stop deflecting and start getting honest with ourselves.

I also explore what it looks like when someone else messes up—maybe a partner, a friend, a family member—and you're the one left hurt. Do you shut down? Do you help them through it? And what happens when you start feeling responsible for their actions, too?

This is a vulnerable, real conversation about self-responsibility, emotional maturity, and letting go of accountability that doesn’t belong to you. Whether you struggle to say “I was wrong,” or you’re tired of carrying the emotional weight for others, this episode is for you.

Let’s talk about how to own our part—and leave the rest.

In this episode, I’m sitting down to talk about two things that have followed me for years: the pressure to “glow up” every summer and the toxic side of hustle culture that nearly burned me out in my early career.

As I start a brand new job in a brand new city, I’m choosing something radical – a new mindset. One that doesn’t revolve around self-critique, reinvention, or chasing someone else’s idea of success. I’m done trying to look different, act different, or work myself into the ground just to feel worthy.

From toxic routines disguised as “wellness” to jobs that expected me to give everything and still feel like it wasn’t enough — I’m unlearning it all. In this episode, we unpack how social media sells us the lie that we need to transform constantly, and how work isn’t your identity, no matter how much hustle culture says it is.

Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by summer body pressure, entering a new season of life, or just trying to figure out who you are without the noise — this one’s for you. You don’t need to glow up. You don’t need to prove anything. You just need to be.

🧠 Come for the honesty. Stay for the permission to slow down.

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In this episode, I’m catching you up on life lately — the highs, the scary bits, and everything in between. I’ve officially left my job (!!) and for the first time in forever, I’ve given myself permission to just be. A whole month off work to chill, reset, and figure out what I actually enjoy doing when I’m not stuck in grind mode.

We talk about what it’s like to let go of structure, explore spontaneity, and unlearn the pressure to "recover perfectly" now that I finally have the time. Spoiler: recovery isn’t a productivity project, and rest isn’t something you have to earn. I also share how I’ve been swapping workouts for joy-based movement, trying new sports, and shifting the way I relate to rest and purpose.

If you’ve ever felt scared to slow down or unsure of who you are without your routine, this one’s for you.

🎧 Come for the life updates, stay for the honesty.